03/26/2026
Questioning whether you were stupid after ignoring red flags and your own intuition is normal after a narcissistic relationship. (Been there, done that!) 😡
First, you have a loving heart that tries to see the best in people. That’s why you are empathetic and that’s what your narcissistic partner was drawn to!
Second, you didn’t know what you didn’t know. In order to heal you will have to give Grace for who you were at that time - someone without all the knowledge you have now. You now see patterns of behaviors and patterns of emotional abuse that you cannot unsee.
Third, you likely asked questions when a red flag was raised, and you got an answer. You had to make a decision to either keep asking and create conflict, or let it go to keep the peace. You likely chose to keep the peace. That seems reasonable!
The question is really what do you do now? Now that you see the red flags. And now that your intuition is honed in, what do you do?
1️⃣ do you leave the relationship?
2️⃣ do you find a way to stay but be aware?
3️⃣ do you plan for an exit?
4️⃣ do you ignore what you know?
You are not broken. You are not stupid. You were going with the information you had at the time.
But now that you see it and actually feel it, you are so much more likely to develop the skills to know narcissistic, abuse, emotional abuse, manipulation, gaslighting, and consistent lies in the future.
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