04/30/2026
Such an important reminder and one I think so many of us quietly navigate.
A Clue To Know If You’re Truly Present ✨ We talk a lot about being present with our clients, our children, the people in our lives.
But what does presence actually look like?
Because sometimes we think we’re present… when we’ve actually moved into rescuing.
We may be sitting with someone while they share a challenging emotion or situation. We listen, nod, stay close, and from the outside it can look like we’re doing all the right things.
But presence isn’t just about being there.
It’s about being with.
Being with their emotions.
Being with their experience.
Being with their uncertainty.
Being with whatever is unfolding—without needing to fix it.
And here’s a simple clue to notice when rescuing may be happening:
✨ Do I want something to be different right now?
When someone is struggling, it’s so natural for something inside of us to want to make it better.
To soothe it.
To solve it.
To move them out of discomfort.
But pause for a moment and gently ask yourself:
Am I trying to change this moment?
Am I trying to rescue them from what they’re feeling?
Am I trying to rescue myself from what I’m feeling as I sit here with them?
Because often, the urge to rescue is the very moment we step out of presence.
Presence doesn’t mean discomfort disappears.
It doesn’t mean the thoughts of I should do something go away.
It simply means… we don’t act on them.
You can stay.
You can breathe.
You can allow.
You can remain connected to yourself.
✨ You can be with.
This is the quiet work of presence.
Not fixing.
Not rescuing.
Not rushing the process.
Just being alongside someone in their experience—without needing it to be different.
And yes, this can be hard.
Especially when what’s arising in front of you (or inside of you) feels uncomfortable.
But this is often where the deepest healing and connection happen.
So the next time you’re sitting with someone in a hard moment, gently check in:
Am I being with… or am I rescuing?
Then take a breath.
Feel your feet on the ground.
Notice your body.
Soften back into presence.
You don’t always have to do something.
Sometimes the most powerful thing you can do… is stay.
Much love on the journey,
Lisa 💜