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03/17/2023

IN THE END YOU ARE ALL ALONE

I took this photo along time ago. This is a boy praying that all his troubles, his pain and above all, his mistakes would all go away. His name is Maria (What a funny name for a boy) He hoped the sunset would take it all away. He was standing there not seeing me watching him, only for the next thing he heard was my voice telling him that things doesn't work the way they work in his head. I spent some time with him, listening to all he had to say and for a brief moment I felt all his pain, all his mistakes. He only wished those he made those mistakes for could live his life for a day only then will they really understand what it feels like to be in his shoes. Because I could see it deep down in his eyes that he was all alone.

Sometimes you hear someone say"I regretted the the I met you", I wished I had never got on that bus", my greatest mistake was ever knowing you" and so on.. Depending on who and how you see it, not all mistakes are bad, not all mistakes are flawed but yet it is a mistake nonetheless because it all comes with consequences. You making a mistake may be good for a loved one and you face the consequences of your actions. Now this said loved one may know about said mistake, other times they may not know about what mistakes you had to made for them to be happy. Now if you have ever found yourself in such a situation, ask yourself. Is it a good mistake or a bad mistake?, Should you be partially happy because you made someone happy or should you feel bad because you have to face the consequences alone?. If given the opportunity to go back in time, would you be willing to make the same mistake?

This past few months I have made lots of mistakes, perhaps the greatest mistake I have made since I was born.
There are times I wish I could talk to someone about it but no matter how many times a friend, a family, a sibling or a lover say they are there for you when ever you want to talk, you still cannot find one person you can talk to because deep down you know that they will never fully understand you.

-IF ONLY THEY COULD LIVE YOUR LIFE FOR A DAY AND SEE THE WORLD THROUGH YOUR EYES ONLY THEN WOULD THEY FULLY UNDERSTAND WHAT IT IS TO BE YOU-

Maria said " In the end we are all alone, no matter how many mistakes you have to make, no matter how many wrong moves you have to make just so a loved one would be happy, no matter how many praises you get from them. When the consequences comes you will have to face them alone, no one is going to willingly pass through a bit of pain for you, you will suffer those pains alone, you will have to be the one to pick yourself back up because in the end we are all alone".

No one will fully understand why you do what you do, many may call you stupid but they will never know the things you have to go through for them, the mistakes you had to make for them, the hidden battle you fight and hide behind a smile just because you want to see them happy.
So I tell this day, It_Is_Time to make those mistakes for yourself, if ever you decide to make a mistake, make a mistake you will be willing to make a hundred times over. Because in the end, your mistakes are yours and yours alone and so are the consequences that comes with it.

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02/11/2023

It_Is_Time TO MAKE HASTE WHILE THE SUN STILL SHINES
TODAY IS SURE BUT TOMORROW IS NEVER GUARANTEED

A friend of my passed away and his funeral was three days ago. His siblings came and some of them were crying bitterly. I got to know that he had a little quarrel with them and they didn't speak for over 10 year. Never did they know that 10 years would be far spent and these years can never be gotten back.

When a loved one dies, it can be difficult to keep their memory alive. Many people feel they must do something special to remember them, but that is not always the case. There are simple things you can do every day to keep your loved one’s memory alive and close to your heart. In this post, we will discuss some of the best ways to achieve this goal and honour the memory of your loved one.

1-TO REMIND US OF THE HAPPY TIMES WE SHARED

After a loved one dies, it can feel like a part of us has died along with them. Grief can be all-consuming, making it difficult to think of anything else. In this pain, it is natural to want to keep the memory of our loved ones alive. This can be done in many ways, such as by sharing stories, looking at photographs, spending time on engraved memorial benches as you think about them, or keeping a journal.

While it may not seem like much, these small actions can make a big difference. Keeping the memory of our loved ones alive helps to remind us of the happy times we shared. It can give us comfort and hope during dark times. Most importantly, it ensures that their memory will live long after they are gone.

2-IT MAKES US GRATEFUL FOR WHAT WE HAD

It can be easy to forget all the good times we shared with our loved ones during pain and loss. Keeping their memories alive can help us appreciate how lucky we were to have them in our lives. Remember all the good times you had together.

