Mika Ross, Therapist & Relationship Coach

Mika Ross, Therapist & Relationship Coach A page by Mika Ross, believer in your deservingness of good feelings. For more happiness inspiration check out http://www.mikaross.com/
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Get Your Happy Back isn't about always being happy and flashing your perma-grin everywhere you go. That would be ridiculous ... and weird. It's about inspiring and empowering you to make your happiness a priority and enabling you with thoughts, tools, skills, ideas, and perspectives that might help you get your happy back again and again.

01/19/2026

Is it nice? Is it necessary? Is it with the intent to understand?

If your answer is “NOPE” to any of these, what you’re about to say is likely gonna break one of our family rules.

Whether you’re trying to change people’s minds on the internet (spoiler: disrespect won’t do that) or have less chaos and yelling at home, the strategies inside the Family Rules, Chores, and Systems for Discipline Workshop are for you.

Comment or DM us HALP for more info 🙂

We haven’t addressed this with our 13-yr-old yet. I’m currently more concerned about my older kids getting caught in the...
01/17/2026

We haven’t addressed this with our 13-yr-old yet. I’m currently more concerned about my older kids getting caught in the wrong place at the wrong time and needing to be prepared.

🌡️ 1. Teens can handle hard facts. What overwhelms them is:
- Feeling alone with the information
- Feeling like there’s no plan
- Feeling like the adults are hiding something

So, the goal isn’t to shield them —it’s to co-regulate the meaning of what’s happening.

🧭 2. Use the Truth + Context + Agency model. The facts, why it matters, what we can do.

🧠 3. At 16 & 18 they can detect when adults are withholding and fill in the gaps with something worse.

🧩 4. Share facts. Do NOT share:
- catastrophic predictions
- graphic details
- social media panic
- anything framed as “we’re doomed”
- your own unprocessed fear

❤️ 5. Stress isn’t th enemy. A little stress is appropriate. It’s adaptive. It’s protective. It’s honest.

Teach them how to metabolize reality without collapsing under it.

There are “know your rights” printables all over the internet. We delivered those with our talk.

01/16/2026

Great people can have not-so-great relationships…but it doesn’t have to be this way. Comment or message us “conflict” and we’ll send you access to a free training about the #1 skill lasting relationships need :)

01/15/2026

If, like me, your sensitive heart can’t take the onslaught of bad news that comes at us daily, from one ultra-sensitive soul to another, I believe we have crossed the line where burying our heads is protecting us 〰️ to burying our heads is more harmful.

I really hate to say it, but it’s time. Dust off the sand. Big feelers can do hard things 😩 but BELIEVE ME when I say I don’t say this lightly.

Of course, there are exceptions to this and I won’t judge you if you feel like you just cannot. But for those of you who can, I’m over here swimming in this ultra-uncomfortable ocean, too.

Let’s all agree to get takeout and be okay with piles of dog hair on the floor, okay?

01/15/2026

ADHD isn’t a kiss of death when it comes to relationships. In fact, I think ADHDers have a relationship superpower and reveal what I think that superpower is in our latest podcast episode (comment or DM us PODCAST and we’ll send you the link).

I believe knowledge is power when it comes to ADHD relationship struggles and the more we know about how our brains 🧠 work and how they might be diverse, the better.

🗣️ADHDers might be particularly sensitive to sound. How dare you chew so loud with your mouth closed! What were you thinking?

🥊 High sensitivity and living closer to their fight or flight response can add up to being quick to defend to perceived criticism. YOUR MOM!!

🤬 People with ADHD often report having BIG FEELINGS and a quickness to anger and irritability. I might hear partners say they “go from 0-100” and “I don’t know which version of him I’m gonna get.”

🧱 Being flexible might not be ADHDers strong suit. If the shirt they want to wear is in the laundry, they’re not going to the party….at least not before throwing a laundry-tantrum first.

🕳️ All-or-nothing thinking might lead to feeling like they are a total failure if they’re not the absolute best…but also like others are the worst if they don’t meet their expectations.

😭 Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria. Google it. It can be life-paralyzing if we aren’t aware of it.

🤗 in an effort to protect themselves from perceived rejection, or from not being the worst, ADHDers can slide onto the slippery no-win slope of attempting to be perfect.

🍺 People with ADHD are more likely to experience issues with substance abuse…likely to numb all those big feelings.

There’s also a long list of positives to being in relationship with someone with ADHD, too. Hear more about those and what to do if these weird things are getting in your relationship’s way on the PODACAST ;-)

And if you need help parenting your ADHDer, comment HALP below

       

01/14/2026

The second-biggest predictor of a woman’s marital satisfaction?
Feeling like things are fair at home.

It’s less romantic getaways or love notes.
And more dishes done. Laundry folded. School forms intercepted, filled out, and sent back.

Divide the load ➡️ multiply the joy.

P.S. Want our course on how to divide family & household tasks? Comment or DM us RELATE and we'll send you info!

01/13/2026

DM or comment HALP if you’re ready for parenting to feel gentler on you…and less like a hostage situation.

Kind and firm, but how? We show you…and even give you templates to back it up.

01/12/2026

It’s everything I wish I’d known and nothing I learned in school 🫠

Comment or DM “FREEBIE” for the freebie 😉

01/09/2026

Fairness in relationships isn’t just a home problem, it’s a CULTURAL one.
The world still assumes moms are the default parent and that dads are a backup plan. But that mindset isn’t just putting pressure on moms – it also devalues dads.

We talk about it all (and why “fair” takes constant recalibration) on the How to Talk About It podcast

Comment or DM us PODCAST and we will send you the 🔗

WDYM i have to think about what’s for dinner?? 😒
01/08/2026

WDYM i have to think about what’s for dinner?? 😒

01/07/2026

Send them a thank you note for this very clear validation that YOU are not on their track 🙌

And *THIS* is what I mean when I say that HOW you communicate with YOURSELF is important 😉

01/05/2026

6 MILLION views So glad I got all those degrees and this is the stuff you guys are into 😒🤪

Follow for tiny tips for better relationships... and laughs.

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