Live For Them- My Sobriety Journey

Live For Them- My Sobriety Journey This page documents my sobriety and mental health journey, one day at a time.

The last thing my wife said to me before treatment was, “I know you would die for us, but choose to live for us.” This page is about choosing life.

Didn’t want to train tonight. I was hurting, in a bad mood, had the kids with me, and had every excuse lined up to skip....
05/15/2026

Didn’t want to train tonight. I was hurting, in a bad mood, had the kids with me, and had every excuse lined up to skip.

But I showed up anyway. Ended up laughing, meeting some new guys, training hard, and walking out feeling a whole lot better than I did going in.

Funny how that works sometimes. Glad I showed up.

Thanks to Brazos Valley MMA & Fitness for a great class.

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141 days sober and my addict brain still tries to negotiate.This morning I was at the ENT getting checked before being f...
05/11/2026

141 days sober and my addict brain still tries to negotiate.

This morning I was at the ENT getting checked before being fitted for hearing aids. I mentioned an issue with my nose, and the doctor recommended a few creams and saline sprays. She casually said, “Be careful with this one, it can become addictive.”

And without missing a beat, my brain immediately lit up with:
“Now THAT sounds promising.”

Not because it gets you high.
Not because it would actually do anything.
Just because addiction doesn’t always chase substances, sometimes it chases the feeling of more. More relief. More comfort. More dopamine. More escape.

That’s the part people don’t always understand about recovery. Sobriety isn’t just removing alcohol or drugs. It’s learning how to live with a brain that still scans the horizon looking for the next hit of relief.

141 days in, and I can laugh at moments like this now because I recognize it for what it is. Addict thinking, not addict action. Big difference.

The old version of me followed every impulse.
The recovering version notices it, calls it out, and keeps moving forward.

Still sober.
Still healing.
Still rewiring a brain that spent years surviving the wrong way.

Part of my sobriety has been learning to stop hiding the truth, no matter how painful it is to say out loud.Today, Danie...
05/07/2026

Part of my sobriety has been learning to stop hiding the truth, no matter how painful it is to say out loud.

Today, Daniel Zavala was sentenced to 30 years in prison for his crimes against God’s little ones.

There are so many unnamed victims, and I hope today brings at least some measure of closure to them.

Daniel or as former church leadership called him, “Papa Daniel” was the worst kind of predator. He used Christianity as camouflage. He manipulated scripture for his own sick desires. He preyed on the vulnerable and created an environment where other predators could hide, thrive, and be influenced by him.

I have no doubt there are countless victims because of Daniel, Johnathan, and others who protected and believed in them.

Daniel, you took advantage of a child who trusted you.

You stole parts of his childhood that he can never get back. Because of your choices, he has carried anxiety, anger, fear, confusion, and trauma that no child should ever have to carry. While you continued living your life, he was left trying to figure out how to survive what was done to him.

What you did changed him, changed our family, changed his faith, and changed the way we see the world.

There were days he isolated himself. Days he questioned himself. Days he struggled just to keep going.

But one thing you could never take from him was his will to survive.

You no longer have power over us.

Today, the world sees you for what you are, and today you are finally being held accountable for your choices.

Thirty years will never undo the damage caused to him and so many others, but it does mean you can never hurt another child again.

He will continue healing.
He will continue moving forward.

And you will spend the rest of your life living with the consequences of what you chose to do.

I’ve stayed silent about this for far too long, and I’m done protecting people who helped create, enable, ignore, or hid...
05/07/2026

I’ve stayed silent about this for far too long, and I’m done protecting people who helped create, enable, ignore, or hide this kind of evil. Over time, I plan to call out every person who played a role, looked the other way, or protected reputations over children.

I need to air this out publicly because carrying it in silence nearly destroyed me. Protecting the truth has done far more damage than exposing it ever will.

For years, Johnathan Bryce stood in front of families pretending to be a mentor, a leader, and a man people could trust.

He was my family’s small group leader, our children’s youth pastor, and someone our family “did life” with. Our kids were around his family. We trusted him spiritually, personally, and emotionally. He wasn’t some distant acquaintance — he was deeply integrated into our lives.

Behind closed doors, he was something else entirely.

He embedded himself into families, gained trust through faith and mentorship, and hid behind the image of a “good man” while lives were being destroyed underneath it all.

My family trusted him.
I trusted him.
And that trust came with consequences my family will carry forever.

There is a different kind of evil in people who use religion, leadership, and mentorship as camouflage to access victims. Predators like that don’t force their way through the front door — they are invited in because they manufacture trust first.

That is what makes this betrayal so sickening.