The things your loved one taught you and the things you taught them back. This will bring a positive mood and help you appreciate all the periods of time that you spent together and be able to make all those memories. If there are things you own as one, try and talk about it if you are comfortable disclosing that information.

3-IT ENABLE US TO PASS DOWN STORIES

Our family history is important to who we are, and remembering our loved ones can help us preserve precious stories and traditions for future generations. The things that our loved ones experience might not be the same things that we experience. There is a need for the coming generations to know them. The best way to express their greatness is by telling stories of their sound and honourable deeds. They will get a picture of how the family has been great and hence find it necessary to maintain its good name.

So to pick up that phone, call that love one, brother, sister, friend and start making memories because time waits for no one.

09/28/2022

GETTING READY FOR THE FUTURE.

“There’s a reason your windshield is bigger than your rearview mirror. What lies ahead of you is more important than anything behind you.”

I heard that quote recently and it got me thinking. Here we are, just a few months into 2023. I’m not sure what the future will bring, but one thing is certain—it’ll be a lot different than last year.

For every change, there’s an opportunity—if only we can recognize it and make something good or useful out of it. There are some among us who always do. Those visionaries with an uncanny instinct for knowing what’s coming next and capitalizing on it, like Jobs or Bezos or Musk.

What habits can we learn from these extraordinary entrepreneurs that can help us be better? Three things
come to mind:

1. Stay Curious:
Children have this gift naturally, perhaps because they have so little past. This is where the windshield comes in. It’s amazing what we can learn just by keeping our eyes open. It’s all out there, waiting to be noticed. But we must look actively, not passively, or we’ll miss it.

2. Challenge Our Assumptions: Everything we’ve ever learned is in the rearview mirror. We have to let go of old ideas or there will be no room for new ones. The trick is to gracefully surrender our assumptions to the new reality rushing at us.

3. Pour On The Imagination:
Once we spot a trend, or have an insight, it’s time to put on our thinking caps. Two-time Nobel Prize laureate Linus Pauling said, “The best way to get a good idea is to have a lot of ideas.” It’s all about getting that picture out in front of us clearly in our minds and letting our imaginations do the rest.

I don’t know about you, but sometimes it can seem a little overwhelming, imagining this big future rushing at me where so much of what I’ve worked so hard to learn is constantly becoming obsolete.

But then I think, would I really want this coming months to be exactly like past ones? How boring would that be? No, the only way to live life fully is by throwing out the old maps, opening our eyes and putting the pedal to the metal.

4. Kill All Emotions.
"What's broken cannot be whole again" but what can one do? Fix yourself accept what is and move on. Recently I completely lost the most important person in my life and I spent days and nights mourning, lamenting. Then I said to myself, if I want to get back what I have lost I would become a better version of myself and will work so hard never to lose anything and anyone close to my heart.

# to see the bigger picture. Not tomorrow, not next week, not next year. The time is now.

GET READY FOR THE FUTURE
GET READY FOR YOUR FUTURE

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09/21/2022

IT IS TIME TO RISE FROM THE ASHES OF THE FIRE WHICH CONSUMED US

“Suffering and joy teach us, if we allow them, how to make the leap of empathy, which transports us into the soul and heart of another person. In those transparent moments we know other people’s joys and sorrows, and we care about their concerns as if they were our own.”
~Fritz Williams

“Phoenix rising from the ashes.” This phrase popped into my head recently, and I wasn’t sure why until I did the research. As the story goes, the phoenix is a mythical bird with fiery plumage that lives up to 100 years. Near the end of its life, it settles in to its nest of twigs which then burns ferociously, reducing bird and nest to ashes. And from those ashes, a fledgling phoenix rises – renewed and reborn.

And now I get it. This is the story of my life in the past few months – especially the part about burning ferociously. Life presented me with some challenging circumstances that left me just hanging on. And now, sanity has returned. I look out with fresh eyes. The fog has lifted, and the dark clouds have moved on.

