The Spiritual & Sassy Therapist & Energetic Business Consultant

10/28/2025

When You Can’t Stop Thinking About How Everyone Else Is Feeling: The Hidden Roots of Emotional Caretaking

Using IFS to understand why you are always worrying about everyone else

10/13/2025

Got an inner-critic voice that has been making you feel worse about yourself? Time to get curious how it might be trying to help you--and help it ease up the pressure.

Understanding Your Inner Critic: How IFS Therapy Helps You Turn Self-Criticism Into Self-Compassion

08/19/2025

When something isn't right in your business, make sure you're checking the right thing. 🤔

This morning I woke to an occasional "chirp", which my sleepy brain first thought was a bird outside my window.

Then I realized the sound was more tech than bird, and was inside the house. I checked all of the smoke detectors, but each time it chirped, it sounded like it was coming from somewhere else--not the one I was standing under.

Got my son to help investigate the sound. The best I could conclude was that is was definitely on the main floor, and "maybe the sound is being thrown/echoing off something...and that's why I don't hear it right by it."🤷‍♀️

Pushed the buttons (which ended up sounding off all of the actual alarms throughout the house since they are all connected), attempted to disconnect to change the battery (nope, not with these sealed lithium battery alarms), and even blew out the vent in case some debris was stuck there.

Eventually my husband came home early from work to try to fix it...or he was going to have to replace all of the detectors in the house (model discontinued).

After about 20 minutes of him taking it apart and trying to figure it out, he realized an important factor: The f'in sound wasn't coming from the smoke detectors--it was coming from the carbon monoxide detector that was hidden on top of a mf cupboard above the dryer!!! 😵‍💫He put it up there when we moved in 3 years ago (instead of mounting it) and forgot about it.

➡️ So what does this have to do with your business?

When you seem to be struggling to create a thriving business, of course there are obvious things you are going to check: Your website, SEO, marketing, networking.

But sometimes those are all going to look good--so then what?
If the obvious things all look good (to you and to others with success in these areas), then it is time to consider what you can't obviously see.

✨It's time to look for the hidden alert system that is telling you something is off: your energy.✨

Your beliefs about yourself and if success is possible for you carry energy my friends. And if you ask your brain, it might tell you that you are worthy of success...but if the results aren't there, you might want to ask your deep-down gut instead. This is where your sneaky beliefs hang out and end up sabotaging your best efforts, because you attract what you feel, not what you say. 🤯

If you know you have some limiting beliefs or if your business isn't hitting the success goals you want, stay tuned to learn how I can help--or reach out to me now and hear about my upcoming solution first🥰

08/18/2025

Hey moms who are on the edge of burnout (or waist-deep in it already), check out this podcast that I was fortunate to be a part of to hear my tips on the importance of getting to the ROOT of what part of you is burned out so that you can begin the process of restoring yourself. (News flash: it's not about needing my bubble baths!) I also have a free checklist and tip sheet included in show notes :)

There are also other episodes with other professionals, all to help moms from different angles, check them all out to see what resonates with you the most!

Podcast Episode · Overcaffeinated and Out of Effs · 08/05/2025 · 51m

08/06/2025

You’ve been the strong one.
The steady one.
The one who always knows what others need.
The helper. The healer. The caregiver.

🤍 But when you're the one holding it all —
the stress, the worry, the pressure to be "ok" —
it builds up quietly… until you feel anxious, disconnected, and drained.

I work with therapists, professional healers of all kinds, and moms who are deeply attuned to others —
but have a harder time tuning into themselves.

If you're stuck in a cycle of self-doubt, burnout, or emotional overwhelm,
this is your invitation to pause.

To turn inward.
To finally clear what's been blocking your clarity, confidence, and self-trust.

Because when you trust yourself, everything shifts — your boundaries, your relationships, your energy.✨

You don’t need another coping strategy or answer from AI — you need the safe and sturdy presence that is going to guide you to change.

👉 Schedule a free consult here (Michigan residents only): www.lisahaysmertherapy.com

08/04/2025

How do you know if they need to change...or you do?

How do you know if they need to change...or you do?

07/05/2025

ATTENTION PRE-LICENSED THERAPISTS:

Studying for your licensing exam is one thing.
Feeling ready is a whole different story.

It’s not always about how much you’ve studied—
It’s about the fear, the pressure, the self-doubt…
…and how those parts hijack your clarity and confidence.

If you’re avoiding, spiraling, or just straight-up panicking when you think about the test—
I made this just for you. 🥰

👉 Download the free “Mindset Readiness Checklist” for pre-licensed therapists.
It’ll help you check in with what’s really going on inside—and give you one powerful tip to start shifting it now.

Get instant access to this free self-check tool to explore what might be blocking your confidence, clarity, and calm as you prepare for your licensing exam.

06/10/2025

Workbooks to help with anxiety can be helpful: they offer information to help you understand anxiety, where it comes from, and strategies to use to reduce the symptoms.

But there is a difference between learning about anxiety and healing anxiety at the root.

Learn why workbooks alone are not enough if you want to truly heal anxiety at the root:

You probably know as well as I do: there are a million workbooks out there for every topic imaginable, including a ton for mental health struggles of all kinds. And since there is an increasing awareness of all of the different types of anxiety (hooray for awareness!) and the many ways it can plague

05/06/2025

Want to know if I am worried about AI taking over my job as a therapist?

Can I use AI instead of therapy?

04/09/2025

Burnout among "helpers & healers" is real and perhaps at an all-time high. In order to heal and prevent future burnout, it is important to address the REAL cause of it--and the answer isn't to take more bubble baths.

The real cause of burnout for health and healing professionals may surprise you, but there is help.

03/09/2025

Whether someone is in a helping profession or just seems to be known as "the one everyone turns to for help", oftentimes they have never been taught how to pay attention to their OWN feelings, needs, and desires...
..and when that happens long enough, things like anxiety, self-doubt, relationship issues and grief eventually bubble to the surface.

"Getting through the day" feels like a permanent goal. Relationships can suffer. Finances become a constant source of stress.

They are so good at helping others, but struggle with asking for their own help, or have no idea how to actually allow others to help. They were taught to care for others, not pay attention to themselves.

It is why I am so passionate and keep finding more ways to help them get to the ROOT of the beliefs that are holding them back, so that they can learn how to shift not only how they feel, but what shows up in their lives.

Doubt becomes hope. Sadness becomes compassion. Fear becomes connection. Stagnation becomes inspiration. ❤

03/05/2025

Perfectionism isn't a diagnosis, but therapy can still help free you from its grip.
Find out how:
https://www.lisahaysmertherapy.com/blog/therapy-for-perfectionism