05/04/2026
If I was your therapist, here are the first three things I'd want you to stop doing immediately.
1. Stop saying "I'm fine" when you're not. You've gotten so good at it that you don't even realize you're doing it anymore. But your body knows. Your sleep knows. Your mood knows. Fine is not a feeling. It's a deflection.
2. Stop waiting for a crisis to ask for help. You don't wait until your car breaks down on the highway to get an oil change. Your mental health works the same way. Maintenance isn't optional.
3. Stop comparing your healing to someone else's timeline. They went to therapy for six months and feels great. You've been going for a year and still have hard days. That doesn't mean it's not working. It means your journey is yours.
These 3 things alone keep more women stuck than anything else I see in my practice. And the worst part? Most of them don't even realize they're doing it.
Now you know. So what are you going to do about it?