Tanisha Martin, Kung Fu Master, DVSA Survivor

12/01/2023

*** the abundance of love she is allowing herself to feel and receive for the first time ***

It's challenging for me to just share this client win without acknowledging my own flaws. I don't want it to seem like I'm boasting. I'm just glad I can do some good in the world now when I took so much for so long just to survive long enough to finally come out the other side.

I knew there was a reason I wasn't giving up all those years when I was up and down with finances, emotions, homelessness, criticism from others, literally every reason to quit...

You can't possibly know how much I doubted my path and myself many times, and probably rightly so to a degree, but then I kept fighting and kept going anyway because something bigger than my doubt wouldn't let me stop.

Fast forward and I'm still a weirdo, get criticized, make odd choices, say stupid things, and have a lot of growth to do... but despite all that I am good at what I do and always getting better.

When this text came in, I just started sobbing for her, and for my part in it (nothing as grand as how she makes it sound, and she knows she was the one who did the work).

It's indescribably surreal and humbling to read those words "...because of you."

She's an AAAF client, successful and comfortable in life, but unfulfilled and in a toxic marriage. She wanted to admit to herself that she needed to get divorced when she came to me and just wanted help healing and finding herself again. But within a very short time, like 6 weeks, the changes she made rippled out and made a difference in her marriage, and her husband was receptive and started stepping up too.

There's still a road ahead with an uncertain end, but now her goal has shifted to saving the marriage rather than moving on.

She had to leave our group session for urgent care earlier today... she's okay, but it's hard.
..But even that is somewhat eased by the abundance of love she is allowing herself to feel and receive for the first time.

And that is the miracle and the result of doing the hardest thing - our deep inner work.

It's love.

❄️🤍💗🤍❄️

(Important auto correct in her text - she meant "LOVE flowing..." not "low flowing...)

12/01/2023

Me all day yesterday:

Oh yeah, I bought something in Amazon... should be arriving soon... I remember the delivery date was very important... but I don't remember why... what did I buy??? What was it?!!!

Also Me: Just look at your order history.

Me Again: You shut your mouth! I can remember this on my own! I'm not looking it up!!!

But it never came to me... until...

Way too early this morning (thanks Diesel, the early rising mischievous cat 🐈🤬), it randomly popped into my head...

It was for tomorrow's Butterfly Healing Circle!

But did I actually buy it?

I don't think so... because it was also the middle of the night like a week ago when I was first looking and there were too many choices and I remember putting a bunch in my cart and was planning to go back later and delete some and finish the order...

But I never thought of it again!

So BHC is TOMORROW and it's a special one, and I don't HAVE to have these things for it, but REALLY WANTED to...

I super lucked out that the three "for sure" items and an option from the one with too many choices could all be delivered TODAY!

Yay!!!

Can't wait!

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If you're a woman (all-inclusive) around Colorado Springs, we'd love to have you in our healing, sharing, crying, laughing community!

Learn more and register for tomorrow's circle at 7StarPhoenix.com/butterfly

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12/01/2023

Reminder - this page is about to be unpublished.

If you gained value from our connection in the past or would like to reconnect, please do so at 7-Star Phoenix or Tanisha Martin.

~ Love and Fierceness ~

🍂🦋🖤🦋🍂

*** the abundance of love she is allowing herself to feel and receive for the first time ***

It's challenging for me to just share this client win without acknowledging my own flaws. I don't want it to seem like I'm boasting or building myself up. I'm just glad I can do some good in the world now when I took so much for so long just to survive long enough to finally come out the other side.

I knew there was a reason I wasn't giving up all those years when I was up and down with finances, emotions, homelessness, criticism from others, literally every reason to quit...

You can't possibly know how much I doubted my path and myself many times, and probably rightly so to a degree, but then I kept fighting and kept going anyway because something bigger than my doubt wouldn't let me stop.

Fast forward and I'm still a weirdo, still get criticized, still make odd choices, still say stupid things, and still have a lot of growth to do... but despite all that I am good at what I do and always getting better.

When this text came in a little bit ago, I just started sobbing for her, and for me and my part in it (nothing as grand as how she makes it sound, and she knows she was the one who did the work).

It's indescribably surreal and humbling to read those words "...because of you."

(And to others who have said that to me, I remember that and am thinking of you too right now.)

She's an Awake Alive Authentically Fierce client, very successful and comfortable in life, but unfulfilled and in a toxic marriage. She was wanting to admit to herself that she needed to get divorced when she came to me and just wanted help healing and finding herself again. But within a very short time, like 6 weeks, the changes she was making rippled out and made a difference in her marriage, and her husband was receptive and started stepping up too.

There's still a road ahead with an uncertain end, but now her goal has shifted to saving the relationship rather than moving on.

Anyway, she had to leave our group session for urgent care earlier today... she okay, but it's a hard time right now.
..But even that is somewhat eased by the abundance of love she is allowing herself to feel and receive for the first time.

