Sherri Courtney Coaching

10/09/2025

Sexual Betrayal: Where’s the Justice?

He never owned it.
He never apologized.
He moved on like nothing happened.
…And you’re left holding the pieces.

“Why is there no justice?”
“How can I get closure when he won’t even admit what he did?”
“How do I move forward when he moved on like I meant nothing?”

These are the questions I hear every single day from my clients.

And here’s the painful truth:
He may never give you the truth.
He may never give you all the answers.
He may never give you the apology you deserve.

And yes, he may go on to do the exact same thing to someone else.

But his avoidance of truth is not a reflection of your worth.
It’s a reflection of his inability to face himself.
Because you can never help a person who is committed to the story that suits their dysfunction.

The truth is, someone with a victim mindset will never achieve victory—
Not because they can’t, but because they will always sabotage what they don’t believe they deserve.

You cannot rescue someone who is infatuated with hurting themselves.
Choosing not to be better is a choice to be bitter.
And unless they’re willing to choose healing, your proximity will only drag you deeper into their chaos.

Sometimes, the most loving thing you can do…is step away.
So that you don’t lose yourself in the mess of trying to save someone who refuses to be saved.

Closure doesn’t come from them.
It comes from you deciding to stop waiting for accountability from someone who has no integrity to give.

You get to close this chapter not because he made it right—
but because you’ve decided that his choices won’t define your future.

You may never get justice in the way you imagined.

But you can still get peace.
You can still get healing.
You can still get your life back.

Let him go do what he’s going to do.

You?
You get to do something different.
You get to heal.
You get to feel.
You get to become someone you’re proud of—
not in spite of what you’ve been through, but because you chose to rise anyway.

You don’t need his apology to validate your pain.
You don’t need his honesty to heal your nervous system.
You don’t need his closure to reclaim your life.

That part is yours now.
And I promise—your healing is justice enough.

💬 If this hit home, you’re not alone. Drop a comment—someone else might need to hear your words too.

Too personal to comment here? I get it. That’s why I created a private, free betrayal trauma community where you can safely connect with others who truly understand.

👉 Join us now for support, validation, and real connection.
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🤍 If you're walking through this right now, please know you're not alone.

10/08/2025

Betrayed women don’t just “go crazy.”
They’re driven there.

Betty Broderick’s story isn’t just about revenge. It’s about what happens when a woman’s entire sense of safety, purpose, and identity is systematically destroyed — one betrayal at a time.

Most people only see the ending — the courtroom, the mugshot, the headline.

What they don’t see is the years of invisible trauma that came before it.

The exhaustion.
The gaslighting.
The financial control.
The way her sacrifices were rewritten as “craziness” the moment she stopped being convenient.

Betty built a life that was ripped away from her by deceit, manipulation, and power.

She wasn’t a monster. She was a woman unraveling under the weight of a system that protected her abuser and punished her pain.

And while most women will never reach the point Betty did, millions of them know that same sinking feeling:

The disbelief that someone you built your life with could turn so cruel.

The humiliation of being replaced while you’re still bleeding.

The isolation when the people around you minimize your pain and call you bitter or unstable for naming the truth.

This is the unspoken side of betrayal trauma.

The part that doesn’t fit neatly into self-help quotes or “new chapter” captions.

It’s what happens when trauma meets injustice, and society looks the other way.

No one is excusing Betty’s actions. But maybe we should start asking harder questions about what drives a woman to her breaking point, and why no one steps in until after she does.

Women don’t just “go crazy.”

They’re made to feel invisible.
They’re gaslit until they question reality.
They’re pushed to their emotional edge by people who weaponize power, money, and the system against them.

And when they finally collapse under the weight of it all, the world shakes its head and says, “See? She was unstable all along.”

Betrayed women deserve to be seen before they shatter.

They deserve support, not silence.
Understanding, not judgment.
Safety, not shame.

Because no woman should have to lose her sanity — or her freedom — before someone finally believes her.

If you’ve ever been lied to, gaslit, or made to question your own reality, you need to watch my free video. You’re not crazy. You’re traumatized. And once you understand what’s really happening in your body and brain, everything starts to make sense.

🎥 Watch my free video now — “You’re NOT Crazy: Understanding the Impact of Infidelity and Sexual Betrayal” — and finally see the truth behind your confusion, your triggers, and your pain.

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Because the moment you understand it is the moment you start to take your power back.

Thank you to the Intimate Partner Betrayal Alliance for continuing to bring these important conversations into the light.

