Improving Selfhood

28/05/2024

I have officially graduated with my Master of Sciences in Health Promotion from UCCS! 🎉👩🏼‍🎓

After I return from Army training at the end of July, I intend to have a full launch planned for Improving Selfhood. 🤩👏🏼

In addition to my degree & Health Coaching certification, I have embarked on my journey towards my Certified Personal Trainer & Nutrition Coaching certifications through NASM as well!

Thank you for sticking with me as I navigate life’s challenges & rebuild myself & my business concept from the ground up! 🧡💞

21/03/2024

Today, one of those REALLY small details that make a REALLY big impact, happened.

Finally & officially introducing: Kyleigh R. Neese, CHC.

Reclaiming my maiden name & doing everything I can to ensure my Business, Master’s Degree, & Army Commission all reflect correctly has made me feel so liberated & wholly myself.

I cannot wait to proudly launch Improving Selfhood this year under my own name after so many tribulations & trials that delayed my dreams.

Here’s to helping others in ways I have always dreamed of & clearing absolutely any obstacle in my path to do so!

🧡💞

18/05/2023

I have had dreams of helping people for a long time. I had to figure out a way that I could do so that was respectful to my own healing journey but impactful enough to make a true difference.

This semester I was able to commit to a goal I have had since starting Improving Selfhood - to become a Certified Wellness & Health Coach. Today my credentials came through in writing!

I will soon be sharing more about what it means to be a Health Coach, misconceptions surrounding it’s practice, and my vision for incorporating services into my business model.

If you have any specific questions or are interested in working with me - please send me a DM!

Kyleigh Peterson, BA, CWHC, TIP. 💞🧡🫶🏼

11/04/2023

Loving yourself can feel extremely selfish…

It has been embedded into our minds, family dynamics, and society for ages that being self-serving is a bad quality. Think about it, do you want to be friends with someone who is “selfish?”
Of course not! Well at least not according to the negative connotation that we give to the word itself.

This mentality has begun to shift now that we encourage self-love and self-care more often.

The word selfish means to “lack consideration for others, to concern oneself with personal profit or pleasure”.

While this can feel uncomfortable, it is not inherently wrong or bad.

Loving yourself, serving yourself, and caring for yourself are extremely important for becoming your healthiest version.

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Your self-improvement, growth, and unique journey are supported here! Welcome to Improving Selfhood!

07/04/2023

Let self-love lead in your life 💞🧡

Let self-love guide your decisions. Let self-love preface your words. Do as many things as possible from the position of loving yourself and considering your best interest.

That is how you experience more joy. That is how you improve your relationships. That is how you experience more self-fulfillment. That is how you come home to yourself.

If you are having a hard time loving yourself this week, I am sending you a lot of mine.

Tag a friend who needs this reminder 💞🧡🫶🏼

Your self-improvement, growth, and unique journey are supported here! Welcome to Improving Selfhood!

30/03/2023

What you need to know about self-love:

💞 loving yourself is not selfish or arrogant. Only excessive/unrealistic confidence and grandiose views of ourself begin to cross into the unhealthy end of the spectrum.
🧡 self-love requires minimal comparison to others. Notice how I did not say to “eliminate” comparison. I am not one who believes in entirely closing ourself off from the opinions of others nor the progress or success of others. If we did that how else would we experience feelings of inspiration and motivation?
💞 a lot of people mock the “self-love” topic as if it were a cliché or some trending buzzword. It is not any of those things. It is here to stay. It is imperative to living a healthy, fulfilling life.
🧡 our capacity to love ourselves, forgive ourself, and to extend grace to ourselves directly correlates with our capacity to love others.
💞 you cannot truly love yourself if you loathe your body! Learn to appreciate your body and all that it is capable of, even if it is one small trait or characteristic at a time!
🧡 it can feel uncomfortable and/or awkward to look inward and love yourself. Especially if you have a negative inner critic (like most of us do). Especially if you endured childhood abuse and trauma. Especially if you have had a critical parent or significant other. The list of reasons goes on and on. Let’s all work hard to not let this stop our efforts.
💞 self-care picks up where self-love leaves off.
🧡 self-love requires disconnecting from harmful and abusive relationships, friendships, jobs, etc.
💞 lastly, self-love requires ongoing effort.

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30/03/2023

28/03/2023

Tag someone who you know needs to hear this right now 💞🧡🫶🏼

Self-love can sound like such a cliché, but with a world full of people suffering from self-hate, we need it more than ever.

How are you loving yourself today? I am cleaning my spaces and nourishing my body with healthy, yummy foods.

Your self-improvement, growth, and unique journey are supported here! Welcome to Improving Selfhood!

26/03/2023

When is it sustainable to build or change habits? 💭

Part of the answer lies in between intrinsic and extrinsic motivation.

Are you dieting so you can fit into a dress from 3 years ago?

Are you saving money so you can buy other people gifts?

Are you putting on makeup more often to impress your crush at the bar on Friday nights?

If you answered yes to any of these or can think of other examples like them, you are rooted heavily in extrinsic motivation. This means you set goals, form habits, and make changes for an external reward.