My experience is not unique – it happens to all of us at some point, it’s a part of the human journey. But this was my time, and I’d like to share with you what I’ve learned along the way.

RESISTANCE IS NATURAL
When life threw me a curve, I longed for the turmoil to be over with. I wanted to pick myself up and move on. I tried hard to create a plan, to know what I didn’t know, to gain control. I was so busy trying to make things happen that I overlooked what was actually happening.

I ignored my feelings and resisted the present moment. Yes, me, the one who talks about welcoming all of our experience with a loving, open heart. I was doing everything but.

Finally, I realized my approach wasn’t working. I stopped trying. I let myself be frustrated and impatient. I admitted that there was so much I didn’t know, and I let go of figuring it all out. Life was messy, so I suspended my fruitless attempts to clean it up.

And this was the beginning of the fire, as there was space for feelings and reactions to surface.

THINGS HAPPEN IN THEIR OWN TIME
When I look back I see that I had very little control over what happened. The seasons of my experience had to run their course – severe winter storms, cold and darkness, then the seeds hidden from view beginning to sprout. The best I could do was ride the waves, which I did.

FORGETTING AND REMEMBERING JOY
When darkness descends, joy is blotted out, buried, seemingly non-existent. Everything weighed like a heavy burden, all my activities felt like obligations. When I realized that I had forgotten joy, Every time I found myself wandering around in a fog and everytime I did I took long walks, listen to music and somehow I find peace

And I focused on others – being a good friend, showing up for someone in need even though no one seem to be around for me, it didn't stop me.

STAYING CLOSE TO THE BONE
Things started to shift when I made the commitment to find direction in my moment-to moment experience. The big picture was way too nebulous, but I realized that in each moment there had been a kernel of truth, a clarity, a “yes” that showed me my next step.

I recognized that this guidance had been there all along, but I was too caught up in trying to find solutions to see it. Then I let go of paying so much attention to the stories running through my mind, of trying to control, of avoiding strong feelings, much to my surprise, I found the groundedness I was looking for – the truth in every moment.

SUPPORT THE ESSENTIAL
At the beginning, I was planning on going it alone, and I wouldn’t recommend it. Eventually, I reached out, allowing the vulnerability of asking for advice, talking to someone. It came in so many beautiful, unexpected ways, but I had to let someone know I needed it. And a few minutes with my personal therapist, she offered some very useful insights.

THE CLOUDS DO PART
“This too shall pass” were empty words to me. I looked into the future, and all I could see was confusion. My negative mind had taken over, and I couldn’t see my way out.

But the clouds do part in their own time. The human spirit is resilient and wants to find its way home to wholeness.

suddenly I realized that I could be happy, and soon after, I saw that I was smiling. The sad and frustrated stories in my mind had fallen away, and the emotions that had captured me softened. I can breathe freely again.

EVENTUALLY OPENING TO THE LESSONS
Now I can reflect on what I had just learned in the past few hours

*Let things happen
*Give up trying to control.
*Don’t pretend you know what you don’t know.
*Stay close to what you know is true in the moment.
*Feeling bad isn’t wrong – it’s just how things are sometimes.
*Take good care of yourself.
*Engage with others.
*Reach out for support and advice
*When the time is right, feel the emotions.
*Get perspective – learn what not to do next time.

So there it is – my story. And now I turn it over to you. What have you learned about going through hard times? I’d love to hear…

04/18/2022

LEADERS IT IS TIME TO TAKE THE BULL BY THE HORNS

Good leadership requires motivation, initiative and courage. This is exemplified by the act of taking charge. Take the bull by the horns. Projects, organizations, clients, customers and crisis situations can represent the bull. Do we let it run out of control, show it more red or do we take the bull by the horns and gain control over the escalating situation? I choose option 3.

The other question to consider is - do we always want to grab the bull's horns? Maybe we can find a way to work a different way perhaps not show the bull red... flank the bull... alternatives may turn out better in the end.

WHAT IS THE BULL?
Stimulus - whether it be a change a crisis or other event that requires action.

RESPONSE- take action.

OUTCOME- successful action taken to handle the situation.

