09/04/2025
You Don’t Have to Carry the Mental Load Alone
🍎 September brings fresh starts—and sometimes a heavy weight. With school back in session and schedules filling up, it’s easy to feel like you’re silently carrying every detail in your head. The truth is, holding it all in rarely works—partners can’t read minds, and when the load stays invisible, it often stays yours alone...and resentment follows.
A better approach? Make the mental load visible and shared. When you and your partner see it as a problem you face together, it strengthens your connection instead of leaving you isolated. You are a team supporting each other.
Here are three ways to get started:
1️⃣ Make the invisible visible. Start talking about the stress using a softened start-up (https://connectcouplestherapy.com/how-a-soft-start-up-can-cool-down-your-heated-argument/) approach. Next, write down family responsibilities on a shared calendar or list. It shifts the weight from “your job” to our responsibilities.
2️⃣ Create a check-in ritual. A short weekly check-in (https://connectcouplestherapy.com/check-in-with-your-spouse-with-this-super-easy-framework/) turns stress into teamwork. It’s not about blame—it’s about staying connected while managing the details together.
3️⃣ Start small. Look at the list of responsibilities and take on one task or let go of one task this next week. Share the load differently and see how that feels this next week. Small shifts open the door to bigger collaboration.
✨ Want more ideas? Read our popular blog post: How to Help Your Partner Understand and Take on Some of Your Mental Load (https://insessionpsych.com/how-to-help-your-partner-understand-and-take-on-some-of-your-mental-load/)
If sharing the mental load feels harder than it should, you don’t have to figure it out alone. We can help. Our therapists specialize in guiding these conversations so you and your partner can find balance—and feel more like a team. Contact us (https://connectcouplestherapy.com/contact/) and let's get started.
💡 Have you seen our FREE Resource Pages?
We’re excited about our two new resource pages—designed to support you between sessions and beyond. Each page includes free worksheets and short videos created by our team to help guide reflection, strengthen relationships, and spark meaningful conversations.
❤️ For Couples:
Explore tools to deepen connection, improve communication, and grow together.
📎 Connect Couples Therapy Resource Page (https://connectcouplestherapy.com/resources/)
🧠 For Individual Work:
Find resources for navigating betrayal, exploring relational patterns, or reflecting after early dating experiences.
📎 In Session Psych Resource Page (https://insessionpsych.com/resources/)
Quick Reads
Our blog has been written by our team to increase relationship satisfaction and mental health:
- How to Tell If You’re Being Defensive in Your Relationship (And What to Do About It) (https://connectcouplestherapy.com/how-to-tell-if-youre-being-defensive-in-your-relationship-and-what-to-do-about-it/)
- From Caretaking to Partnership: Preventing Burnout in ADHD Marriages (https://connectcouplestherapy.com/from-caretaking-to-partnership-preventing-burnout-in-adhd-marriages/)
- 4 Top-Rated Resources That Support Alcohol Sobriety (https://connectcouplestherapy.com/4-top-rated-resources-that-support-alcohol-sobriety/)
1-Day In-Person Workshop
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work
Our Seven Principles Workshop (https://connectcouplestherapy.com/the-seven-principles-marriage/) will be In-Person at our Charlotte, NC office on Friday, September 26, 2025.
Led by Brittany Bolden (https://connectcouplestherapy.com/brittany-bolden-pcd/) , LMFT, LCAS, and Certified S*x Therapist.
You and your partner will gain practical tools to strengthen respect, affection, and emotional closeness in your relationship. Using Drs. John and Julie Gottman's 7 Principles, you will deepen your understanding of each other’s inner world, improve communication skills for navigating conflict, and learn strategies to overcome common relationship roadblocks. You will also develop healthy approaches to managing differences, fostering a strong foundation for long-term happiness and connection.
*Limited to 3 couples
Deepen Your Bond
Join our 2-Day Couples Workshop
Our next Hold Me Tight® Couples Workshop (https://connectcouplestherapy.com/hold-me-tight-workshop/) will be In-Person at our Charlotte, NC office on October 3 & 4, 2025.
Led by Karen Naegel (https://connectcouplestherapy.com/karen-naegel-lmfta/) , LMFT and Certified EFCT Therapist
You and your partner will explore the power of attachment bonds and gain a deeper understanding of your relationship. You will enhance your emotional connection through effective communication, becoming more aware of your negative couple cycle, and build a stronger emotional foundation.
*Limited to 3 couples
Enhance Intimacy
1-Day Couples Workshop
Ready to reignite the spark in your relationship? Join us for a powerful 1-day workshop designed to help couples enhance intimacy and strengthen their bond. In this small, supportive setting, you'll gain valuable tools for more meaningful, passionate, and lasting connection.
Workshop Highlights:
✔️ Deepen Emotional and Physical Intimacy
Discover how emotional closeness enhances physical connection.
✔️ Communicate Desires and Boundaries
Safely share desires and set boundaries to build trust.
✔️ Reignite Passion & Create Connection Rituals
Learn strategies and create rituals to keep the spark alive.
Date: September 12, 2025 from 9:00 AM - 5:00 PM EDT
Cost: $575 per couple
Location: Charlotte office
*Limited to 3 couples - 2 spots remaining
Virtual Women's Betrayal Group
Break out of isolation and loneliness and join other women who can offer you support around all the feelings and devastation betrayal has had in your life. Learn, lean, and share together! Led by Anna Malles, LCSW (https://insessionpsych.com/anna-malles-lcsw/) , this supportive group helps women navigate the complexities of infidelity, process emotions, rebuild trust, and create bonds that will help you get through one day to the next.
Read our blog posts on how powerful this group can be:
✨ Healing from Infidelity? Find Your Power in a Support Group (https://insessionpsych.com/healing-from-infidelity-find-your-power-in-a-support-group/)
✨ Does Life Get Better After an Affair? (https://insessionpsych.com/healing-after-infidelity-does-life-get-better-after-an-affair/)
Who is this for?
Designed for female betrayed partners
When?
Every 3rd Tuesday of the month
Next one: September 16, 2025
Where?
Virtual via Zoom - you can log in from anywhere with a secure and confidential location
Cost?
$30
*If you are interested, contact us today to schedule your free 20-min consult with Anna.
Our licensed therapists offer M-Sat, daytime and evening availability. Anna Malles, LCSW and Kalyn Daniels, LCSW are offering individual therapy through In Session Psych (https://insessionpsych.com) .
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