Melissa von der Heide, MA, LMFT

12/22/2025

If you have to work the week of a holiday make sure you take a break to have some fun. My work break included pizza, Legos, crafts and book reading with one of my favorite little friends

(not a client. Just quality time with my friend's child)

12/11/2025

The end of the year is always crazy. Even the elves are dropping by for a quick mental health check in

12/04/2025

Kiddos can't always talk about their feelings but they can sure draw or in this case rate how big their feelings are inside of them. It amazes me every time when they acknowledge how big the big feelings are

11/18/2025

Here in NJ, 1 in 13 children will lose a parent or sibling before turning 18. Nationally it is 1 in 12 children. Children's grief often gets overlooked because "kids are resilient". The loss of a family member impacts a child for a lifetime, especially when it comes to a parent or sibling.

I hope you are able to join us this Thursday as a time of remembering and connecting with others. This event is open to all ages

11/08/2025

A population that is very near and dear to my heart. Please share and stop by if you can

10/12/2025

Sometimes as therapists our clients help us out when we are having a hard time. This morning I was messing up names like crazy. My client said I think you need to fidget to help unscramble your brain. I did and it helped

09/10/2025

07/13/2025

Going off for your first year of college can be overwhelming. Come and bring friends that are also entering the post high school world

07/10/2025

If you're feeling overwhelmed as a parent, professional, and everything in between this is the workshop for you! I've been working with Jessica in Nervous System Mastery program. I have learned so much about myself and how to talk to my clients about their nervous system. Sometimes it's the missing piece with my clients. Coping skills as great as long as you know how they impact your body.

Tomorrow July 11th. 1:30-2:30 pm
Recorded and replay
7- 20 minute sensory podcasts
$111

https://nervoussystemmastery.myflodesk.com/mamamia?fbclid=PAQ0xDSwLc2xhleHRuA2FlbQIxMQABpwV0V_9lLnAzLa7HM_B0ipno47tFsgkZvj_v2nfohy5rJi1gAai9xkJZ-aL0_aem_1edu5xJc2we44nzgCs5W-Q

05/21/2025

About a year and a half ago this Alpaca came into my office. It has become a favorite for clients to hold and play with because of how soft it is. Kiddos have started to hide it for other clients to find. So there are days when I walk into the office never knowing what I will find. Yesterday I walked into this scene because "sometimes you need to nap in a burrito." Who knew that a small toy would bring so much joy to an office and bring together people who will never meet each other.

02/07/2025

February is the month of love. One of the things that we shouldn't forget is to show that caring to ourselves. So right now when the world is so much let's focus inward. What will you do for yourself this month?

01/17/2025

And as modern relationships continue to put pressure on "the one" to be The Only One (where men cast their wives and girlfriends to play best friend, lover, career advisor, stylist, social secretary, emotional cheerleader, mom—to him, their future kids, or both—and eventually, on-call therapist minus the $200/hour fee), this form of emotional gold digging is not only detrimental to men, it's exhausting an entire generation of women.

https://www.harpersbazaar.com/culture/features/a27259689/toxic-masculinity-male-friendships-emotional-labor-men-rely-on-women/?fbclid=PAY2xjawH3iwBleHRuA2FlbQIxMQABpp36rgk0pth7qkNravrjPPW-04OmScQcvEXOFhIufRPYy30JrFQ-llcDUQ_aem_1bREl1_C67BFZ7JWcKR2YA