Andrea Dindinger

Andrea Dindinger I help people create beautiful relationships even if you think it's not possible. I won’t eliminate your anxiety: I’ll help you befriend it. The anger.

I won’t cure your depression: I’ll help you discover what it’s teaching. You're not broken.... I’m Andrea Dindinger, LMFT. For 15 years I have specialized in helping people create meaningful, fulfilling intimate relationships. I love working with motivated people who are really ready to see some real change in their lives. Sometimes that means helping couples navigate the rough waters of distance,

arguing, or betrayals. Sometimes that means helping individuals figure out who they are, and who they’re looking for, and what they won’t settle for anymore. My parents divorced when I was a teenager, and I went on to experience my own divorce at 32. I had no idea when I was going through all that pain that divorce would come to be my greatest teacher. I can empathize with every part of a relationship on the brink. I’ve been through the fear. The feelings of failure. And...I came out the other side to find love again and create a happy family, so I can also empathize with the hope, the excitement, the near-disbelief that life can come around and reward you with such a gift after you’ve been through so much pain. I’m passionate about connection. And to a person, my clients will tell you that I’m invested and energetic and caring and engaged. I believe that our patterns make sense and have wisdom in them. I love helping people bring the unconscious to light, and helping them learn to be guided by a deep, heartfelt wisdom inside. If you’re ready to do the work, call me. If you want to to figure out why love hasn’t worked out for you, or what you should do next in your relationship, or how to get past that deep down fear that you are marked and marred and unworthy, call me.

05/12/2026

Have you ever felt completely overwhelmed by your children’s tantrums?

It’s ok for you to take a timeout, too.

You can’t pour from an empty cup. And you can’t regulate anyone else until you regulate yourself first.

Want more tips to keep the healthy love moving forward? I’m writing weekly in my Substack — Follow “Love Forward” through the link in my bio or drop NEWSLETTER in the comments and I’ll send it right to you.

Take good care! I’m rooting for you.

05/07/2026

Feeling the distance in your empty nest?

If you haven’t been nourishing the marriage all along, this stage can feel really lonely.

But here’s the opportunity: you get to revert back to those early days before you had kids.

Empty nest gives you back the flexibility you had at the beginning. It’s a chance to re-find each other, to reconnect in a way you haven’t in 18-plus years.

Drop REVIEW in the comments, and I’ll send you my free Relationship Review guide with the exact questions to help you reset, reconnect, and strengthen your partnership this year. It’s a great restarting point!

05/05/2026

Feeling the stress? Your kids probably do, too. Instead of trying to clamp it down (which doesn’t really work anyway!), try a different approach. Name it. Talk about it. You could even try making it silly!

What we do can shift everything for you, your spouse, and the next generation.

Having the same arguments on repeat with your spouse? It might be patterns from the past sneaking up on you. The good news is, you can break the loop. Comment LOOP and I’ll send you my guide!

05/01/2026

“You spend 30 minutes lying down with your kid to get them to sleep. You come downstairs, and your spouse is sitting on the couch…relaxing, scrolling their phone, watching a show.

You were upstairs working. But it’s work no one can see.

These invisible tasks need to be made visible in relationships. Otherwise, resentment builds: “”I’ve been working for 30 minutes putting this kid to bed, and you’ve just been sitting here hanging out.””

Make the invisible visible. Name what you’re doing. Ask for what you need.

Having the same arguments on repeat? It might be patterns from the past. Drop LOOP in the comments and I’ll send you my guide to break the cycle.”

Saying “I’ll try” isn’t enough. Your brain needs a when and a what.Swipe for real examples of what changing your behavio...
04/30/2026

Saying “I’ll try” isn’t enough. Your brain needs a when and a what.

Swipe for real examples of what changing your behavior actually sounds like (not just sounds like you’re trying).

Drop LOOP in the comments if conflict patterns keep showing up in your relationship. I’ll DM you my step-by-step mini-course for breaking them

04/29/2026

Ready to change behavior that’s coming off hurtful to your partner or to anyone else? Here’s my take as a therapist of 20+ years:

First: Take accountability. Acknowledge what you did and how hurtful it was. If you can honestly own your behavior and be open to hearing the pain it caused, you’re three-quarters of the way there.

