12/23/2025
This time of year can be challenging for many folks for a number of reasons. There is an expectation of a celebration of Hallmark Movie Channel quality, families that actually like each other and get along, meals that come out of the kitchen perfect, and the presents exchanged that people actually want.
But it isn't always like that. In fact, the Holiday Season is often not like that at all for many of us.
But there IS something in the air this time of year; something that can challenge us to broaden our perspectives a little bit.
Here's a list of activities that as a Therapist I've put together that people have found helpful to do over the Holidays (and any day, really):
1) Connection. Connecting with a non-profit local to you and helping out during the Holidays (and ANY day) is a wonderful way to remember purpose. Purpose is necessary. We all need purpose. Helping someone else is a magnificent way to remember that we're all in this together. I like to be outside; but because I live in Suburban Detroit and its chilly this time of year, I'm outdoors less so I go to my local Planet Fitness and use their machines and enjoy just being around other people while listening to a podcast while I'm doing #2, which is
2) Break a little sweat every day. We used to be a lot more physically active a couple of generations ago. We're not so much any longer, and this needs to change. Exercise can improve mental health by releasing mood-lifting endorphins, reducing stress hormones, improving sleep, increasing self-esteem, and promoting brain health through new cell growth and better connections, helping to fight depression, anxiety, and stress while enhancing focus and resilience.
3) Let sunlight (even if it's cloudy outside) hit your face in the morning hours for 10-15 minutes. This helps to reset your Circadian Rhythm to help you sleep better at night, which is next: Just get outside and do a little walk (or a dance if it's your thing) in the AM. It's good for ya.
4) SLEEP. Quality sleep can't be discussed enough; it's when your body repairs itself and gives your nervous system a break. See #2; move your body, and be tired when you go to bed. Get to bed before midnight and wake up in the morning.
And 5), Food. I know, I know. This is the indulgence time of year. Fine, do it. But also learn to pay attention to your body after you eat something. An hour or two after you eat something, just practice seeing how your body feels. This is awareness in action.
Speaking of awareness, here's a basic breathwork practice that you can do to help settle yourself after a busy day:
Sit in a chair, or on the ground if you wish and can. As long as your spine is straight and supported if need be.
With back straight, let your hands rest in your lap, palms open and facing up.
Close your eyes, or if you're not comfortable closing your eyes, find something that is level to your gaze and let your eyes rest on it. Don’t focus hard, we're not trying to DO anything here. We're just trying to get back in touch with our bodies is all.
Take in a deep breath, and let it come out loudly. Like a sigh. Sigh that breath out. Repeat. Let that exhale and sigh come out like you're hitting the couch after doing a bunch of yard-work outside and it feels SO good. One more deep inhale and sloppy, sighing exhale. Let this exhale go all the way through your body and leave via your toes. Sit with that for a few seconds and just notice if you feel any different. Not trying to, just notice if is all.
Now, breathe in through your nose. Practice feeling that air coming in through your nose, expanding your lungs. Now part your lips slightly and exhale through your mouth. Don't exaggerate it, but do let your exhale be slightly longer than your inhale.
Again, in through your nose - just a natural length inhale, and let your exhale come naturally out of your mouth, slightly longer than your inhale.
Try this for 3-4 minutes if you can. In the evening, before bedtime. If you like, you can also do this in the morning, first thing before leaving your bedroom when you wake up. And anytime in between as well if it suits you.
You might find that you're a little bit more relaxed after just watching your breath a little bit. This kind of practice helps bring down the Sympathetic Nervous System, responsible for our "Fight of Flight" response that is hard wired in our bodies. Once upon a time it had a purpose, but these days we require it less and less. Emotional condition can easily put us into fight or flight, so practicing breath awareness is really great for grounding.
Hope this all helps. Happy Holidays!
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