03/14/2026
“Unconditional love is a deep, unwavering affection and acceptance for someone that is not dependent on any conditions, expectations, or limitations.”https://maclynninternational.us/blog/the-psychology-of-unconditional-love/
When I thought of my three favorite people to talk to, I realized it was because they give me uncoditional love and support. To me that means they are always happy to see me, never judge a word I say outwardly, and meet my weirdness with theirs. They are collaborators with me in the world of possibilities because together we speak of things in a way we cannot with others. One is a 46 year old white female, one a 30 year old white male, one a mixed 3 year old. All three, similar hearts and openness.
While I love all of my family and friends for various reasons, and try to give unconditional love to all, some trigger insecurities and trauma. Most people, including loved ones, bring up a thin wall in front of me like I cannot fully be myself or I will be criticized or shamed. I challenge you today to recognize the shackles you place on your love for others.
Why does that hairstyle on that person matter to you so much? Why must you tell a person acting silly to stop? Why is the first thing we do when someone is upset is to tell them not to feel that way or what they are feeling is wrong? To “stop crying” or “don’t be mad”?
Is that because we are confined and believe that is the best way to live? Did trauma, society, or loved ones shape our sense of self instead of us deciding who we are on our own and cause these responses?
We are taught from birth, you are wrong if you believe or do X because of family, culture, and society. It is behavior so ingrained in us we cannot see the damage. A simple look that you do not realize you are making, can say you are in disapproval of someone or something and shatter their hopes or dreams.
The challenge is to remain neutral and curious when someone does or tells you something that makes YOU feel a certain way, listen to them, find positives, ask if they would like help or suggestions before firing off your beliefs. Embrace uniqueness in expression, thoughts, and feelings, and do not be afraid of it or it’s outcomes.
It is your response that is the issue, NOT someone unique expressing their “weirdness”.
We are in a great divide in this world due to our inability to think outside of our limited points of view and fix trauma that causes our unhealthy responses to others. We have the keys to the kingdom, and if you believe in God, Allah, or simply the “Universe”, all teach unconditional love as the main tenant of their teachings. In effect, we do not live according to what we have been taught from our higher powers. No matter what you believe, you need to love better!
Unconditional love is something we all want to experience, and yet many of us are unaware of what it truly is. We have all seen movies or television shows that encapsulate the image of unconditional love.
