08/15/2025
Peace & Dignity...do you protect yours?
This is a topic that has been weighing on me all week long and I wasn't sure how to start the convo. So here goes nothing! Are those things important to you and do you stop at nothing to feel fulfilled in both? Or were you born and raised a People Pleaser like me? In my adult years I have really been trying my hardest to prioritize both of those traits for myself without compromising what I believe in for the sake of others. I can't tell you how exhausting it was the first 25 years of my life trying way too hard and doing absolutely nothing of value that was authentic to my personality. I seemed so comfortable in my own skin to anyone that was on the outside, but on the inside, I was screaming "Helloooo I'm in hereeeee!"
So how do we get over that voice? I've found that when I take a step back and realize that the people in my life although loyal in their own right, everyone shows you their true colors and where that loyalty truly lies. It's in those moments I found that not everyone deserves a seat at your table and their capacity to be loyal to you is what makes their seat. It's not about their label or their status in your life, it's about, are they truly there for the you that makes you who you are?
The people that aren't there for the real me, I feel sorry for them. When you have so much to give personally and some people are only after what they see on the surface and they don't bother to dig deeper; these are the relationships that are formed on fear, insecurity, just a void being band-aided so the other person still feels good about themselves. But where does that leave you? Are you still screaming that you're in there somewhere?
Self-gratification can be so ugly sometimes, and here's me wishing those people will open their eyes to clarity someday.
So, what do we do in the meantime? Some people never get over who they decide to be, so is it out job to sit idle with stars in our eyes and a glimmer of hope in our hearts? I can tell you how defeating that is, and that you're better off thinking they're better off. Because when you look back inside of yourself, at the center of it all should be YOU! Without expectations, without hesitation step into the absolute best version of yourself that isn't defined by others. Who were you before they ruined you?
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