Goldstein Therapy

08/28/2025

08/26/2025

I created a 2 hour pre-recorded overview of psychoanalytic treatment with practical advice for what to do. I will hopefully be adding a little more on attachment theory and trauma soon (and additional thoughts as they come to me), and will answer any questions by email for anyone who takes the course and wants to follow up with questions.

In this overview, I review the following:
What Makes Therapy "Psychoanalytic"
How to Begin Treatment
Object Relations Theory
Bion's Theory of Containment
Transference/Countertransference Dynamics
How to Use Countertransference Constructively
Neurotic, Borderline, Psychotic Levels of Functioning
Self Psychology for Narcissistic Vulnerabilities
Common Countertransference Reactions
Working with Resistance

08/26/2025

https://goldstein-therapy.teachable.com/p/how-to-deal-with-a-difficult-family-member

Developed from 18 years of experience as a psychoanalytic therapist as well as personality disorders expertise

08/26/2025

How to ‘feel it to heal it’ ☀️

08/25/2025

https://youtu.be/WM-zKZsxxLY

Do you ever wonder why you keep ending up in the same relationship patterns, even when you promise yourself "never again"? This video explores the psychology...

05/12/2025

The importance of privacy in development of a self

In this video I discuss the importance of having and giving others privacy and alone time for them to process things internally without the threat of intrusion

05/11/2025

What if the most vulnerable thing isn’t needing love—but offering it?

This post explores why giving love can feel riskier than receiving it, and why having our love received is as vital to our development as being loved in return.

(Read on if you’ve ever felt the ache of a gesture unreturned or longed to feel like you matter to someone)

Fairbairn observed that children don’t just need to be loved—they also need to feel their love is received. This idea touches on something important but often overlooked: giving love can be a more vulnerable act than searching for or needing love.

05/07/2025

Why do those who feel the most vulnerable often seem the most put-together?

In this post, I explore how our early defenses can become our identities—and why the path to deeper connection often begins when we risk being seen without the mask.

(Read if you’ve ever struggled to ask for help, or felt invisible while trying to look “fine.”)

Have you ever noticed how the more uncertain or vulnerable we feel inside, the more we may try to present ourselves as completely “together” on the outside? Sometimes, the people who feel the most needy appear the most self-reliant—and those who feel deeply shy can come

04/29/2025

What does it really mean to “hold space” for growth and healing?

True receptivity isn’t passive—it’s an active, ongoing discipline. It asks us to suspend the impulse to fix, to explain, to rush toward coherence. It invites us to stay present with what is unfolding, even when the unknown feels uncomfortable or unfamiliar.

I wrote about how creating a true holding environment—internally and externally—allows new experiences, new parts of the self, and deeper healing to emerge.

Some experiences don’t live inside us as coherent stories. They don’t come wrapped up neatly with a beginning, a middle, and an end. They don’t even always feel like memories.