05/04/2026
Maycember, Mental Load, and What We Don’t Say
May is full—school events, deadlines, travel, all of it.
Does this sound familiar?
You notice everything that needs to get done…but don’t say it out loud.
You hope your partner will step in.
When they don’t, frustration builds.
The truth? Even great partners aren’t mind readers.
3 Small Shifts to Try This Week:
1. Say the quiet part out loud (and gently).
“I’m feeling overwhelmed keeping track of all the things happening this month. Can we look at it together?”
2. Be specific, not global.
Instead of “I do EVERYTHING!” try
“Can you please take the lead on the school events this week?”
3. Aim for pitching in together, not perfection.
The goal isn’t to get it exactly right or 50/50—it’s feeling like you’re in it together. It doesn’t have to be perfect, just a start.
Teamwork is the Goal
Do you identify with this? You really want to help, but don’t know exactly what to do…you may have heard your partner say they don’t want to keep reminding or when you ask, you risk your partner getting frustrated.
So what do you do? Here are a few ideas to get you started:
📅 Check the shared calendar (if you don't have one shared, suggest that you make one so you can proactively look and know what is happening for the week, reducing the amount of "What's next?")
🛒 Pick something up at the store that you regularly need or run out of (Hint: 🍌) and say, "I'm running to the store, is there anything I can grab for you while I'm there or do you have a list you can share?"
👋 Notice your partner's stress and say, “I can see you are doing a lot. I'd like to help.”
If talking about this feels harder than it should—or turns into frustration—we can help you get on the same page and move through this season as a team. Contact us (https://connectcouplestherapy.com/contact/) .
Quick Reads
Our blog has been written by our team to increase relationship satisfaction and mental health:
- Cultural Misalignment in Relationships: When conflict is actually culture (https://connectcouplestherapy.com/cultural-misalignment-in-relationships-when-conflict-is-actually-culture/)
- When Scrolling Makes You Spiral: Relationship OCD and social media (https://connectcouplestherapy.com/when-scrolling-makes-you-spiral-relationship-ocd-and-social-media/)
- How to Help Your Partner Understand and Take on Some of Your Mental Load (https://insessionpsych.com/how-to-help-your-partner-understand-and-take-on-some-of-your-mental-load/)
Hold Me Tight®
2-Day Couples Workshop
Our next Hold Me Tight® Couples Workshop will be In-Person at our Charlotte, NC office on June 19 & 20, 2026.
Led by Dr. Karen Naegel (https://connectcouplestherapy.com/karen-naegel-lmfta/) , LMFT and Certified EFCT Therapist
You and your partner will explore the power of attachment bonds and gain a deeper understanding of your relationship. You will enhance your emotional connection through effective communication, becoming more aware of your negative couple cycle, and build a stronger emotional foundation.
Couples in Recovery - Virtual
Recovery doesn’t end with sobriety; it often brings relationship patterns into sharper focus. We’re offering a Relationships in Recovery workshop designed for couples where one or both partners are at least 6 months post-treatment.
This workshop is ideal for couples who are working their sobriety but noticing that trust, communication, or old dynamics still need care and attention. In a small, supportive setting, couples will learn practical, research-based tools to strengthen connection, navigate conflict more effectively, and support both recovery and the relationship moving forward.
Next Date:
📅 Saturday, June 13 | 12–6pm
Led by Brittany Bolden (https://connectcouplestherapy.com/brittany-bolden-pcd/) , LMFT, LCAS, Certified S*x Therapist, who brings specialized expertise in addiction recovery, relational healing, and intimacy - making this workshop especially well-suited for couples rebuilding their relationship after treatment.
Virtual Book Club for Couples
2 spots remain
Why couples should join this group:
⭐️Mentorship in real time: Learn what’s working for other couples from other couples.
⭐️Accountability that sticks: Life gets busy; this gives you a protected space to follow through.
⭐️Not therapy, but led by a trained clinician.
Next cohort details:
📚: Fair Play by Eve Rodsky (https://www.everodsky.com/fair-play)
🗓️: Thursdays, May 7, 14, 21, and 28, 2026
🕰️: 6:00–7:30pm EDT (virtual)
💵: $25 per session = $100 total investment (plus, the cost of the book)
Facilitator: Rachel Kloss (https://connectcouplestherapy.com/rachel-kloss/) , LCSWA
Virtual Women's Betrayal Group
Break out of isolation and loneliness and join other women who can offer you support around all the feelings and devastation betrayal has had in your life. Learn, lean, and share together! Led by Anna Malles, LCSW (https://insessionpsych.com/anna-malles-lcsw/) , this supportive group helps women navigate the complexities of infidelity, process emotions, rebuild trust, and create bonds that will help you get through one day to the next.
Read our blog posts on how powerful this group can be:
✨ Healing from Infidelity? Find Your Power in a Support Group (https://insessionpsych.com/healing-from-infidelity-find-your-power-in-a-support-group/)
✨ Does Life Get Better After an Affair? (https://insessionpsych.com/healing-after-infidelity-does-life-get-better-after-an-affair/)
Who is this for?
Designed for female betrayed partners
When?
Every 3rd Tuesday of the month
Next one: May 19, 2026
Where?
Virtual via Zoom - you can log in from anywhere with a secure and confidential location
Cost?
$30
*If you are interested, contact us today to schedule your free 20-min consult with Anna.
Our licensed therapists offer M-Sat, daytime and evening availability. Anna Malles, LCSW is offering individual therapy through In Session Psych (https://insessionpsych.com) .
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