01/11/2026
If you’re exhausted from repeating yourself, negotiating, or giving 17 warnings before anything happens…
1-2-3 Magic by Dr. Thomas Phelan might be exactly what your nervous system needs.
Here’s the nutshell version 👇
✨ Count calmly for behaviors you want to stop
✨ No lectures, no arguing, no emotional energy
✨ “3” leads to a brief break or consequence you’ve already decided
✨ The power is in your calm consistency
This approach works best when:
✔️ You decide consequences ahead of time
✔️ You don’t explain while counting
✔️ You follow through even when it’s uncomfortable
Kids don’t need louder parents.
They need regulated leaders.
Save this. Share this. And remember—calm is contagious.
— The Spicy Play Therapist 🌶️🧠
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