10/29/2025
Even if you're not a parent, this holds true.
When we're living on autopilot, chances are we're reacting to what's in front of us. If you're also someone who gets overwhelmed by your own emotions (or your child’s), you're more likely to react to your feelings rather than the situation. That’s distress intolerance: the feeling shows up, and we immediately try to make it go away by fixing, avoiding, distracting, or rescuing.
And yes, that might bring short-term relief, but long-term it reinforces the idea that big feelings are dangerous.
When we have the skill set to respond, we can respond to the situation without being distracted by our feelings.
That’s why the shift from reaction to response matters so much.
📚 This is the skill set I break down in my new book, Just Do Nothing (for parents): How to Parent Better by Doing Less. Get your copy today!