07/04/2025
On this Independence Day, we want to take a moment to share a new blog post that’s close to our hearts: The Myth of the Independent Woman (And Why She’s So Tired).
We hear this story from a lot of clients, and let’s be honest: we struggle with it, too. You know the drill – someone praises you for “handling everything alone,” like it’s a medal of honor. Maybe it’s your job, your relationships, your mental health, or just life’s endless demands. Everyone admires the “strong woman” who doesn’t need help, who carries her own weight without complaint. But beneath that applause, there’s a quiet, exhausting truth: it’s really lonely existing that way.
Because here’s what no one tells you: independence didn’t always mean freedom.
If you’ve ever felt tired from “doing it all,” maybe it’s time to ask:
Who do I want to show up for me?
How can I learn to accept love from others?
Because you don’t have to do it alone. In fact, you were never meant to.
There are real, legitimate reasons for the exhaustion so many of us feel. But that doesn’t mean we have to stay there. In therapy, we often talk about breaking down the idea that needing others is weakness. Especially for women socialized to be self-sufficient at all costs, needing people can feel like failure. But the reality is: that couldn’t be farther from the truth. Interdependence, vulnerability, and self-compassion are signs of incredible strength, and they’re available for you.
Head on over to the ChangeWell blog at changewellpsych.com/blog or via the link in our bio to keep reading about how change is available for you ✨
