04/24/2026
Repost from Jennifer Ann Counseling
A boundary is less about getting someone else to comply and more about what YOU will do if they don’t.
I hear people say “they didn’t respect my boundary so idk what to do.” But the boundary is not just what you say you DON’T want to happen… most of what a boundary involves is the action you’re willing to take to take care of yourself when that thing keeps happening. Without this follow-through… it’s just a request 😞
A boundary sounds like:
“If you keep calling me names, I’m going to hang up the phone.”
“If you keep making comments about the cleanliness of my house when you come over, I’m going to ask you to leave.”
“If you raise your voice at me, I’m going to step away from the conversation.”
“If you cancel last minute again, I’m going to stop making plans for awhile.”
“If you keep texting me and calling me while I’m at work, I’m not going to respond until I’m off.”
“If you continue to show up late, I’m going to start without you.”
“If you bring up my body or food choices again, I’m going to change the subject or leave the room.”
Boundaries are less about controlling someone else’s behavior and more about deciding what you will and won’t participate in. But you have to be willing to follow through 🫶🏽
