12/13/2025
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The Moment You Start Googling Someone Else’s Treatment of You Is the Biggest Red Flag You’ll Ever Need
Healthy relationships don’t leave you searching the internet at midnight trying to make sense of someone’s behaviour. You don’t Google phrases like “Why do they twist everything?” or “Is this emotional abuse?” when communication is safe, respectful and consistent.
The moment you start researching someone else’s treatment of you is a powerful red flag. It means your instincts are already telling you something is wrong.
People Google because their reality has been destabilised. Your feelings are dismissed. Your reactions are criticised. Your concerns are turned back on you. Over time, confusion replaces clarity, and self-doubt replaces trust in your own judgement. Googling becomes a way to regain orientation — to check whether what you’re experiencing is real.
This is especially common in narcissistic and emotionally abusive dynamics. Manipulation thrives on confusion. When words don’t match actions and accountability never arrives, your nervous system goes looking for answers.
That search isn’t weakness. It’s self-preservation.
If you’re here because you’re trying to understand behaviour that doesn’t make sense, it’s time to stop questioning yourself and start questioning the pattern.
For deeper insight, clear explanations, and practical guidance on breaking free from narcissistic and emotional abuse, A Narcissist’s Handbook: The Ultimate Guide to Understanding and Overcoming Narcissistic and Emotional Abuse is linked below.
👉 https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0C87NNBNP
Understanding is the first step back to yourself.
