11/08/2025
As women especially, we are put into this role of doing and being what our husbands need us to be. Maybe this is all we have been taught, maybe the conditioning is so deep that we don’t question it. Maybe our wounds outweigh our intuition. Maybe our fear, weakness, powerlessness takes over. We live in a society where we are constantly objectified. We objectify ourselves, we objectify other people, and we are taught that that is normal. The deep connection and honoring and sacredness that can and should happen during intimacy with another person has completely been stripped away. And when I say don’t have s*x unless you are connecting with another person in the way of honoring and presence, it doesn’t mean withholding s*x unless they do XYZ. it means going in and healing the parts of you that are keeping you self sacrificing, abandoning yourself, not saying no, experiencing the shame, feeling, rejected, fearful of what they might do or say, keeping you powerless and weak. Then navigating your relationship from that space. It’s not easy, when you are challenging patterns and cycles and going up against deep layers of conditioning it sometimes feels impossible. But we need a shift in this world and it starts with us. And men, if you have made it this far in this post. Take responsibility for all the ways you show up in objectification and misogyny, heal your s**t and show up instead as a divinely powerful man who is present, patient, gentle, safe, compassionate, honoring, trustworthy….because there is nothing s*xier than that 👌🏼