04/25/2020
This is so true.
“A key element of emotional intelligence is the way you regulate your emotions, but not all emotional regulation techniques are created equal. The way we regulate our emotions is a good indicator of our mental health. Being aware of our emotions is the first step in developing good coping strategies; Regulating emotions, especially big, difficult emotions, takes care and practice.
“Emotion suppression, for example, consists of “inhibiting the outward signs of your inner feelings.” Professionals in high-stress jobs (doctors, police, military) are often taught that emotional suppression is an effective strategy for emotional regulation, in spite of plentiful research suggesting otherwise.
“Two unhealthy ways of of regulating emotions is by acting out or suppressing them. Neither is ideal, because both can present issues that can be represented through the physical symptoms in the post or through our relationships. On one level, emotions are like energy waves, varying in shape and intensity, just like ocean waves. Allowing yourself to feel the emotions, without becoming aggressive is a healthy way of coping.” Thank you to for this graphic and words above.
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As an AEDP psychotherapist & emotion educator, I help people learn to safely process emotions. The Change Triangle is my absolute favorite tool & map to guide this process. Anyone can access and learn it. Find the Change Triangle on the link below or pick up a copy of “It's Not Always Depression: Working the Change Triangle to Listen to the Body, Discover Core Emotions, and Connect With Your Authentic Self” (Random House & Penguin UK). The book is filled with stories that show you in detail what processing emotions to heal anxiety, depression, loneliness, social anxiety, and childhood traumas looks like. The book is also a curriculum of gentle exercises to try as we work together. This is life-changing information ❤️ Take care!
What is the Change Triangle? https://www.hilaryjacobshendel.com/what-is-the-change-triangle-c18dd
