10/04/2024
What is Divine Union? How does one achieve this? Work! Lots of work.
When I met Valerie I had recently been engaged, and left by my fiance. Valerie and I met online (Facebook 😮) through mutual connections. We immediately felt a strong connection that ultimately resulted in me making numerous trips to Colorado to visit her. In November 2015 I left my house, 5 acres of property and huge truck shop to come be with her full-time in Colorado.
It wasn't long before my past traumas and resultant emotional unavailability and things began to creep in and cause disharmony in the relationship. It became obvious very quickly that what was causing the disharmony was our various traumas and resultant personal adaptations and things that were coming up and creating conflict where conflict should not have been.
I was raised Mormon, a religion that programs individuals to where they cannot be "wrong" under any circumstances because failing means "eternal damnation". Furthermore I came into the relationship harboring this deeply held secret that I felt like I was really a woman on the inside.
Valerie and I both being very much into personal growth decided to be proactive and to work on healing the traumas that created these conflicts in our relationship. We have navigated the underworlds of our relationship, and have identified key elements that come into play and how to mitigate them with things like intentional nervous system regulation, breathwork, barefoot walks and meditation, and working with our various inner child parts that were developed in the past so that our true selves could come through and allow our relationship to thrive.
We now recognize the divinity of our union, and make regular effort to maintain this as we understand how important work is to maintaining a harmonious balance in the relationship. Masculine and feminine polarity is necessary in any relationship, and we have navigated these dynamics extensively over our 9 years together.
We teach these principles to those desiring to achieve a similar confident harmonious relationship.
Valerie Herbert
