Monica Yost Kiss - Monz Counseling LLC

Monica Yost Kiss - Monz Counseling LLC Welcome! Monica Yost Kiss, MPH, MSW, LISW-S (Licensed Independent Social Worker) is a mental health therapist and sole owner of Monz Counseling, LLC.

She has nearly 20 years experience providing counseling and advocacy services. Monica Yost Kiss, the owner of a Monz Counseling, is a licensed independent social worker (LISW-S) in the state of Ohio. She has nearly 20 years of experience providing mental health services for individuals, groups, and families in a variety of settings including college counseling centers, community mental health agencies, hospitals and private practice. She works with clients coping with life transitions, relationship concerns, traumatic events, and mood & anxiety disorders including Depression, Bipolar Disorder, GAD, PTSD, as well as developmental disabilities such as ADHD. Monica specializes in counseling and advocacy services for those who have experienced interpersonal trauma including domestic violence and sexual assault. She has received clinical training in TF-CBT, CPT, DBT, and MI.

When Chaos Hits, Some Minds Become Clearer
01/08/2026

When Chaos Hits, Some Minds Become Clearer

When Chaos Hits, Some Minds Become Clearer

There is a quiet truth hidden inside this image, a truth many people live with but rarely explain out loud. When everything is calm, predictable, and slow, some minds feel restless, scattered, and heavy. But when life suddenly turns urgent, when decisions matter and time collapses into seconds, those same minds often become unusually clear. This is not drama or exaggeration. It is a lived experience for many people whose brains work differently.

This post is not about glorifying struggle, and it is not about romanticizing difficulty. It is about understanding a reality that is often misunderstood, mislabeled, or ignored.

The Moment Everything Changes

Imagine a room where tension suddenly fills the air. Something has gone wrong. People freeze. Voices overlap. Fear rises quietly. In moments like these, most people feel their thoughts blur. Their hands shake. Their confidence disappears.

But for some, something very different happens.

The noise fades. The mind sharpens. Thoughts line up with surprising precision. Decisions feel obvious instead of overwhelming. There is no panic, no spiraling doubt, just a clear internal voice saying, “This needs to be done now.”

It feels almost like stepping into focus after a lifetime of static.

Why Calm Can Be Harder Than Crisis

Daily life is full of small, undefined demands. Emails without urgency. Tasks without clear deadlines. Conversations without structure. Expectations that are implied but never spoken. For certain brains, this kind of environment is exhausting.

Without urgency, motivation leaks away. Without stakes, focus slips. Without pressure, the mind drifts between thoughts without landing on any of them.

This is often mistaken for laziness, disinterest, or lack of discipline. In reality, it is a nervous system that struggles to engage when nothing feels immediate or meaningful.

Emergency situations change the rules completely.

Urgency Creates Clarity

In a crisis, the brain receives what it has been craving all along: clear priorities. There is no guessing what matters. There is no room for distraction. Everything irrelevant falls away on its own.

The same brain that struggles to start simple tasks suddenly performs complex mental calculations effortlessly. The same person who forgets appointments can remember every detail under pressure. The same mind accused of being unreliable becomes the most dependable one in the room.

This is not coincidence. It is chemistry, wiring, and lived experience intersecting in a moment that finally makes sense.

The Hidden Cost of Always Being “The Calm One”

People often praise this ability without seeing its cost.

“You’re so good in emergencies.”
“You always know what to do when things go wrong.”
“I don’t know how you stay so calm.”

What they do not see is what happens after. The crash. The exhaustion. The emotional aftermath that comes once the adrenaline fades. They do not see how hard it is to function when life returns to normal and the structure disappears again.

They also do not see how often this skill develops as a survival strategy. Many people who thrive in crisis learned early that chaos required them to step up, think fast, and stay alert. Over time, their nervous system adapted to operate best under pressure.

This does not mean they want constant emergencies. It means their brain learned to feel safest when there is something urgent to solve.

Intelligence Looks Different Here

Traditional ideas of intelligence reward consistency, routine, and steady output. But intelligence is not one shape. It is not always neat or predictable.

Some minds are strategic under fire.
Some minds are creative when limits collapse.
Some minds see solutions when others only see danger.

These strengths rarely show up on resumes or in classrooms. They appear in moments that do not allow hesitation. They shine when mistakes matter.

And yet, these same minds are often criticized during ordinary days for struggling with focus, motivation, or organization.

Not Broken, Just Context-Dependent

The problem is not that these people only function in emergencies. The problem is that the world is not designed to recognize context-based strengths.

When society values constant productivity over situational brilliance, people begin to believe there is something wrong with them. They push themselves to fit systems that drain them instead of environments that support them.

The truth is simpler and kinder.

A brain that excels in crisis is not defective. It is specialized.

Learning to Build Health Without Waiting for Chaos

Living only for emergencies is not sustainable. No one should have to wait for disaster to feel alive, capable, or clear-headed.

The real work begins when people learn how to create structure, meaning, and urgency in healthier ways. Not artificial pressure, but intentional systems that support how their mind naturally operates.

This might mean breaking tasks into time-bound challenges. It might mean working in short, focused bursts. It might mean choosing roles that involve problem-solving, adaptability, or real-world impact.

It always means self-understanding instead of self-judgment.

A Different Kind of Strength

The image speaks to something powerful: clarity does not always come from calm. For some, clarity is born in motion, in urgency, in moments where everything matters.

This does not make one superior or inferior. It makes one different.

And difference is not something to fix. It is something to understand, support, and respect.

Because when the world shakes, these minds do not crumble.

They focus.

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12/31/2025

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A Timeline of Acceptance: When your child receives a diagnosis
12/10/2025

A Timeline of Acceptance: When your child receives a diagnosis

A big thank you to Laura for asking for this series 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

Long before a diagnosis is given, most parents have already been walking a difficult road.
There are the waitlists, the endless evidence gathering, the feeling of being dismissed or not believed, and the quiet worry that grows when you know something isn’t being understood. By the time a diagnosis arrives, parents are often already exhausted, stretched thin, and carrying months — sometimes years — of emotional weight.

A diagnosis doesn’t start the journey; it simply changes its shape.
For many, it brings a mixture of relief and grief, clarity and confusion. It can feel like a doorway finally opening while another quietly closes. The moment of diagnosis often lands on top of everything that came before it, which is why emotions can feel so big and so conflicting.

The timeline I’m sharing today recognises that this process is layered and deeply human.
It reflects the shock of hearing things formally acknowledged, the turbulence that can follow, and the steady, gradual movement toward understanding and confidence. These stages aren’t neat or linear — they reflect the lived experience of parents doing their best.

It’s important to remember that nothing about your reaction is wrong.
Parents often worry that they should feel only relief or only sadness, but the truth is that most feel both — and much more. You may grieve the time lost to waiting. You may feel anger at systems that made you fight so hard. You may also feel clarity, connection, and hope.

This timeline is here to help you make sense of that inner landscape.
Whatever stage you’re in — whether you’re still processing the past, navigating the heavy middle, or beginning to see the path ahead — your experience is valid, and you are not alone in it.

There will be more to come in The Diagnosis Series over the coming days — deeper reflections, practical tools, and guidance for each stage.
If this resonates, follow along and share with someone who might need to feel seen today.

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