10/05/2025

I didn’t know.
I really didn’t know what I was living in.

I thought I was just insecure.
Too sensitive.
Too needy.
Too much.

I didn’t know what compulsive porn use does to the brain.

I didn’t know how secret sexual behavior chips away at connection, trust, and emotional safety.

I didn’t know that his defensiveness wasn’t normal.

That the gaslighting wasn’t just bad communication.

That the lack of intimacy, the emotional withdrawal, the coldness, the rage—it wasn’t just me.

If I could go back and speak to the woman I was…
The one searching his face for truth.
The one trying so hard to fix what she didn’t break.
The one wondering why it always felt like something was missing.
The one crying quietly in the shower, Googling “how to fix your marriage”…

This is what I would say:

You are not the problem.
Your body is not broken.
Your instincts are not wrong.
And the pain you feel is valid.

Porn addiction is real.
Sexual betrayal is real.
And you are not imagining this.

You don’t have to perform your way into being loved.
You don’t have to earn safety.
And you don’t have to stay where your worth is constantly questioned.

I didn’t know what betrayal trauma was back then.
I didn’t even know what gaslighting meant.
But now I do.

And I’ve built a life and a mission around making sure other women don’t stay stuck as long as I did.

If this feels familiar, please know:
You are not crazy.
You are not alone.
And it’s not your fault.

💬 If you could go back and talk to the woman you were before discovery… what would you tell her?

Too personal to comment here? I get it.

That’s why I created a free, private betrayal trauma community just for women like us.
Where you don’t have to defend your story…
And you don’t have to question your reality anymore.

📲 Tap the link in my bio or go to coach.sherricourtney.com/betrayaltraumacommunity to join now.

You deserve truth.
You deserve safety.
You deserve healing.

09/27/2025

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09/18/2025

If you've been lied to, gaslit, or blamed for someone else’s betrayal, this free video is for you. 

“You’re NOT Crazy: Understanding the Impact of Infidelity and Sexual Betrayal” - https://coach.sherricourtney.com/yourenotcrazyvideo

You’re not overreacting.
You’re not too sensitive.
And you’re definitely not crazy. 

Betrayal trauma hijacks your nervous system, shatters your sense of safety, and leaves you stuck in survival mode. 

I understand how being sexually betrayed, lied to, blamed, and gaslit by the one person who was supposed to protect you can make you feel crazy, too much, or not enough—sometimes all at once. 

I know what it’s like to be stuck in survival mode, unable to eat, sleep, or think straight after finding out your partner has been living a secret life. 

And I know the crushing loneliness of carrying pain that no one else can see while feeling trapped in a relationship that looks normal on the outside but feels terrifying on the inside. 

That’s why I help women betrayed by porn, affairs, and secret sexual behaviors get out of survival mode, process their grief, and reclaim their voice, their sanity, and their worth—so they can stop doubting their reality, start trusting their intuition, and finally feel safe again.

This free video will help you finally understand why you feel the way you do—and offer a path forward that doesn’t require anyone else to change first. It’s time to stop doubting your reality and start reclaiming your peace.

09/18/2025

09/10/2025

In a world where women’s voices are too often hushed,
✨ LET’S BREAK THE SILENCE! ✨

I’m so honored to be among so many powerful voices at HUSH: The Festival Nobody’s Talking About — a bold, global movement that is tearing down the walls of shame, secrecy, and stigma with raw, real, and radical conversations about the topics society keeps in the dark.

I’ll be speaking today at 11am CST. This day carries significance. It was the day my world was blown apart 8 years ago. My topic is You're NOT Crazy: Understanding the Impact of Infidelity and Sexual Betrayal.

Catch me LIVE on Facebook, where I’ll be in the chat answering your questions!

Join for FREE!
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HUSH speakers are fearless voices, thought leaders, disruptors, storytellers, and experts stepping forward and speaking their truth on the subjects that matter, but are rarely spoken about.

09/09/2025

My 17-year-old dog Dazzle, passed away peacefully in my arms Sunday evening.

She was family, a constant companion through betrayal, divorce, and the hardest times of my life. Losing her has been heartbreaking.

Part of my grief is knowing all the moments Dazzle and I won’t have.

I thought she’d be here for more walks, more playing fetch and frisbee, more chasing around her treat balls, more playing with her puzzle toys, more of her comical shenanigans, more mornings together, more time to love and spoil her…

This is similar to the grief of betrayal. It’s not just the partner we lost, but the future we thought we’d have. The anniversaries, the family memories, the retirement years.