Could it be that simple? A few caveats...

ACTION PLANNING
Taking action can be reactive. We want to be as proactive as possible. Every situation will dictate what action may be required and sometimes you may have to make a snap decision. Not always.

Action planning (and training to take action) is helpful. You can use tabletops, play or runbooks and simulations to assist in action planning and testing. You should attempt to plan to find a set of focus areas such as what are your objectives or goals, what process do you want to follow and what is the ultimate strategy that dictates your planning. You should assume that some decisions can be made quickly and easily. You may even be prepared for them. Others may require analysis. Other decisions may need to be made quickly while others can be made over time. Taking the bull by the horns does not always have to be done immediately. You also need to consider your team.

LEADING THE TEAM
Being a leader in a situation where you need to take action requires a basic understanding of what strengths may be required:

Having Courage
- having courage as well as confidence is a requirement for taking the bull by the horns. It may not always be a popular decision to make. Others may be attempting to grab the bull. The bull may seem to be overpowering.

Being Creative and Flexible
- being able to adapt and overcome the situation is important and it will require you to be flexible. Creative leadership skills are helpful when attempting to solution a charging bull.
Being Inspirational - when in the face of danger, others look at you and to you for guidance. You need to be a source of inspiration to others that this challenge will be met. Inspire others through your actions.

Fostering Great Teamwork
- being a great team leader during times of challenge or stress can become more difficult so make sure you are prepared to lead your team in the best manner possible. Make sure they support each other.

Excellent Communication
- always communicate! Not just with the team, but to others who will be engaged and always consider the message. (see emotional intelligence below).

Preparation
- proactively preparing for situations can help. Do your best to actively plan and use an action plan for these types of situations and drill them. Remember they are very situational and have many dimensions so you will not be able to capture them all in testing.
Knowledge - having experience and knowledge of action planning is helpful. Having experience helps to build up muscle memory in dealing with situations but never fully rely on it - always remain flexible and ready to apply creativity as needed or required.
Emotional Intelligence
I put emotional intelligence as a separate item in this post because it is very easy to charge when shown the red cape - it is common to become emotional. You also need to account for stress. You do not want to become a bull-y. Bull is charging, do not shake with fear. Lead your team and focus. Rely on your skill sets and communicate often. Do not let the bull rattle you into make a rash decision. Do not let the stress make you weak and cause you to react poorly with your team.
Have the self-confidence to tackle this bull and do so with grace. Becoming irrational and/or indifferent will not help when leading others. The bull will not flinch.

Is this a bunch of bull? No. Believe it or not, these situations come up often and are usually reactive by nature. You need to do action planning and derive action learning from it. This is how you can prepare and be ready.

SUMMARY
When making decisions you hope to be effective. Taking the bull by the horns can be an interesting decision to make because you may miscalculate and get stuck by the horns. Action planning can help you proactively plan for this type of situation but not always. You also need to put away fear and take out the courage. When the bull is shown the red cape it may get tricky. Always use your best judgment especially when reactively handling the bull. Take the bull by the horns and make sure you have the strength and conviction to wrestle it down to submission once you have made the commitment to do so. Failure to do so may infuriate the bull and send it charging again

HAVE YOU EVER NEEDED TO RELY ON ACTION PLANNING? ARE YOU THE VICTIM OF A BULLY-Y? DO YOU AGREE THAT LEADERS NEED TO TAKE THE BULL BY THE HORN? I WOULD LOVE TO HEAR YOUR FEEDBACK, COMMENT AND STORIES! THANK YOU .

03/25/2022

There is a world of difference in being successful and staying hungry for success. There are plenty of examples of people who really could not keep up their drive for success when it matter. This is the reason that they ended up from being success stories to forgotten faces.

I recently read about one of the people who joined Facebook in its first year of inception — Noah Kagan. Being the 30th employee to join the rapidly growing company, taking success for granted and not knowing what he was doing prevented him from being a billionaire to someone who is trying to get as rich as possible.