And that is the miracle and the result of doing the hardest thing - our deep inner work.

It's love.

❄️🤍💗🤍❄️

(Important auto correct in her text - she meant "LOVE flowing..." not "low flowing...")

11/30/2023

Hi ! Thank you so much for connecting with me here some time ago.

I am streamlining and just don't use this page anymore.

If you found value with me in the past and want to stay connected or reconnect, please follow me at 7-Star Phoenix and/or Tanisha Martin before I unpublish this page at the end of 2023.

The shared post is a glimpse into what I've been up to!

Love and Fierceness,

~ Tanisha

10/05/2021

"When you stand in your own power, you are no longer at the mercy of everyone else's."

My 150 Husbands / Transformation interview on Dr. G's Moving Upstream Without a Paddle Podcast...

03/10/2021

641 million women globally have experienced physical or sexual abuse from an intimate partner.

Another hundred million have experienced sexual assault from a non-intimate partner.

More work is needed to effect large-scale change.

As for women who have experienced this, we have to do our own work to heal our traumas and rebuild our lives to a place of thriving, not just surviving.

It IS possible to heal.

There IS an end to the main, intense phase of the healing process, and the beautiful phoenix-woman you are will rise out of the pain and healing ashes in strength, purpose, and joy.

There is your life to fulfill, and others to impact, whether you do so through aspects related to overcoming your trauma, or through other talents and skills you have.

When you are ready to fly, or to dare to consider that as a possibility for you, come to our Warrior Life Transformations community where everyone has a different story, yet we are connected through the common thread of elevating our awareness, healing, transformation, and living bold, confident, kick*** lives.

Support, solidarity, empowerment, and transformation are the backbone of our weekly Lives and other discussions at facebook.com/groups/WarriorLifeTransformations.

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I'm Tanisha Martin, 6th degree black belt Master, DVSA survivor, and Kung Fu school owner and transformational coach at , and my mission is to empower transformation after transformation for as many women as possible.

One in three women globally are subjected to physical or sexual violence during their lifetimes, estimates a damning new report from the World Health Organization (WHO) released hours after International Women’s Day. The report’s findings are based on data from the largest ever WHO study on the ...

03/09/2021

Breaking news:

Kelsie Schelling's murderer was convicted today, after EIGHT long years after her disappearance.

(https://krdo.com/.../jury-finds-donthe-lucas-guilty-of.../)

Her family, her mom and sisters, whom I met are wonderful people and my heart goes out to them.

My connection to her is a few years ago I was invited to keynote a domestic violence event her family was putting on and to give a self-defense workshop afterward.

I learned about her disappearance while she was pregnant with his child, her murder, and the search for her body, which is unfortunately still to be resolved.

Hoping this comes to conclusion as well.

Much love to her family and loved ones 💜💜💜

The tears, joy, sorrow, and hope are consuming my soul right now...

Be good to each other.

Learn your emotional processing skills, and have compassion on those who are struggling in any way.

Do what you can.

Create healthy boundaries.

Be a light in this world.

~ Tanisha

03/08/2021

This week's free Warrior Life Transformations coaching and training:

Enlightenment Without Spiritual Superiority

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One of the side effects we can battle with our rising inner awareness, is a sense of spiritual superiority.

It's wonderful to see the growth between the current, aware us and the old, less aware us!

The understandable awe in that growth can create a sense of specialness or elitism over our old self.

This elitism unfortunately also spills onto our view others who "haven't figured it out yet."

This can come out in many ways including dismissing, patronizing, or trying to impose enlightenment or save them.

Once recognized, though, the subtle "superiority demons" can be tempered and focused into useful, productive outlets that serve yourself and others.

There is also an extra layer of healing available for us in a specific area, that otherwise would remain unseen, and left to fester.

Explore all of this with us Live tomorrow, Tuesday, March 9, at 10 am MT in our Warrior Life Transformations group:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/WarriorLifeTransformations

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02/16/2021

Warrior Life Transformations free coaching and training this week:

WW84: The Devastating Cost of Beautiful Lies

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We lie to ourselves all the time.

"I want to do that, but I can't."

"I'll never get out of this mess."

"I wasted my good days, and now those days are gone and I'll never be able to do what I really wanted."

These aren't beautiful lies, but they do stunt our growth and destroy our lives. They are obvious, but we STILL won't recognize them for what they are or how they hurt us, much less banish them from our lives.

Beautiful lies are the most insidious because they are the most difficult to recognize or break free from, while they run amok leaving devastation in their wake.

We are not about being victims here, so let's really take a look at what these lies, beautiful and otherwise, are, how to recognize them, what they are costing us, and how to embrace and use our power from truth.

Join us Live on Tuesday, February 16, at 10 am MT in our Warrior Life Transformations group:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/WarriorLifeTransformations

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Lies

01/04/2021

This week's free Warrior Life Transformations coaching and training:

Love Yourself
It's not Selfish, it's Mandatory

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For a successful, joyful 2021 in every area, let's start at the beginning.

