09/18/2025
Here are five indicators that you may be dealing with an evil heart rather than an ordinary sinful heart. And if this is the case, then dealing with this person requires a radically different treatment and approach then when dealing with the normal person with an ordinary, sinful heart.
1. Evil hearts are experts at creating confusion and contention.
They twist the facts, mislead, lie, avoid taking responsibility, deny reality, make up stories, and withhold information. (Psalms 5:8; 10:7; 58:3; 109:2â5; 140:2; Proverbs 6:13,14; 6:18,19; 12:13; 16:20; 16:27, 28; 30:14; Job 15:35; Jeremiah 18:18; Nehemiah 6:8; Micah 2:1; Matthew 12:34,35; Acts 6:11â13; 2 Peter 3:16)
2. Evil hearts are experts at fooling others with their smooth speech and flattering words.
But if you look at the fruit of their lives or the follow through of their words, you will find no real evidence of godly growth or change. Itâs all smoke and mirrors. (Psalms 50:19; 52:2,3; 57:4; 59:7; 101:7; Proverbs 12:5; 26:23â26; 26:28; Job 20:12; Jeremiah 12:6; Matthew 26:59; Acts 6:11â13; Romans 16:17,18; 2 Corinthians 11:13,14; 2 Timothy 3:2â5; 3:13; Titus 1:10,16).
3. Evil hearts crave and demand control, and their highest authority is their own self-reference.
They reject feedback, real accountability, and make up their own rules to live by. They use Scripture to their own advantage but ignore and reject passages that might require self-correction and repentance. (Romans 2:8; Psalms 10; 36:1â4; 50:16â22; 54:5,6; 73:6â9; Proverbs 21:24; Jude 1:8â16).
4. Evil hearts play on the sympathies of good-willed people, often trumping the grace card.
They demand mercy but give none themselves. They demand warmth, forgiveness, and intimacy from those they have harmed with no empathy for the pain they have caused and no real intention of making amends or working hard to rebuild broken trust. (Proverbs 21:10; 1 Peter 2:16; Jude 1:4).
5. Evil hearts have no conscience, no remorse.
They do not struggle against sin or evilâthey delight in itâall the while masquerading as someone of noble character. (Proverbs 2:14â15; 10:23; 12:10; 21:27,29; Isaiah 32:6; Romans 1:30; 2 Corinthians 11:13â15)
If you are working with someone who exhibits these characteristics, itâs important that you confront them head on. You must name evil for what it is. The longer you try to reason with them or show mercy towards them in their evilness, the more you, as the Christian counselor, will become a pawn in his or her game.
--Taken and adapted from the archives of the "Association of Biblical Counselors"