Sherri Courtney Coaching

15/07/2025

Sexual betrayal isn’t just about infidelity. It’s the lies. The secret lives. The unprotected s*x that puts her health at risk. The gaslighting that makes her question her own reality. The emotional abuse that chips away at her self-worth while she’s still trying to show up for her children every single day.

When a man betrays the mother of his children, he’s not just breaking trust with her. He’s breaking something sacred in his children’s world. He’s creating confusion, anxiety, and fear. He’s teaching them that love can lie to your face and still demand your loyalty.

And when he denies, blames, minimizes, and pretends it’s no big deal, he robs his children of emotional stability and the model of what respect, safety, and real love should look like.

To all the fathers out there: you don’t have to be perfect. But if you’ve betrayed her, own it. Get help. Do the work. Show your children what it looks like to protect the woman who gave them life, even if your relationship doesn’t survive.

Because harming her harms them. And they are watching everything.

You fail as a man when you harm your children's mother.

She's their primary source of strength and support.

She's the one they run to when they're scared.

She's the one they call when they need comfort.

She's the one who knows their needs and fears.

She's the foundation of their emotional security.

Destroying her stability destroys theirs.

When you stress her out, you stress them out.

When you make her cry, you make them anxious.

When you hurt her, you hurt their sense of safety.

When you disrespect her, you disrespect their home.

She's the one who sacrifices her sleep for their needs.

She's the one who puts their wellbeing before her own.

She's the one who advocates for them at school.

She's the one who remembers every detail of their lives.

Protect the woman raising your kids.

Support the person who's holding everything together.

Respect the woman who's nurturing your children.

Honor the mother who's shaping their future.

Your children are watching how you treat their mother.

They're learning about relationships from your example.

They're forming their ideas about love from what they see.

They're developing their standards based on your behavior.

Don't let your issues with her damage their emotional development.

Don't let your anger toward her create trauma for them.

Be the father who protects their mother, not the one who destroys her.

26/06/2025

I used to live every day waiting for the next lie.

The next shift in energy.

The next time I’d catch him looking at his phone with that familiar gut-sick feeling rising in my chest.

I didn’t know it back then, but my nervous system was stuck in survival mode.

Hypervigilant.
Tense.
Always alert.

Even when things seemed “fine,” my body never felt safe.

Because for too long…
calm was just the moment before another bombshell.

I wasn’t overreacting.
I wasn’t too sensitive.
I was traumatized.

And my body was trying to protect me the only way it knew how.

That’s what betrayal does.

It rewires your nervous system to live in fight, flight, or freeze.

And once that switch is flipped, it doesn’t just go back to normal, even if your partner starts doing “the right things.”

Here’s the truth I had to learn the hard way:

👉 You can’t heal if you don’t feel safe.

And healing isn't dependent on whether or not he gets sober.

Real healing began when I stopped waiting for someone else to make me feel safe and started learning how to create that safety inside myself.

💬 One breath at a time.
💬 One boundary at a time.
💬 One small step at a time.

If you’re in that place right now—barely holding it together, exhausted from living on edge, and unsure where to start—my Restoring Safety After Betrayal group is your next step.

It’s a safe, validating space for women who’ve just discovered betrayal or feel stuck in survival mode.

You'll learn how betrayal trauma affects your nervous system, emotions, and identity.

You'll gain the tools you need to:

✅ Calm your body and mind
✅ Process triggers and trauma responses
✅ Set boundaries without shame
✅ Release the shock and pain you’re carrying
✅ Reconnect with your sense of self and safety

This isn’t about fixing you.

You were never broken.

This is about finding yourself again.

Ready to take your first step toward healing?

📲 Let's talk! Schedule your free call today.
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You don’t have to do this alone. I’m here. And I’ve been where you are.

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25/06/2025

I recently completed the Attachment and Neurodevelopment Module as part of my ongoing training as a Biology of Trauma Professional, and it’s already reshaping how I support women in my Going Deeper for Betrayed Partners Inner Child Healing Group.

