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05/29/2026

Part 3 of our Relationship Power Struggles series with Dr. Bev & Dr. Tom Rodgers.

Many of the fears that show up in our relationships are learned fears. They often begin in earlier relationships, experiences, or environments and continue to influence how we see ourselves and others.

A helpful starting point is asking:

• Where did I learn this fear?
• Who or what taught it to me?
• What message has it taught me about myself?
• Is that message actually true?

When we begin challenging fear with truth, healing becomes possible.

Follow along for Part 4 of the series.

05/27/2026

Part 2 of our Relationship Power Struggles series with Dr. Bev & Dr. Tom Rodgers.

Many relationship conflicts are not just about the disagreement itself. Underneath the anger, defensiveness, or control is often fear:

• Fear of abandonment
• Fear of rejection
• Fear of inadequacy
• Fear of failure
• Fear of not being enough

When deeper emotional wounds are triggered, couples often react from pain instead of security and connection.

Understanding the fear underneath the reaction is often one of the first steps toward healing and healthier communication.

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We’re excited to highlight Tonya Barrett at Rodgers Christian Counseling!Tonya is now accepting new clients and works wi...
05/21/2026

We’re excited to highlight Tonya Barrett at Rodgers Christian Counseling!

Tonya is now accepting new clients and works with individuals, couples, and families. She brings a compassionate, Christ-centered approach to counseling, along with clinical training and more than 30 years of real-world care experience.

Before becoming a counselor, Tonya served as a Community Home Health Nurse and in her local church communities. Her background gives her a deep understanding of whole-person care, family dynamics, stress, suffering, grief, life transitions, and the importance of creating a safe space for healing.

Tonya’s areas of focus include anxiety, depression, trauma, grief, relational issues, couples and family concerns, spiritual formation, life transitions, and more. She also has training in Adult Mental Health First Aid, Psychological First Aid, Interpersonal and Social Rhythm Therapy, and SYMBIS premarital counseling.

If you or someone you know is looking for a counselor who offers clinical insight, spiritual sensitivity, and a calm, compassionate presence, Tonya may be a wonderful fit.

To schedule with Tonya, call or text (585) 317-5237 or visit www.rodgerscc.com

05/19/2026

Dr. Bev and Dr. Tom Rodgers, founders of Rodgers Christian Counseling, have spent years helping couples understand the deeper patterns beneath conflict.

In this reel, they explain how power struggles in marriage are often fueled by fear, assumptions, and projection.

When fear takes over, we may assume the worst about our spouse’s motives and react to what we think they mean instead of what they actually said.

A healthier way forward begins with ownership.

Ask yourself:
“What fear is being triggered in me?”
“What am I assuming?”
“Am I communicating clearly, or projecting my fear?”

Healthy communication begins when we stop assuming and start taking responsibility for what is happening inside of us.

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05/15/2026

Are you dating out of love or loneliness?

Cuffing season may be tied to colder months, but the pressure to find someone is not seasonal.

Summer can bring its own kind of relationship pressure — weddings, vacations, beach trips, family gatherings, social events, and seeing everyone else post their “couple moments.”

It can make you wonder:
“Should I be with someone by now?”
“Am I falling behind?”
“Would this season feel better if I had a person?”

Wanting love is normal. Wanting companionship is normal. But dating from loneliness can make it easier to rush, settle, ignore red flags, or attach to someone who is not actually healthy for you.

Before you choose someone, ask yourself:

Am I drawn to this person because this connection is wise and healthy?
Or am I trying to avoid feeling alone?

A healthy relationship starts with a healthier you.

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05/13/2026

Who repairs first after a fight?

Every marriage has conflict. The difference is not whether a couple disagrees. The difference is whether they know how to repair.

Repair is the moment one or both spouses turn back toward the relationship instead of staying in blame, defensiveness, distance, or anger.

It may sound like:

“I’m sorry.”
“Let’s talk.”
“I want to understand.”
“Can we try again?”
“Let’s get back in sync.”

Healthy conflict is not about winning. It is about learning how to speak carefully, listen honestly, take ownership, and reconnect after tension.

A marriage becomes stronger when both people are willing to repair.

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05/11/2026

Are you waiting for the perfect person?

Perfectionistic dating can make commitment feel difficult. Someone may be kind, attractive, stable, and emotionally healthy, but one perceived flaw becomes the reason to step back.

This often happens when dating begins to feel like shopping. There is always the possibility that someone “better” may come along, so people keep comparing, second-guessing, and discarding instead of slowing down and truly getting to know the person in front of them.

But people are not commodities.

A healthy relationship does not require perfection. It requires character, shared values, emotional maturity, honesty, and the willingness to grow.

There is wisdom in having standards. But there is also danger in waiting for a flawless person who does not exist.

You may miss the person who is actually right for you while searching for the person who looks perfect on paper.

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05/08/2026

We love Dr. Daniel Amen's explanation of why the Lord’s Prayer may serve as a blueprint for a healthier, calmer, and more resilient brain.

The connection between faith, neuroscience, emotional regulation, and healing is powerful — and increasingly supported by research. This is a fascinating perspective on how intentional thought patterns, prayer, and spiritual practices can impact the mind and body.

05/06/2026

“Why am I always attracted to the wrong guy?”

This is a question many women ask when they begin noticing a pattern in their relationships.

Sometimes attraction is not just about chemistry. It can also be about familiarity.

If someone is used to over-giving, rescuing, chasing, or trying to earn love, they may feel drawn to someone who keeps that same pattern going. The person may feel exciting, but the relationship may not be emotionally healthy.

A stable, kind, responsible person may feel less intense at first — not because something is wrong, but because the nervous system may not recognize peace as “chemistry” yet.

Healthy relationships are not built on one person over-functioning while the other avoids growth. A healthy relationship invites both people to mature, take responsibility, and move toward greater emotional balance.

At Rodgers Christian Counseling, we help individuals and couples understand relationship patterns, emotional wounds, attachment, and healthier ways to connect.

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05/04/2026

Sometimes the date really was good.

You connected. You laughed. The conversation flowed. It felt promising. Then they disappeared.

When that happens, it is easy to spiral into self-blame and start replaying every detail: “Was I too anxious? Did I say too much? Did I do something wrong?”

But ghosting does not always mean you did something wrong. Sometimes it reveals that the other person was not emotionally available, not ready for commitment, or still approaching dating as something casual and optional.

A good connection does not always mean someone is ready for a real relationship.

Instead of using ghosting as proof that something is wrong with you, it may be more helpful to ask: Was this person actually capable of showing up consistently?

At Rodgers Christian Counseling, we help individuals and couples better understand relationship patterns, attachment, emotional wounds, and healthier ways to connect.

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