11/25/2025
With Thanksgiving just days away, many of us are gathering around tables filled with food, laughter, and tradition. But for some, this week marks the first holiday without someone they deeply love.
If you’ll be spending time with someone who is grieving, a little understanding can make a big difference.
✅ DO:
✨ Use their loved one’s name. Share memories and stories. It reminds them their person isn’t forgotten.
✨ Include the deceased in prayer or reflection. Holidays often heighten their absence.
✨ Make space for the bereaved in conversation. Feeling left out can deepen loneliness.
✨ See them as a whole person—not as “half” of who they were.
✨ Meet them where they are emotionally. Tears, silence, laughter—it’s all normal.
✨ Keep inviting them. If they say no, don’t be hurt—just keep the door open.
✨ Let them help or participate if they want—it can be grounding.
✨ Offer presence over answers. A hug may mean more than any words. 💜
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❌ DON’T:
🚫 Use phrases like “They’re in a better place,” or “God only gives you what you can handle.” Grief isn’t a problem to solve.
🚫 Ask “How are you?” Instead try, “I’m so glad you’re here.”
🚫 Walk on eggshells. Authenticity is kinder than avoidance.
🚫 Suggest there’s a timeline for healing. There isn’t.
🚫 Say “I know how you feel,” or compare losses.
🚫 Guilt them for pulling back socially.
🚫 Make it a big deal if they leave early—holidays can be overwhelming.
This week, let’s lead with compassion, patience, and gentleness. Grief doesn’t take a holiday—but love doesn’t either. 💜
If you or someone you care about is navigating loss, Acara Hospice Foundation is here to offer support, hope, and heart.
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