This powerful module explored how early attachment experiences and nervous system development shape our lifelong ability to feel safe, regulate emotions, and form authentic connections. It covered everything from insecure attachment and brain development to the role of co-regulation and how early unmet needs—like being seen, soothed, and supported—show up later in life as chronic anxiety, emotional shutdown, people-pleasing, or fear of authenticity.

For women healing from s*xual betrayal, this work is transformational. It helps explain:

💔 Why betrayal hurts so much.
💔 Why healing feels so hard and slow.
💔 Why certain emotional patterns keep resurfacing.
💔 How early attachment wounds are reactivated when trust is broken.

Approaching Inner child healing through the lens of attachment and neurodevelopment has given me a powerful new framework to support my clients, especially the women in my Going Deeper for Betrayed Partners Inner Child Healing Group.

I can now guide women even more effectively through somatic and parts work that helps rewire early attachment patterns and survival responses rooted in unmet childhood needs, allowing them to create a new foundation of safety, self-trust, and identity.

24/06/2025

You adapted to betrayal.

But now…
👉 It’s time to heal.

If you’re here, it’s probably because something inside you knows:
You’re not supposed to live like this forever.
Not in survival mode.
Not questioning your worth.
Not feeling like a stranger in your own story.

When you’ve been s*xually betrayed—whether through infidelity, p**n use, secret s*xual behaviors, or emotional manipulation—

Your nervous system learns:
That safety is a myth.
That love is pain.
That your voice doesn’t matter.
That you’re too much—or not enough.

👉 But healing is possible.
And you don’t have to do it alone.

I lead several small group coaching programs specifically for betrayed women, and each one is trauma-informed, supportive, and designed to help you reclaim your sense of safety, self-trust, and identity. These are safe spaces for women just like you.

👉 GROUP COACHING PROGRAMS

💔 Restoring Safety After Betrayal.
For those early in their journey—still in shock, triggered, anxious, or unsure where to start.

🧠 Deconstructing Gaslighting.
For women untangling emotional manipulation, confusion, and self-doubt after being chronically dismissed or blamed.

👧 Going Deeper Inner Child Healing.
For women ready to explore how unmet childhood needs show up in betrayal. Based on Eddie Capparucci’s Inner Child Recovery Process Model.

💬 Post Betrayal Transformation.
A growth-focused group for women ready to move from surviving to thriving, rebuild identity, and write the next chapter of life.

🌿 Grief Recovery for Betrayed Partners.
A safe place to process the layered grief of what was lost, what never was, and what will never be.

🌀 Somatic & Integrative Trauma Healing.
For women ready to work with the nervous system, stored trauma, and biological imbalances to restore balance from the inside out.

Not sure which one’s right for you?

🗓 Schedule a free call. I’ll help you figure out what you need most right now.

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You don’t have to go through this alone.

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24/06/2025

“Maybe if I had challenged him more, it wouldn’t have happened…”

My clients tell me all the time:
“I should’ve asked more questions.”
“I should’ve challenged him.”
“I should’ve seen through the lies.”

👉But here’s the truth:
I did question him.
I did confront the gaslighting.
I did trust my gut.
And he still lied.

He was committed to protecting his secrets, not to protecting me.

👉Your intuition is not what failed. He did.

Betrayed partners often turn on themselves in hindsight:

“If I had only said this...”
“If I had only pushed harder...”
“If I had trusted myself sooner...”

👉But self-blame is a survival strategy.

It gives you the illusion of control. Because if you were the problem, then maybe you could fix it.

👉The reality is you can do everything “right” and still be betrayed.

Because someone else’s choice to lie, hide, or gaslight isn’t about your effort or awareness.

It’s about their commitment to secrecy.

And that’s what makes betrayal trauma so disorienting.

Because it wasn’t your blindness or your silence that allowed it.

It was their ongoing choice to deceive, even when faced with your questions, your intuition, and your pain.

