11/19/2025
“Being loved is minimum.”
As a relationship therapist who has walked with couples for over two decades, I say this with all sincerity:
Love is the starting point, not the destination.
Anybody can say “I love you.”
But what makes a relationship truly thrive is what happens after the words.
Love must become:
✨ Consistency
✨ Safety
✨ Accountability
✨ Effort
✨ Responsibility
✨ Emotional maturity
✨ Daily choices—not occasional feelings
Being loved is the minimum…
Being cherished is different.
Being understood is deeper.
Being prioritized is intentional.
Being safe with someone is priceless.
Being grown with is the real goal.
If you find yourself holding on to “at least he/she loves me,” you may be settling for a version of love that isn’t supporting your emotional well-being.
As Coach Bose, I’ve seen this pattern over and over again:
People cling to the bare minimum because they’re afraid of asking for more—more effort, more communication, more presence, more respect, more healing.
But hear me clearly today…
You deserve love that *nourishes* you, not love that keeps you guessing.
You deserve partnership, not confusion.
You deserve emotional safety, not emotional survival.
You deserve someone who loves you in action, not just in words.
So if you’re reading this, here’s your gentle reminder:
Love is the beginning.
Growth is the journey.
Intentionality is the glue.
And two healed people choosing each other daily—that is the real “happily ever after.”
Don’t settle for the minimum.
You are worthy of more.