Are you investing in a charity because you believe in the cause?

Are you eating certain foods because they make you feel good, energized, or healthy?

These are examples of intrinsically motivated actions and habits. They are more likely to stick because you are performing them for deeply personal reasons.

The truth is, you can find yourself intrinsically and extrinsically motivated at times, too. Losing weight so you can feel better and so you can come off of certain medication is an example of both types of motivation packed into one goal.

Reflect on your own goals and habits to see what motivates you!

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26/03/2023

Have you ever tried mindful eating?

A great way to raise your level of self-awareness is by becoming consciously aware of your human experience.

Mindful eating is another great way to connect your mind and body.

How do you participate in mindful eating?

🧡 eat without distractions
🧡 focus on textures, temperatures, and sensations
🧡 be present
🧡 be non-judge mental about the foods you are eating
🧡 stop eating when you feel full
🧡 chew thoroughly
🧡 eat slowly

What are other ways you incorporate mindful practices into your daily life?

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Your self-improvement, growth, and unique journey are supported here! Welcome to Improving Selfhood!

26/03/2023

FYI: it is absolutely okay to seek feedback from the people you love and value.

My personal hot take is that it is awful advice to tell people not to care what other people think. There are times when this is great advice but it is not 100% applicable in all situations.

Our concept of self is heavily reliant upon:

1) how we view ourselves 2) our ideal selves
3) how others view us
4) how we interpret their opinions of us

That is why I believe the better advice is to rely upon the opinions and feedback of those you love and value. Base your self-concept in that versus the opinions and feedback of people who do not have meaning in your life and only based their opinions of you on one interaction or someone else’s perception!

When on a journey to improve yourself, it is important that you only change the things YOU WANT TO.

If we changed ourselves every time someone had a negative opinion of us, we would whither away.

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24/03/2023

Life hack: self-awareness is the first key step to healing your trauma.

It is hard to know the affects that trauma have had on our lives if we are unable to look inward for the answer.

Before I began working on raising my self-awareness, I was floating through life on auto-pilot. I had a bad habit of disassociating with the things that hurt me the most. When I learned to begin bringing my pain, triggers, and bad habits into my conscious awareness I truly started understanding myself better and how I relate with other people.

I am by no means perfect, nor have I mastered this skill, but striving to live life in the present moment as often as possible is important for me.

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21/03/2023

Yesterday I talked about self-awareness being the anecdote for self-sabotage…

Today I am offering a few ways that, from experience, I have been able to increase my level of self-awareness.

1) Get comfortable talking to yourself in the mirror. Get comfortable with speaking affirmations to yourself.

A few of mine recently:
-I am calm
-I am capable of relaxing
-I do not have to be productive all day to be successful

2) Start inquiring within yourself. What do I mean? Start asking yourself why you react certain ways, why you have passionately held values and beliefs. Being curious about what provokes positive feelings in your mind and body, and what triggers negative feelings, emotions, and reactions. I began to see life through a different lens when I practiced this.

3) Take some time to journal, jot down notes, or meditate over what you discover. Are you open to change? Are you open to considering another perspective on the matters?

4) Getting in touch with your body is a great way to get in touch with your mind. The two are connected so intricately, so engaging in activities that require you to be in touch with your body can help raise your level of self-awareness.

Let me know what you think in the comments below and share with a friend who might need to see this today! 💞🧡

21/03/2023

New content launching, NOW! 💞🧡

My hope is that you love everything that is to come!

With that being said, no one is immune to self-sabotage. Even when you think you don’t do it, you probably just don’t how you do. Self-sabotage can be subtle, overlooked, and disastrous.

A key to stopping self-sabotage right in its tracks is to raise our level of self-awareness.

Stay tuned for ways to increase your self-awareness! 💞🧡

Your self-improvement, growth, and unique journey are supported here! Welcome to Improving Selfhood!

17/03/2023

I am one follower away from the 700 mark and I just want you all to know I am eternally grateful for your support and interest so far in Improving Selfhood 💞🧡 There is so much to come!

10/03/2023

You are not “stuck in your ways,” you are fully capable of establishing boundaries and/or putting in more effort.

Boundaries are essential. I once heard someone say “my boundaries are the lines at which I can love you but still love me too.”

Being consistent with your effort is important also! There are many areas of your life that require your effort. Learn how to allocate and divvy up where you focus it.

Your life will begin to change when you are able to master boundary setting and effort balance.

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08/03/2023

Happy International Women’s Day! 💞🧡

I feel incredibly blessed to be gaining support from so many women in business, entrepreneurship, and wellness spaces. I certainly appreciate the friends and family in my corner as well.

I work hard day in and day out to become the woman I have always desired to be. My hope is that Improving Selfhood has a reach and impact in this world beyond what I can imagine right now.

To the women (or the women in your lives) striving to be stronger and better each day.. You are so capable of achieving amazing things. Here’s to you! 💞🧡

Your self-improvement, growth, and unique journey are supported here! Welcome to Improving Selfhood!