👉You weren’t naive. You were trusting.

👉You weren’t passive. You were trying.

And it’s time to stop rewriting the past as if you had the power to control someone else’s integrity.

Their actions were never a reflection of your worth. They were a reflection of their unresolved pain, shame, and patterns.

You deserve to stop carrying shame that isn’t yours.

👉If you’re stuck blaming yourself for someone else’s betrayal, I’m here. Let’s talk about how I can support you in reclaiming your voice and truth.

🗓️ Book your free coaching call today!

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21/06/2025

If you’ve been living in survival mode…

Running on fumes.
Mentally foggy.
Emotionally drained.
Wired but tired.
Or just done with your body feeling like the enemy…

You’re not alone.

As a trauma-informed coach, I’ve spent years helping women recover from betrayal, complex trauma, and nervous system dysregulation. The truth is healing is so much more than just mindset work.

When your body has been under constant stress, grief, and cortisol overload, it needs support at the cellular level. That’s why I’ve added something incredibly powerful (and surprisingly simple) into my own healing journey and into my clients’ wellness toolkit:

🌿 All-natural light therapy patches.

These small patches use phototherapy to activate your body’s own natural healing mechanisms.

Specifically, they help your body produce more of a copper peptide called GHK-Cu, which has been clinically proven to:

✨ Improve energy and stamina
✨ Promote better sleep
✨ Reduce inflammation and pain
✨ Boost collagen and skin repair
✨ Support nervous system regulation
✨ Sharpen mental clarity

The best part?

No stimulants. No chemicals. No drugs. No supplements. In fact, these patches are completely non-transdermal so nothing enters your body.

Just light and your own body’s innate healing power.

I started using these patches when my nervous system was completely dysregulated from betrayal, mold illness, and years of chronic stress. I was exhausted, puffy, foggy, and barely functioning. Within days, I noticed more mental clarity, more stable energy, and less stress.

It’s not a magical fix, but it is a powerful tool to add to your healing journey.

Curious how this could help you too?

Watch the 3 short videos at coach.sherricourtney.com/lighttherapysolutions

Then reach out to me to schedule a free call to learn more.

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21/06/2025

A late Friday surprise! - https://mailchi.mp/brushfiresfoundation/friday-surprise things are pretty good here at SILS. I continue follow-up conversations with SILS '25 speakers and attendees, am preparing for our first-ever webinar, and am stewarding a $10,000 matching grant campaign.

Ever better news is that we quickly sold out (it's free, by the way) of available seats for the Eddie Capparucci webinar next Thursday. This prompted us to "up our game" and add 400 more seats to the webinar.

20/02/2025

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01/01/2025

🎉 I’m Excited to Announce the Completion of My Professional Training Certificate in The Biology of Healing! 🌱

I'm thrilled to announce that I’ve officially completed the Biology of Healing Professional Track Certification offered by Dr. Aimie Apigian through Trauma Healing Accelerated!

This journey has deepened my understanding of how trauma—especially betrayal trauma—impacts not just our emotions, but also our biology, brain, and nervous system. This knowledge equips me with cutting-edge tools to help women heal more effectively from the pain of infidelity, s*xual addiction, and other forms of s*xual betrayal.

Here’s what I’ve learned:

✨ The Brain Can Heal: Through neuroplasticity, we can rewire the patterns of fear, grief, and self-doubt caused by betrayal, creating pathways for joy and resilience.

✨ The Body Remembers: Trauma impacts everything from our gut to our hormones, but with the right support, the body can release the stored pain and rebuild balance.

✨ Healing is a Journey: It begins with safety, grows with emotional regulation, and thrives through expansion into aliveness, connection, and self-worth.

This training has reaffirmed my mission to empower betrayed women to move beyond survival, rediscover their worth, and embrace a thriving, vibrant future. 💪💖

If you or someone you know is struggling with betrayal trauma and looking for support, please schedule 🗓 a free coaching call 📞 to learn how I can help.

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