12/17/2024
Many folks come to our clinic asking questions about how to gain control of their emotions or their habit patterns, their sense of anxiety or depression that's going on in their body or in their brain. And I'm gonna give you one strategy for that. If you can imagine in life we have this sphere of task, of things that we actually can control in your life right now, what can you control, right?
And then typically, surrounding that is a sphere of things that we have some influence over. But our influence, and Stephen Covey talked about this 27 years ago, our influence rarely expands much greater than our circle of control. And so folks who have poor habits, who can't manage their thoughts, who can't manage their emotions, their sleep, substances,
Their sphere of control was very small and very likely their ability to influence others then is very, very limited, right? Because they can't follow through, they can't model the behavior, there are lots of obstacles there.
Many times clients will come to us and their thoughts are focused mostly on components of life that are completely out of their control. And in doing so, that sphere of what we control starts to shrink. Because why? Because we're wasting our juice, so to speak. Our life energy is going out toward...
a world that we can't do anything about. And this is becoming an epidemic in the world we live in. How so? Our cell phones, TV, computers. We are constantly exposed to a world that pulls us into drama. Drama about what's going on with politics, drama around the world. It could be businesses. All sorts of ways that we begin to use our life energy, our mind and our focus gets sucked.
way outside of our world of control. Meanwhile, we're wasting that life juice, not nurturing this body and this mind over which we can develop more skills, more discipline, better emotional control.
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