He didn’t look dangerous.
He looked helpful.
He looked trustworthy.
That’s how predators survive for so long.

What was done to my son and to other victims was not a mistake.
It was not “poor judgment.”
It was calculated manipulation carried out by adults who knew exactly what they were doing.

And the damage didn’t stop with the crimes themselves.

The betrayal, the guilt, the anger, and the weight of everything that followed nearly destroyed me too. It fueled years of mental health struggles, anger, isolation, depression, and addiction. I spent a long time trying to numb pain I didn’t even fully understand yet.

That’s what people don’t always see.

Predators don’t just create victims.
They leave destruction in every direction around them.
Families fracture.
Trust disappears.
Mental health collapses.
People turn to alcohol, substances, rage, or self-destruction trying to survive what was done to them and the people they love.

I know that personally.

There were days I hated the man in the mirror.
Days I felt consumed by darkness.
Days I wondered if I would ever feel normal again.

But I also refuse to let evil have the final word over my family.

I stayed quiet longer than I should have.
Not anymore.

I refuse to protect the comfort and reputations of predators while survivors and families spend years trying to heal from what was done to them.

If this post makes people uncomfortable, good.
The truth should be uncomfortable.

And if you’re a parent reading this:
Stop assuming predators look evil.
Many hide behind churches, mentorship, leadership, community respect, and carefully crafted public images.

That mask fooled a lot of people.
Including me.

But the mask is gone now.

Holt’s can do hard things 💪        ❤️
05/03/2026

Holt’s can do hard things 💪 ❤️

05/02/2026
05/02/2026

May 1. Day 1.

Kicked off my 50-mile ruck for .

Didn’t feel like going.
Migraine. Low energy. Every excuse lined up.

Still went.

Got an easy ruck in and just like that, everything shifted.
Not perfect. Not fast. Just done.

That’s the game.
Do it anyway.

50 miles this month. One step at a time.
Not just for me but for the ones still fighting battles most people don’t see.

I didn’t just “find a new hobby.”I found something that is going to help keep me grounded.During my time at Warriors Hea...
05/01/2026

I didn’t just “find a new hobby.”
I found something that is going to help keep me grounded.

During my time at Warriors Heart, I reconnected with Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu and it hit different this time. It became more than training. It became an outlet. A reset. A way to channel everything instead of letting it control me.

Now I’m back on the mats at and I’m all in.

Grateful to the for opening this door.
Grateful to and for helping me rediscover this part of myself.

This isn’t about fighting.
It’s about healing. Discipline. Control. Showing up. Even when you don’t feel like it.

I’m not the same man I was.
And I’m not going back. HealingThroughMovement WeDefy MentalHealthMatters

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The last couple weeks, I felt off.Disconnected. Disorganized. No real direction.That’s when the thoughts start creeping ...
04/30/2026

The last couple weeks, I felt off.
Disconnected. Disorganized. No real direction.

That’s when the thoughts start creeping in…
“You could probably drink and be fine now.”

I know better.

130 days ago, that mindset almost cost me everything.

So I went back to the basics.
The small things. The daily discipline.

Staying busy isn’t a distraction for me—
it’s survival.

Tomorrow is 130 days sober.
Still fighting. Still progressing. Still living for them

TBI Update from my time at the BRAVE foundation in Milwaukee. I’ve been going through testing and getting a clearer pict...
04/21/2026

TBI Update from my time at the BRAVE foundation in Milwaukee.

I’ve been going through testing and getting a clearer picture of what’s been going on.

The results show my brain has been running out of balance, too much low-frequency (slow) activity and not enough high-frequency (focus/processing) activity. That combination can affect attention, mental clarity, and overall cognitive performance.

This lines up with symptoms I’ve been dealing with:

Brain fog

Slower processing

Difficulty locking in focus/ word recall

Mental fatigue

Based on this, I’ll be attending a 3-week recovery program with the BRAVE Foundation in August. The focus will be on improving brain function, restoring balance, and building better consistency.

This isn’t about a label, it’s about understanding what’s going on and addressing it the right way. The good news is that my brain isn’t broken and my doctors are positive that we will see improvement in my daily life. The biggest threat to my brain is actually my hearing loss. I’m in the process of getting help with and look forward to how that will improve my quality of life.

It’s another step in my recovery and I’ll share updates as I go.

I’m back from Milwaukee.The evaluation gave me answers I’ve been needing for a long time.Right now? I’m tired. A little ...
04/11/2026

I’m back from Milwaukee.

The evaluation gave me answers I’ve been needing for a long time.

Right now? I’m tired. A little overwhelmed.

But this was a step forward.

I’ll share more soon. 💕

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