Sages of Grief, LLC

06/18/2025

Morbidity and mortality associated with bereavement is an important public health issue, yet economic and resource investments to effectively implement and sustain integrated bereavement services are sorely lacking at national and global levels. Although bereavement support is a component of palliat...

06/18/2025

Content warning: This discussion includes sensitive topics around grief, loss, and substance use.In this special Mental Health Awareness Month release, Dr. A...

06/12/2025

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07/30/2024

How can neuroscience help clarify the “why” of grief? Why does it take so long? Why is it so painful? Psychologist Mary-Frances O’Connor, PhD, applies an int...

05/01/2024

I missed you quietly today. So quietly that no one noticed. I missed you as I climbed out of bed and as I brushed my teeth; when I waited at the lights on the drive into work and as I heard the rain outside my window. I missed you as I ordered lunch and as I kicked off my shoes when I got home; as I switched off the lights and climbed into bed for the night. I missed you without tears or noise or fanfare. But oh how I felt it. I felt it in the morning, at lunchtime, in the evening and at night. I felt it as I woke, as I waited, as I worked. I felt it at home, on the road, in the light, in the dark, in the rain. I felt it in every one of those moments, each one sitting heavier and heavier as the weight of me missing you kept growing and growing. Yes, I missed you so quietly today. But I felt it so loudly. ~ B. Hemsley

05/01/2024

I don't think we talk enough about how quiet the road gets. How long the waiting feels. How lonely healing can be. I don't think we talk enough about how undone we become in the valley of grief. Or how enormously we must stretch just to fit ourselves into some kind of new normal and dare to call it life again. And I don't think we talk enough about how we have no other thing left, but to gather up our heavy limbs and carry on. Because the earth keeps spinning. The sun keeps rising. And the days keep on bleeding, one into the next, regardless of the moment that made all the minutes inside of our heart stand still. ~ Ullie-Kaye

03/20/2024

Recently, I came across a post about equanimity and it occurred to me that grief is a great balance of both positive and negative realizations and experiences. The theory of equanimity is closely aligned with the concept of the middle path, which asks grievers to consciously engage in the full breadth of life - the light and shadow, beauty and wounding, joy and sorrow. As such, it allows us to cultivate the balance and neutrality needed to embrace and integrate the ever so complex, divergent aspects of our grief. As we embark on this journey, at some point, we find ourselves on the other side of grief. Yet, it doesn’t mean that the difficult and wounded parts of our soul go away, or that we are done with pain, sorrow and healing work. What it does mean is that we fundamentally have become a different person and that, as a griever, we more than likely now function from a place of self-awareness, power, wisdom, balance and neutrality. As a griever mentioned to me yesterday, " The highs are not as high. Equally, however, the lows are not as low."

03/20/2024

It's true. In grief, we experience a variety of motions. Some may be happier and bring pleasant feelings. Others may be difficult for which we experience pain. Grief is a constellation of life, of everything before loss and after, and of every emotion a human can experience. Each of us are fundamentally changed after grief; and in that process, we become acquainted with gratitude and sorrow.

02/18/2024

Grief is a surreal experience, a forced march through a landscape that is frightening, lonely, and utterly bewildering. Grievers tend to slog along, trying to adjust to their new normal, where every step feels uncertain, the destination is unknown, and nothing feels normal.

The adjustment after significant loss is slow and difficult, taking months, if not years of gradual acceptance - and not days or weeks. Moving beyond grief is like learning to walk again on an uneven path, where each step forward is reluctant and suffused with the memory of how things used to be. In this new reality, time itself seems to warp and bend. Yet, for the griever, the world continues its relentless pace, with every movement, every decision requiring a Herculean effort.

Please know that no griever needs to be alone, suffering in silence. At Sages of Grief, LLC we know how tough and exhausting grief can be. We also know that it may feel as though the pain will never end; but I assure you that there's a point up ahead, where things get a bit easier, and the pain starts to ease. We are here to help.

12/24/2023

For all clients, past - present - and future, thank you for sharing your grief journey with me. You each are the strongest and bravest people that I know.

12/24/2023

12/14/2023

In grief, too often there are many battles going on. Perhaps, you are battling probate court. Perhaps, you are battling the life insurance company. Perhaps, you are battling credit card collectors. Perhaps, you are battling family members. Perhaps, you are battling yourself internally with feelings of guilt and shame. Perhaps, you are battling with the person who left you behind to fight this battle on your own. Regardless, the battlefield of grief is a complex landscape. Some days, you will feel like you are winning; other days, it may feel as though, you have lost. Please know that you are not alone. At Sages of Grief, LLC, we too are grievers and have fought our fair share of battles. We understand the complexities of this fight and make it our mission to help you navigate through yours.