This is not to say that he was not hungry for success. But this is just to exemplify that at one point in his career he lost his focus to stay hungry for success and ended up becoming just an ordinary IT guy.
So, the question is what is that one can do to stay inspired and hungry for success? Well, here are a few cents of knowledge that has inspired me to stay hungry for success

1- DON'T LET IT GET TO YOUR HEAD

Like it was in Kagan’s case, he let success get to the head. Kagan himself says,” I used to host startup gatherings at Facebook’s headquarters because I enjoyed showing off where I worked. I also wrote frequent posts on OKDork.com about Facebook’s business. There was this one point where Mark pulled me to the side and asked me to choose between Facebook and myself. But, I still did not get the hint.”
This is the perfect example of how one can easily get derailed from the track of success if one lets it get to the head. And, that’s the first secret to stay hungry for success — don’t let success get to the head. It’s okay to show off what you have achieved, but at the same time you must always remember that it’s just the first step. Getting success at work is the second hardest thing in the world, staying hungry for it even after succeeding is the hardest!

2- READ A LOT!

Reading is one of the most powerful habits that one can have in life. Take a look at all the great leaders in history, and even today, they all have been ardent readers. As a matter of fact, Elon Musk has even said that the only reason why he was able to build a rocket was because he read books.
This is not to say that you must read because people like Elon, Bill Gates, Mark Zuckerberg all are reading, but because it is one habit that gives you a new perspective of looking at things. You have limited amount of time in life. Hence, you cannot have the luxury to experience on your own. But reading is the closest you can ever get to experience something that you have not done. That’s the best thing about it!

3- BE A LITTLE SELFISH

Selfish is a really harsh word, but I could not find a more appropriate word to describe this situation. The road of leadership is quite tough, it brings along with it some tough decisions. But to keep yourself hungry for success you need to become a little selfish. You need to leave the emotions aside while taking decision, and think what’s going to help you grow.
This might mean that sometimes you have to hurt the sentiments of others, but all in good spirit. Don’t do something intentionally to hurt someone. But, if it is needed for the business growth, be a little selfish.

4- STAY GRATEFUL FOR EVERYTHING

Humility is something that will keep your vigor for success up. When you are humble you take success as a journey not as a destination. This is the reason why the richest and the most successful names in the world, the likes of Steve Jobs, Warren Buffet, Mark Zuckerberg, Larry Page, Bill Gates, believe in being rich and not showing off that they are rich.
They embrace the fact that success is bound to come when you put sincere efforts. It is for those who think of success as destination that remaining hungry once they have reached that destination becomes difficult.

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03/19/2022

Anger is one of the most common negative emotions, in that when a person is upset or frustrated over somebody or something, it manifests as anger. Though we may not notice on a routine basis, there are various forms of anger and it has a lot of negative effect on the overall physical and emotional health. Some people also are more prone to feel angry and manifest it openly, who is known as “short-tempered.” Read on to know more about anger and how to manage anger effectively.

In today’s world though, you cannot throw a fit of rage and say it is because of your short-tempered nature. There are extreme instances of violence triggered by anger, so it is necessary to learn to conquer your anger.

DIFFERENT PEOPLE RESPOND TO ANGER IN DIFFERENT WAYS, COMMONLY AS:

Verbal anger: The person who is angry, abuses the other person or sometimes throws rage at a totally different person to vent out the anger.
Passive anger: Though these people are less expressive when angry, they show their anger through sarcasm directed at the person who induced anger.
Self-inflicted Anger: These people inflict anger on themselves through self-harm acts like minor cuts, bruises, beating oneself, digging nails into their flesh or burns to release their anger.

SYMPTOMS OF ANGER AND AGGRESSION
We may respond to anger in physical and psychological ways such as those listed below:

Anger – physical responses:
increased heart rate and blood pressure, sweating, muscle tension, clenched jaw

Anger – psychological responses:
feelings of frustration, feelings of rejection, feelings of mistreatment, hostility towards some people

Aggression:
shouting at people (e.g. family, colleagues, strangers, physical violence (e.g. hitting, punching people or slamming doors), ignoring or socially excluding others (passive aggression)

WHY ARE SOME PEOPLE SHORT-TEMPERED
Some people really are more impetuous than others. They get aggressive more easily and more intensely as compared to others. There are also those who don't show their anger in loud ways but are chronically irritable and grumpy. People who are easily angered don't always curse and throw things; sometimes they get off socially, sulk, drink/smoke or get physically ill.

