Jars of Clay, A Sanctuary

01/13/2026

If you’ve ever been labeled “clingy” or told that you’re “doing too much”, it’s likely that you have just been looking for the best way to get the connection that every one of us needs.

Somewhere along the way, you’ve learned to hold on tight because love felt uncertain, came with conditions or was way too hard to come by.

So often we’re looking desperately for that close connection with people who are emotionally unavailable and haven’t dealt with their own stuff.

Truth is, you need a better strategy for getting your needs met, rather than being told your needs are a problem.

Real security doesn’t come from someone else’s availability.
It comes from God’s steadiness.
A love that doesn’t shift.

James 4:8 says “Draw near to God, and He will draw near to you.”

Psalm 145:18 says “The Lord is near to all who call on Him, to all who call on Him in truth.”

Look at how He loves us! That is the standard, because He is always our ultimate example. Those who truly love you will willingly draw close to you.

You are not too much.
You are worthy of safe, steady, secure love —
and healing begins when you stop shaming the part of you that longs for it.

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01/06/2026

It can be really easy to believe that you can actually earn somebody’s love through a constant pursuit of perfection, effort, or sacrifice. I know because I lived it for a long time.

You want so desperately to avoid anything that might bring criticism or abandonment. No matter how much effort you’re putting in, you can’t avoid the inevitable.

You probably have already found out that the hamster wheel of people pleasing will only burn you out and suck your soul empty.

That’s because you’re trying to fix a wound inside someone else that only they can fix. No one can FIX anyone else, and all of that striving is NOT ever going to keep you safe.

What you are actually doing is enabling, blocking true intimacy and keeping yourself exhausted, anxious, and never fully satisfied.

God sees love, covering, resources, empowerment and mercy as gifts, not things to be earned.

Ephesians 2:8 says, “For by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God.”

I want that every day of my life and I want that for you. If you want to learn how to reset and rest in your relationships, click the link in the bio to get my Ultimate Relationship Reconnection Bundle.

12/16/2025

The constant scanning of tone, energy, and facial expressions.

The way you shrink yourself without realizing it.

The unspoken rule that peace depends on you managing someone else’s emotions.

I remember that tension intimately.

For a long time, you might have called this “being understanding,” “being patient,” or “that's just how they are.”

But walking on eggshells isn’t love — it’s a learned survival response, often rooted in old wounds.

It's not a reflection of how much you are worth or your capacity to love somebody. It's an automatic reaction you learned early that comes with unpredictability.

So now, instead of love feeling like peace, you're hypervigilant all the time.

Love — the kind God designed — does not require being on high alert or being constantly guarded.

It does not demand that you fade into the background or hide yourself to keep the peace.

Learn how to feel safe, have clarity, and gain emotional rest in your relationships with my Relationship Reconnection Bundle.

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12/02/2025

11/11/2025

If you’ve ever felt it — you know exactly what I mean. The twinge of anxiety and racing thoughts that follow even the smallest rejection.

It masquerades as love, but really it’s fear signaling that you have an unmet need. It's a protective alarm that your nervous system learned long time ago.

You are not broken. Your body is just letting you know that there are things that you need to address.

Safe relationships start when we can recognize the difference between fear and genuine love.

10/21/2025

Today, I want you to celebrate one small thing you accomplished this week.

Comment below ⬇️ and let’s cheer each other on!

08/29/2025

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08/22/2025

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08/21/2025

07/22/2025

Here are 5 simple, doable ways to start replenishing yourself today:

Body: Trade 20 minutes of scrolling for a walk, stretch, or a real meal — your nervous system will thank you.

Mind: Do a 5-minute brain dump. Get the noise out of your head and onto paper — clarity comes after release.

Emotions: Name how you feel without fixing it. “I feel anxious/sad/lonely” is a start toward healing.

Spirit: Light a candle, breathe deeply, and sit in silence or prayer — even 3 minutes reconnects you to peace.

Relationships: Send one honest text that says, “I miss you” or “I’m not okay today.” Let people in.

💬 Which one do you need most today? Let me know below.

07/09/2025

Overthinking in relationships is often an attachment wound, not a personality trait! 💖 Your sensitivity is a sign of survival.