
01/17/2025
As a trauma therapist working with people of color, I know how important it is to challenge the misconceptions that can keep us from practicing self-validation. Let’s break down some common myths and uncover the truth behind this powerful tool for healing:
🔹 Myth 1: Self-validation is selfish or indulgent.
Truth: Self-validation isn’t about making excuses or letting yourself off the hook. It’s about recognizing your emotions so you can release shame and take proactive, responsible actions. Especially in communities of color, validating our own experiences helps us reclaim power. ✊🏾✨
🔹 Myth 2: Self-validation means agreeing with everything you think or feel.
Truth: Acknowledging your emotions doesn’t mean everything you think is true. “I feel unworthy” might be the emotion, but it’s not the truth about who you are. Recognizing and supporting your feelings can help you navigate the layers of trauma and societal pressure. 💬❤️
🔹 Myth 3: Focusing on emotions makes things worse.
Truth: Ignoring or suppressing feelings only intensifies them. As a trauma therapist, I’ve seen how validating emotions, especially within communities of color, creates space for healing and allows these emotions to move through without overwhelming us. 🌿
🔹 Myth 4: Needing validation is a weakness.
Truth: Practicing self-validation is a sign of strength, not weakness. It builds emotional resilience and helps us stand tall, while also leaving room for connection and solidarity with others—something we need now more than ever. 💪🏽🤝🏾
Want to learn more about the importance of validation in the healing process? Check out my full blog article where I dive deeper into why self-validation matters for trauma recovery: 🔗 in bio or at www.collabintherapy.com/blog