Easily angered people generally have what we call as "A low tolerance for frustration, aggravations and hassles of daily living" and sometimes overreact to the many common problems of daily living. They feel that they should not be subjected to frustration, annoyance, or inconvenience. They can't take things in stride, and are particularly infuriated if the situation in some way seems illogical: for example, such people might be miffed on being corrected for even a minor blunder.

HOW ANGER AFFECTS OUR LIVES

Physical effects of anger: Anger triggers the body’s ‘fight or flight’ response. Other emotions that trigger this response include anxiety, fear and excitement. The adrenal glands flood the body with stress hormones, such as adrenaline and cortisol. The brain shunts blood away from the gut and towards the muscles, in preparation for physical exertion. Heart rate, blood pressure and respiration increase, the body temperature rises and the skin perspires. The mind is sharpened and focused.

Health problems with anger: The constant flood of stress chemicals and associated metabolic changes that go with recurrent unmanaged anger can eventually cause harm to many different systems of the body. Some of the short and long-term health problems that have been linked to unmanaged anger include:

Headache
Insomnia
Digestion problems, such as abdominal pain
Increased anxiety
High blood pressure
Depression
Heart attack
Stroke
Skin problems, such as eczema

IMPACT OF ANGER ON OUR RELATIONS
Anger at home: Anger is a normal emotion but not being able to control your anger at home can damage your personal relationships. When you get angry, it stresses your partner out and breaks the trust in your relationship. When it comes to children, shouting at them can confuse them and make them afraid of you. In the long run, this can affect their social skills.
Anger at the workplace: Getting angry at your workplace can reduce your productivity and harm your relationships with your colleagues. The angrier you get in the office, the more your colleagues and clients will avoid you. Thus, you may risk missing out on crucial teamwork projects that can affect your career growth. A reputation for anger can also make you a target for revenge and lawsuits.
Anger in society: Nobody wants to interact with a person who has a reputation for getting easily offended and angered. Thus the angrier you get, the more your friends will keep away from you. This can be quite frustrating and can make you an even angrier person. Uncontrolled anger can also lead to physical outbursts that can put you in trouble with the law.
Anger is a strong and powerful emotion. If it isn’t handled appropriately, it may have destructive results for you and those closest to you. Uncontrolled anger can lead to arguments, physical abuse, physical fights, self-harm and assault. On the other hand, well-managed anger can be a useful emotion that motivates you to make positive changes

ANGER MANAGEMENT - SUGGESTIONS FOR LONG-TERM ANGER MANAGMENT

The way you typically express anger may take some time to modify. Suggestions include:

Keep a diary of your anger outbursts, to try and understand how and why you get mad.
Learn relaxation techniques, such as meditation or yoga.
Consider assertiveness training, or learning about techniques of conflict resolution.
See a counsellor or psychologist if you still feel angry about events that occurred in your past.
Exercise regularly.

BENEFITS OF REGULAR EXERCISE IN MOOD MANAGEMENT
People who are stressed are more likely to experience anger. Studies have documented that regular exercise can reduce stress levels and improve one's mood. This may be because physical exertion burns up stress chemicals, and it also boosts production of mood-regulating neurotransmitters in the brain, including endorphins and catecholamines.

TEACHING CHILDREN HOW TO EXPRESS ANGER
Expressing anger appropriately is a learned behaviour. Suggestions on helping your child to deal with strong feelings include: Lead by example.

Treat your child’s feelings with respect.
Let them know that anger is natural and should be expressed appropriately.
Teach practical problem-solving skills.
Encourage open and honest communication in the home.
Explain the difference between aggression and anger.
Teach your child different ways of calming and soothing themselves.
Punish aggression or violence, but not appropriately expressed anger. If you wish to discuss about any specific problem, you can consult a Homeopath.

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