Beyond The Mask Trauma and Wellness

11/22/2025

Sis, healing from marriage trauma isn’t a path you have to walk alone. I see so many Christian wives unintentionally making these 7 mistakes:

burying pain
blaming themselves
skipping boundaries
praying without seeking practical support
staying silent,
ignoring self-care
isolating from community.

Faith-based therapy bridges the gap: honoring your prayers AND using proven strategies that break cycles of shame, fear, and rejection. Real restoration means inviting God into the healing process AND doing the work with wise support.

God’s plan is for you to thrive in your marriage and in yourself.

Have you noticed these patterns in your healing journey?

Let’s talk about how faith, support, and sisterhood can change everything.

Share your experience or a word of encouragement below! 💜

11/22/2025

Sis, grief doesn’t just come when someone dies. It comes when life shifts.

Let me say this gently but boldly: some of you are grieving things you’ve never given yourself permission to name.

Unspoken grief? It sits in your body. It hides in your mood. It leaks out in your relationships. Grief is not weakness. It’s a human response to loss, and loss has many faces: disappointment, heartbreak, betrayal, dreams delayed, identity changes, seasons shifting.

On December 13th, I’m holding space for you. A space where faith meets emotional honesty. A space where you don’t have to pretend you’re “okay.” A space to breathe. To acknowledge. To release.

Sis, you don’t have to carry this alone. Not anymore.

Come sit in this sacred space with me. Reserve your seat for From Grief to Relief: The Changing Landscape of Life brunch.

https://fromgrieftorelief.sharhondaford.com/sharhonda-ford

09/30/2025

I can’t even tell you how heavy those 190 days of pain felt. 💔

Now, every step I take – though small – is a battle won, a declaration that I refuse to stay broken, stuck, or silent.

I’m still healing, but I’m walking. And every step? Sacred. Every step? A quiet victory that whispers, I am still here. I am still believing. I am still rising. ✨

If you’ve been waiting for hope to move again, this blog will remind you that even the tiniest step can change everything 👉 https://open.substack.com/pub/sharhondaford/p/guess-what?utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web

09/27/2025

Some walks aren’t just about steps, they’re about surrender. 💛

I’ve spent months in pain, feeling stuck, and wondering if I’d ever move forward again. And yet, with each step, I’m saying yes: to healing, to trust, to God’s timing, and to the life I’ve been promised.

Every small step is a victory. Every tear is testimony. And every moment of obedience, even when it hurts, is powerful. ✨

If you’ve been waiting for permission to move forward, even slowly, this blog will encourage your heart to start walking again 👉 https://open.substack.com/pub/sharhondaford/p/guess-what?utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web

09/23/2025

In this blog, I discuss my first step toward healing after 180 days of being unable to walk (many days) unassisted and chronic pain. In upcoming blogs, I will follow-up with how physical health impacts mental health, relationships, job performance, parenting and more.

My most important takeaway, even the days that I wanted to give up, I didn't!

I FINALLY DID IT!

09/09/2025

Sis, read that again and breathe. 💭 What looks like “laziness” or “flakiness” on the outside is often just the weight of fear, old wounds, and unhealed stories we’re still carrying.

You’re not broken, you’re battling. And the fact that you’re still showing up, even imperfectly, is proof of your strength. 💪🏾✨

If this hit a little too close to home, I promise you’re not alone. This week’s blog unpacks it all 👉 https://sharhondaford.substack.com/p/breaking-up-with-self-sabotage

09/06/2025

Sis, fear will always have something to say. It’ll tell you you’re not ready, you’re not enough, or you’ll mess it all up.

But faith? Faith reminds you that if God placed the vision in your hands, He’s already given you the grace to carry it. 🙌🏾

This week, I’m learning how to stop bowing to sabotage and start speaking life out loud. Not because I have it all together, but because I refuse to let fear have the final word. ✨

If you’ve been shrinking back from the very thing you prayed for, this blog is for you 👉 https://sharhondaford.substack.com/p/breaking-up-with-self-sabotage

09/02/2025

Sis, I’ve been there: talking myself out of good things because deep down I was scared they wouldn’t last. 💔

Afraid to trust love, to believe I was ready, or to step into the life God was calling me to.

These affirmations? They’re not just words on a screen. They’re a lifeline when your own thoughts try to pull you under. Some days they feel true, other days I whisper them through tears. But I keep saying them because I refuse to keep standing in my own way. 💪

If you’ve ever caught yourself blocking your own blessings too, you’ll want to read this week’s blog. It’s honest, it’s raw, and it might just be the reminder you need 👉 https://substack.com/home/post/p-171072618

08/30/2025

It’s FINALLY coming! Don’t miss the launch!

The Good Wife equips Christian wives with faith-based tools, coaching, and community to build stronger, Christ-centered marriages.

08/30/2025

Sometimes it’s not the enemy, the ex, or your past getting in the way.

Sometimes…it’s us.

Self-sabotage doesn’t always look like laziness or bad choices. Sometimes it’s fear wrapped in perfectionism. Or shame dressed up as “I’ll start tomorrow.” It’s that quiet voice that convinces you to stay small, stay stuck, or end something good before it even begins.

But here’s the truth: self-sabotage is learned and that means it can be unlearned. 🙌

If you’ve ever caught yourself procrastinating, downplaying your worth, or saying “yes” when your heart screamed “no,” this one’s for you.

Read the full blog here 👉 https://substack.com/home/post/p-171072618

08/26/2025

Isn’t it funny how we spend so much of adulthood trying to figure ourselves out, only to realize we’re just making our way back to who we were as kids?

If you could bring back one thing you loved or believed in as a kid, what would it be?

08/23/2025

Saying “yes” when you’re already stretched thin…
Staying up late to finish someone else’s work…
Pushing through even when your body and mind are begging for rest…

Sound familiar?

That’s how we end up running on empty and wondering why we’re so worn out. Knowing your limits and actually honoring them isn’t selfish, it’s smart. You can’t really show up for anyone if you’re falling apart.

Take care of you first, you need you more. ❤️

What’s one boundary you’re learning to protect right now?