Second: Don’t get defensive. Don’t blame the other person. Don’t explain it away. This might be even more important than accountability.

Third: Be willing to have your partner bring this up again and again without getting defensive. That’s their way of processing their hurt.

Fourth: Say what you’ll do differently next time. “Next time I’m at a bar, I’m ordering seltzer.” “Next time I attack you for loading the dishwasher wrong, I’m gonna say ‘the dishwasher’s gonna get the dishes clean however.’”

Every week I write about ways we can break hurtful patterns and create the kind of love we want to pass on to th next generation. Follow along here and on Substack: Love Forward. (Link in bio or drop NEWSLETTER in the comments and I’ll send it to you.)

04/24/2026

The number one sign someone is willing to grow and change? Accountability and being non-defensive.

They acknowledge what they did. They apologize with their whole heart. They tell you how they’re going to change.

But if you bring it up a second time because you’re nervous, and they get defensive? That person isn’t going to change. They haven’t taken ownership of the painful, hurtful behavior they engaged in, and they’re going to do it again and again.

There are times when we stop listening to ourselves. And it’s probably the most painful thing we can ever do.

Follow me for more tips and tools to break the patterns you inherited and build the love you want to pass down.

04/23/2026

Those little annoyances you experience with your spouse are like sand in your shoe: Ignore it and it becomes a blister. Keep ignoring it, and that blister gets infected. Eventually, you don’t want anything to do with the sand, the shoe, or your marriage.

The small stuff matters. Don’t let it fester.

Need some help with getting the right message across? Comment EXPERIMENT, and I’ll send you my free Relationship Reset email series to give you daily nudges that will make a big difference in how you and your spouse relate.

04/21/2026

In her new book I’ll Have What She’s Having, writes: “I dated someone on and off for almost 2 years whom I didn’t trust, who lied and cheated, but whom I kept going back to by believing I could change him and the relationship.”

Chelsea’s not alone. I’ve done it. I’m sure you’ve done it.

Here’s the thing: when somebody shows you who they are, it’s imperative that you believe them. If they attack you for loading the dishwasher wrong, if they defend why they cheated…that’s who they are. And they’re not going to change.

The number one sign someone is willing to change? Accountability and being non-defensive. They acknowledge what they did. They apologize with their whole heart. They tell you how they’re going to change. But if you bring it up again and they get defensive? They haven’t taken ownership, and they’ll probably do it again.

Follow me for more tips and tools to break the patterns you inherited and build the love you want to pass down.

04/17/2026

Here’s something important to acknowledge: Oftentimes women feel like prey when their spouse wants to have s*x with them.

It’s not always because you’re being aggressive, it’s because there’s a history of violence against women that runs throughout everything. Every woman has felt: Is it safe? Am I going to be hurt?
That dynamic exists even in marriages where it’s the furthest thing from reality.

I had a client who had to get dressed in the bathroom alone because it felt like a peep show. That’s the feeling of being prey, and you don’t want that in your marriage. It’s a symbol: there’s not enough emotional intimacy here.

This dynamic has existed throughout history. It’s going to take a long time to shift it, if it’s even possible. But awareness is the first step.

Want more communication tips to keep the healthy love moving forward? I’m writing weekly in my Substack. Follow Love Forward through the link in my bio or drop NEWSLETTER in the comments and I’ll send it right to you.

04/17/2026

Here’s something important to acknowledge: Oftentimes women feel like prey when their spouse wants to have s*x with them.

It’s not always because you’re being aggressive, it’s because there’s a history of violence against women that runs throughout everything. Every woman has felt: Is it safe? Am I going to be hurt?

That dynamic exists even in marriages where it’s the furthest thing from reality.

I had a client who had to get dressed in the bathroom alone because it felt like a peep show. That’s the feeling of being prey, and you don’t want that in your marriage. It’s a symbol: there’s not enough emotional intimacy here.

This dynamic has existed throughout history. It’s going to take a long time to shift it, if it’s even possible. But awareness is the first step.

Want more communication tips to keep the healthy love moving forward? I’m writing weekly in my Substack. Follow Love Forward through the link in my bio or drop NEWSLETTER in the comments and I’ll send it right to you.

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