02/17/2026
How to Repair Well: A 4-Week Couples Journey
HI y'all. Quick question: what do you do in your intimate partnership when one or both of you has hurt the others’ feelings? Do you have like an actual process for cleaning it up?
I ask because, after almost 15 years of working with couples, one thing I have seen is that the couples who find ways to apologize, take responsibility and mend after breakdowns get closer over time.
And the couples who let hurts pile up and just move on, don’t. Like really don’t. Like ultimately lose the glue of their bond.
My name is Dr. Mama Jessica Tartaro. I am a mom, wife, Intimacy Coach and dancer. Starting in March, I’m offering a new program for THREE couples who are interested in a 4-week, low cost pathway to skill-building your repair process. “How to Repair Well” will be part personalized class, part coaching and part deep dive into a personal healing process. More info below.
To level with you, I'm not myself in a perfect marriage. My husband and I have been together for 7 years, married for 6. And we have conflicts! Usually low level spats. Occasionally big blow outs.
One thing I will say that I am very proud of is that we clean up well. It means that our conflicts become less like bombs and more like turning points in our life cycle that teach us things we needed to know.
A mentor of mine told me years ago, "It's not IF you make messes. It's HOW you clean them up that matters!" A truth that has rung loudly in my own marriage and my work with couples in my private practice.
For the month of March, I have room for THREE couples to do a 4-week journey with me. Called, "How to Repair Well," this will be a skills based coaching and educational program inspired by the work of Dr. Susan Campbell, author of the book, 'From Triggered to Tranquil'. Couples will meet with me weekly for 1-hour sessions as well as do homework in between sessions.
While this program is open to everyone, I am prioritizing couples with children of any age. As a parent myself, I have a big heart for how hard it is to invest in healthy adult intimacy while juggling the endless demands of parenting. If that is you, I would love to hold a space for you in my schedule.
This program is for you if:
•You are committed to your relationship as a pathway to growth
• You two have many foundational tools in place in your relationship
• You have conflict in some form, either low level reactionary moments, bigger fights or all of the above
• You may have a tendency just to let things blow over rather than really resolve them
• You would like to evolve rather than continue to repeat patterns
• Bonus if you are also parents (but not required if you are still interested)
Cost of the program is $500. Payment required to hold your place.
If you think this is for you, let me know by filling out the application in the link below which includes more information about the commitment. I will be in touch to confirm your registration and get you booked!
I've been studying and teaching about conflict tending for the last several years, including training to be a mediator, teaching community courses on conflict tools as well as working with grief teachers on conflict tending in grief work. It would be my pleasure to share what I have learned with committed couples, so that more of us in loving long term partnerships can deepen and grow through conflict - a healthy part of relating - rather than be knocked down by it.
Let me know if you have any questions or just fill out the application below and I will be in touch!