This “loss of what could have been” is a form of grief that is so often overlooked.

It’s the same kind of ache that surfaces after betrayal—the shattering of dreams we once counted on. We grieve not only the relationship, but the version of life we imagined and built our hopes around.

We grieve the milestones that will never happen, the traditions that will never be shared, the laughter and safety we thought we’d grow old with.

Betrayal trauma robs us of those imagined years just as powerfully as death can. It forces us to mourn an entire life path that never came to be—birthdays, family vacations, quiet mornings, even the simple comfort of knowing someone was truly there.

This kind of grief runs deep because it isn’t just about what was lost in the past, but about the whole future that was stolen before it could ever unfold.

When that future is gone, it leaves an emptiness that feels almost impossible to explain to others. The loss of what could have been is one of the most painful, invisible parts of betrayal trauma.

💬 When you think about your betrayal grief, is it more about what was taken—or about the life you thought you’d have?

Comment below or DM me.

09/03/2025

Join me on The Life Coach Business Building School podcast with our Summit hosts Debbie Shadid and Thais Glenn.

This episode is packed with details about the Design, Live, Thrive Summit — who’s speaking, why you should attend, and what you’ll gain.

I chose the topic “You’re NOT Crazy: Understanding the Impact of Infidelity and Sexual Betrayal” because I’ve lived it. I know firsthand how infidelity, gaslighting, and hidden sexual behaviors can make you question your sanity, and I want every woman to know she’s not alone, she’s not the problem, and she's not crazy.

Save your seat and get ready to be inspired at the Summit on September 5–6, 2025 — a free 2-day online event with 25+ expert coaches ready to equip you for your next chapter.

🎧 Listen to the episode today — https://youtu.be/-jrDitNv3Po

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09/02/2025

If betrayal has ever made you feel like you can't go on, you're not alone.

There’s something uncomfortable and hard that doesn’t get spoken of enough in the world of betrayal trauma:

Let's talk about the suicidal thoughts no one warns you about.

Many women who’ve been sexually betrayed have moments where they wonder if life is worth going on. 💔

It’s not because they truly want their lives to end.

It’s because the pain feels unbearable.

It’s because the weight of betrayal, lies, and gaslighting can make you feel trapped in a storm with no way out.

It’s because betrayal trauma is one of the loneliest, most isolating experiences—and it feels like no one around you truly understands the depth of your pain.

If you’ve ever had thoughts like this, it doesn’t mean you’re broken.

It doesn’t mean you’re weak.

It means your nervous system, your heart, and your body have been carrying more than anyone ever should.

What you’re longing for is not death.

What you’re longing for is relief.

For peace.
For safety.
For the pain to stop.

And that makes so much sense.

If this is where you are right now, please know: you are not alone.

So many women in betrayal trauma whisper the same thoughts in the dark. You don’t have to stay in that place forever.

There is hope. There is help. There is healing.

And you matter too much to walk this road alone.

It's not the end of your story.

Let's walk this healing road together in a community that understands.

Join my free online Betrayal Trauma Community.

02/20/2025

Comment “HEAL” below or DM me to learn more! 💬🔥

01/01/2025

🎉 I’m Excited to Announce the Completion of My Professional Training Certificate in The Biology of Healing! 🌱

I'm thrilled to announce that I’ve officially completed the Biology of Healing Professional Track Certification offered by Dr. Aimie Apigian through Trauma Healing Accelerated!

This journey has deepened my understanding of how trauma—especially betrayal trauma—impacts not just our emotions, but also our biology, brain, and nervous system. This knowledge equips me with cutting-edge tools to help women heal more effectively from the pain of infidelity, sexual addiction, and other forms of sexual betrayal.

Here’s what I’ve learned:

✨ The Brain Can Heal: Through neuroplasticity, we can rewire the patterns of fear, grief, and self-doubt caused by betrayal, creating pathways for joy and resilience.

✨ The Body Remembers: Trauma impacts everything from our gut to our hormones, but with the right support, the body can release the stored pain and rebuild balance.

✨ Healing is a Journey: It begins with safety, grows with emotional regulation, and thrives through expansion into aliveness, connection, and self-worth.

This training has reaffirmed my mission to empower betrayed women to move beyond survival, rediscover their worth, and embrace a thriving, vibrant future. 💪💖

If you or someone you know is struggling with betrayal trauma and looking for support, please schedule 🗓 a free coaching call 📞 to learn how I can help.

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