Let's start the new year off nurturing the MOST KEY facet of our lives, which determines our level of harmony, joy, and success in every area.

The common answer to change, achieving goals, and growth is to improve your yang approach -- tactics, behavior modification, habits, lists, goals, scheduling, push harder, push smarter, and other external strategies.

These yang tactics are important, but they are only a part of the solution, and in and of themselves aren't near as effective as they could and should be.

In general, those solutions have generally been the go-to for so long, we have actually stunted our ability to utilize our yin facets, which are the true drivers of our experiences and success ...through the yang vehicle.

We need both a VEHICLE (yang) to take us somewhere amazing, and a skilled DRIVER (yin) to take us there safely and efficiently.

What good is a fast, safe, well-built, enjoyable car if you are just going to drive it into a wall or run until the gas tank is empty with no station in sight?

We often take for granted that the yin is just going to be there doing it's job, but in EVERY case where external change or growth is needed, there is ALWAYS a yin aspect behind the scenes that was neglected.

When we nurture our yin, the external practically falls into place, and loving ourselves is the first and most fundamental yin area we must nurture.

On our live, we're going to dive deeper into what it means, looks like, and feels like to love ourselves (as well as when we don't, so we can be immediately aware when we've gotten off track).

We'll also explore where exactly we are on the spectrum of thinking we love ourselves / loving ourselves in our minds, and truly loving ourselves in our deepest essence.

No matter where we are on that spectrum, we all have some personal insight to gain and shifts to make in order to experience what we truly desire this year, and every day!

Join us Live on Tuesday, January 5, at 10 am Mountain in our Warrior Life Transformations group:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/WarriorLifeTransformations

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12/21/2020

If you haven't already done some focused inner and outer work to close 2020 with value and design your best-year-yet architechture for 2021...
..then please join me live in my Warrior Life Transformations group this and next Tuesday, Dec 22 & 29 at 10 am Mountain!

Learn more in the OP/photo description, and join here:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/WarriorLifeTransformations

It's free, and refreshingly different, so I hope to see you there!

This week's free Warrior Life Transformations coaching and training:

Claim 2021 with Bold, Confident EASE

Part 1 December 22
Part 2 December 29

"When you step into your own power, you are no longer at the mercy of everyone else's."

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WOOHOO!!! 2021 is going to shine its light on us in less than two weeks!

If you haven't already, NOW is the time to take the power seat and make sure it's a beautiful light at the end of 2020's tunnel.

Whatever you want, you've got to have a plan for it, or else you're just hoping against the windy whims of life that it will happen.

That's just too risky.

But then you have to set aside time... and then you have to figure out exactly *what* to do!

Let's just make that easy for you.

Schedule time from 10-11 this and next Tuesday, December 22 & 29.

(Or another time that works for you, and you'll have to just do it.)

Then schedule an additional hour asap after each session (same or different day is fine) in case you need more time to finish.

Okay, now that your sessions are blocked on your calendar, all you need is a process, and that's what we're doing on these final two free training lives of the year.

We're going to walk through a very clear, step-by-step system to close out 2020 with value and make sure you experience everything you want and need in 2021.

Clarity and a path -- these will make next year not only better than 2020 (yikes, I hope so!), but potentially your best year ever.

This is not a "goal-setting session." This is inner and outer work to actually design the architecture of yourself and your life in 2021 -- what you choose achieve and what you choose experience.

Bring pen and paper and open energy, ready to work and to receive!

Join us Live on Tuesday, December 22 & 29, at 10 am Mountain in our Warrior Life Transformations group:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/WarriorLifeTransformations

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12/07/2020

The effectiveness of this tool is immeasurable.

It only depends on your willingness to take it on and use it full out.

You don't want to miss this one!

Read more in the OP/photo description.

Join Warrior Life Transformations group here:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/WarriorLifeTransformations

This week's free Warrior Life Transformations coaching and training:

POWERLESS / EMPOWERED

The Life-Changing Technique that Will Free You from Victimhood

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This exercise is consistently a favorite among my clients! Why?

Because slipping into the victim cycle hurts you, your life, your family, your work, and your business...

And the Powerless / Empowered exercise EFFECTIVELY transforms you from being a victim of a person or circumstance to being the most POWERFUL, intentional contributor to your own life experiences!

I'm not exaggerating when I say this is LIFE-CHANGING.

Learn it. Use it.

A special guest has volunteered to join me live on video to process a hard situation that was out of her control from earlier this year.

This circumstance still gives her that heart-wrenching gut-punch of being a victim of the wrong that was done to her and the emotional and financial impact it has had on her and her family.

As I take her through the 3-step process of the Powerless / Empowered exercise, you will see how this works in real time with a real experience to heal and move forward!

Join us Live on Tuesday, December 8, at 10 am Mountain in our Warrior Life Transformations group:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/WarriorLifeTransformations

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