G. Launder Counseling

04/02/2026

There is no pain-free option.

You get to choose which pain you would you rather have?

The pain of losing some relationships, or the pain of suppressing yourself?

03/24/2026

🤓 This is what I call “avacado 🥑 love”!

03/04/2026

Narcissistic Personality Disorder to have Traits & characteristics of NPD for this to be applicable!!

02/20/2026

02/03/2026

12/19/2025

The holy narcissist is one of the most confusing and damaging personalities to encounter because they hide behind righteousness instead of taking responsibility. On the surface, they appear devout, prayerful, and morally upright. They quote scriptures, speak in spiritual language, and position themselves as “chosen” or especially close to God. This image disarms people, making it difficult to question them without feeling guilty or fearful.

What separates the holy narcissist from genuine faith is their lack of humility. True spirituality produces self-examination, repentance, and compassion. The holy narcissist, however, uses God-language to avoid accountability. When confronted, they don’t reflect—they deflect. Disagreement becomes rebellion. Hurt feelings become a lack of faith. And their harmful behavior is excused as “God’s will” or “spiritual authority.”

Another hallmark of the holy narcissist is selective scripture use. They emphasize verses about submission, obedience, and forgiveness, while ignoring teachings on love, justice, gentleness, and accountability. Scripture becomes a weapon rather than a guide. This creates spiritual confusion in those around them, who begin to associate God with fear, shame, and emotional pain instead of safety and grace.

Publicly, the holy narcissist often looks exemplary. They may serve in leadership, volunteer excessively, or be praised for their “strong faith.” Privately, they can be controlling, emotionally abusive, or deeply dismissive of others’ needs. This split leaves victims feeling isolated and unbelieved, because the person who hurts them is admired by the community.

The most important truth to remember is this: God does not require you to submit to abuse. Faith that silences pain or protects harm is not holy—it is distorted. Discernment is not disobedience, and boundaries are not sin. Exposing the holy narcissist is not an attack on faith; it is a defense of what faith was meant to be.

11/08/2025

11/04/2025

Marriage is not meant to be a “Master/slave” relationship.

When faced with two hard paths… what do you choose?

10/11/2025

Just a reminder that your mental health is just as important as any other part of your health.

You are loved, and you deserve to be here. Take care of yourself.

09/09/2025