Breta M. Collins, MA, LMFT

09/22/2025

Relational Life Therapy (RLT) isn’t just about fixing relationships, it’s about transforming them.

Created by , RLT helps people break unhealthy patterns, take accountability, practice empathy and build deeper, more authentic connections to self and with others.

It’s real talk for real change that helps you LIVE and LOVE BETTER. 🩷

09/17/2025

There are a few spots left for this awesome weekend intensive! It’s like 7-10 months of therapy in two days. It is great for couples, individuals and therapists!

Contact me for more info or to register!

There is never a better time to invest in relational living than now. 🩷

09/09/2025

🧠💔 Modern Love Is Struggling — But It Doesn’t Have To

More and more, I’m seeing this dynamic in my practice:

👉 Women feeling dissatisfied — emotionally unseen, unheard, or stretched too thin.
👉 Men feeling frustrated — unsure how to connect, express, or lead without being misunderstood.
👉 And both partners quietly growing resentful… and losing hope.

This isn’t about blame.
It’s about disconnection. Miscommunication. Unmet needs. Wounded expectations.
And the weight of modern life pulling couples apart instead of drawing them together.

But here’s the truth: It’s fixable.

When two people are willing to show up — honestly, vulnerably, imperfectly — healing becomes possible.
Clarity comes.
Connection returns.
Resentment softens into understanding.
And hope? It comes back, too.

If this resonates, you’re not alone.
And you don’t have to figure it out alone either. 🤍

09/04/2025

In relationships, some people “show” well — they look good on the surface, present themselves confidently, and can talk the talk. But when conflict hits, the shine fades fast.

Others are “growers” — they may not dazzle at first glance, but they’re willing to learn, to stretch, to take accountability, and to keep showing up with humility.

Relational Life Therapy (RLT) reminds us: lasting love isn’t about how good you look showing off… it’s about how brave you are when it’s time to grow up. 🌿

So, which are you in your relationship — a grower or a shower?

09/01/2025

Ever feel like your relationships are stuck in the same painful cycles—conflict, withdrawal, blame, frustration? 😞

You’re not alone. These patterns can leave us feeling powerless and disconnected, repeating old wounds without even realizing it.

The RLT Bootcamp offers a different path. 💡 Through hands-on, practical skills, you’ll learn how to:
Recognize and interrupt destructive cycles 🔄
Communicate with clarity and compassion 🗣️
Build authentic connection and trust ❤️

It’s not about blame—it’s about transformation. Take the first step toward breaking old patterns and creating relationships that feel alive, balanced, and deeply connected.

✨ Transform the cycle. Transform the connection.

08/22/2025

🛑 Stop outsourcing your value based on others approval!

✨ Do it from love, not for love. ✨

When you give from love, it’s free and genuine.
When you give for love, it’s tangled with fear and expectation.

Choose the one that leaves you feeling grounded, not drained. 💛

08/21/2025

At first glance, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and Relational Life Therapy (RLT) may look different—but they share a powerful core truth:
👉 Relationships don’t heal through blame. They heal through connection and accountability.

✨ EFT helps us move past reactivity and drop into our deeper attachment longings and primary emotions and needs.
✨ RLT helps us own our defenses, recognize our childhood adaptive strategies, take responsibility, and choose repair over protection.

Together, both approaches remind us:
💬 Real intimacy happens when we risk vulnerability and commit to growth. And that our real security comes in connection with self and others 🩷

08/17/2025

Just like that, the nest is empty. 🕊️

This weekend we dropped our youngest off at college, and my heart is holding so many things at once—pride, grief, excitement, and a little disorientation.

In Relational Life Therapy, we honor transitions like this as threshold moments—times when our roles and relationships shift, and we’re asked to grow with them. For years, my identity has been ‘mom with kids at home.’ Now, that role evolves. Parenting doesn’t end—it transforms.

This season reminds me that relationships are never static. My daughter and I will learn new ways of staying connected (hello Snapchat!), and I will learn new ways of showing up for myself (team mahjong).

To my fellow empty nesters: it’s okay to feel all of it. The loss, the joy, the space, the possibility. Transitions are not the end—they’re an invitation. 💛🖤

08/16/2025

Join us!

🧠💬 Ready to Break Old Patterns and Transform Your Relationship?

Join us in Charlotte, NC for a powerful RLT Couples Bootcamp the weekend of October 18–19, 2025.

This isn’t just another couples workshop. This is Relational Life Therapy - the life-changing method developed by that helps couples:

💥 Break toxic cycles
❤️ Rebuild deep emotional connection
🛠️ Learn real tools for repair
🔄 Shift from blame to mutual responsibility

Whether you’re feeling disconnected, stuck in recurring conflict, or simply want to level up your relationship — this weekend will move the needle.

This is also an excellent way for therapists to learn the model in an experiential way! Individuals are welcome! Being relational isn’t just for people who are in a committed relationship. 🩷

🎟️ Limited spots available to ensure intimate, high-impact support
📍 In-person in beautiful Charlotte, NC
🗓️ October 18–19, 2025

✨ Come as you are. Leave with tools, healing, and a renewed sense of “we.”

DM to register or learn more! Or go to the link in bio.

You can learn to LIVE and LOVE better!

08/08/2025

From Manager to Consultant: The Relational Shift in Parenting College-Aged Kids

When a child leaves for college, the parenting role undergoes a quiet but profound transition.

For years, parents function as managers- organizing, guiding, reminding, correcting. We’re used to being in the driver’s seat. But as our kids enter young adulthood, they no longer need managers. They need consultants.

People who offer wisdom rather than direction.
Support instead of control.
Respectful presence over persistent oversight.

From a Relational Life Therapy (RLT) lens, this is a powerful shift: A movement from hierarchy to mutuality- a redefinition of authority based on trust and relational integrity.

It’s not always easy. The transition can bring up grief, uncertainty, pride, and even identity loss for parents.

But it also offers something new: A more honest, respectful, and resilient relationship with the adult your child is becoming.

You’re not letting go.
You’re learning how to hold differently.
This is meaningful, relational work.

08/06/2025

🧠💬 Ready to Break Old Patterns and Transform Your Relationship?

Join us in Charlotte, NC for a powerful RLT Couples Bootcamp the weekend of October 18–19, 2025.

This isn’t just another couples workshop. This is Relational Life Therapy - the life-changing method developed by that helps couples:

💥 Break toxic cycles
❤️ Rebuild deep emotional connection
🛠️ Learn real tools for repair
🔄 Shift from blame to mutual responsibility

Whether you’re feeling disconnected, stuck in recurring conflict, or simply want to level up your relationship — this weekend will move the needle.

This is also an excellent way for therapists to learn the model in an experiential way! Individuals are welcome! Being relational isn’t just for people who are in a committed relationship. 🩷

🎟️ Limited spots available to ensure intimate, high-impact support
📍 In-person in beautiful Charlotte, NC
🗓️ October 18–19, 2025

✨ Come as you are. Leave with tools, healing, and a renewed sense of “we.”

DM to register or learn more! Or go to the link in bio.

You can learn to LIVE and LOVE better!

05/28/2025

Being understood is one of the deepest forms of healing. ❤️‍🩹

It’s not always advice we need.
Not fixing. Not solutions.

Just someone who says:
“I see you. That makes sense. I’m here.”

When our pain is met with empathy instead of judgment, something softens.
The nervous system settles.
Shame loosens its grip.
We remember we’re not alone.

Understanding doesn’t solve everything —
but it makes healing possible.