01/28/2026
It seems like a lot of relationship goals sound like self-improvement plans.
Work on yourself. Fix the thing. Be different.
Don’t get me wrong. I have no qualms with self-improvement. However, when we’re talking relationship improvement goals we need to talk about what happens BETWEEN us, not just WITHIN US:
- How do we speak when we’re overwhelmed?
- How we handle conflict without hurting each other?
- How we come back after something breaks?
This isn’t a replacement for self-growth. It’s a reminder that growth happens in the context of safe, loving relationships.