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One of the toughest things for most of us to do is to stop ourselves in our tracks before we react to our teens' sassiness, snarkiness or attitude.

But we have to remember that teenagers are notorious for displacing their frustration and anger. And, because we're their "safe zone" and they know we'll love them no matter what, we'll always get the brunt of their most "unlovable" emotions. (Take it as a compliment...)

Before we snap, react, jump in and discipline them (which, let's be honest, is certainly necessary at times when our kids cross the line), we have to ask ourselves a few questions.

Quite often, there's a reason our kids are acting out. Sure, sometimes, it's just plain hormones that are getting the best of them, but quite often, there is an underlying reason that might require a little "digging" on our part.

A mom () shared this amazing advice with me and I asked her if I could share it. It's some of the best advice I've heard.

Before you react, H.A.L.T. ❤

02/10/2022

It's been a while since I posted, so Hello and I hope you are well. Life is kind of like a roller coaster ride lately, but I seemed to have found my balance. Truthfully, I have figured out that watching too much national news, because of Covid and the negative political climate, tends to take me to a place that feels dark and heavy, and I feel out of balance. Using the time I save NOT watching news and other negative media has created more time for the things that make me feel good. Being in nature, and being observant of all things nature, fills me with positivity and hope and reminds me that the sun will always come up, the weather will always change, flowers and trees will always come out of dormancy in spring, clouds will always drift in the sky and the moon and stars are always night time companions. I can feel grounded just knowing I can totally believe in, and rely on, nature, the Universe, God. Every day, I give soooo much gratitude for all the amazing things in my life. Like everyone, I have moments when negativity creeps in. But I have learned that I have a choice how I manage it, and I choose to look to the sky to find the positivity and hope! I hope you will too! Have a positive day!!!

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06/29/2020

Hello friends! I have been absent for a while from my JSC page. So it is time to catch up!

This Covid situation just keeps dragging on. I am 65 years old and have a few health issues that make me at risk. I am spending a great deal of time at the farm planting flowers, treating the deck, and revitalizing an amazing place that had grown tired with age. My mother loves plants and gardening as much as I do, but she has grown unable to keep up with the care of these precious friends. She is no longer living on the farm and chose in February to start her next chapter in an assisted living home that she loves! She will certainly be back to visit and enjoy the product of the hard work and love I have been putting into our family place, when the lockdown is lifted.
I can't wait for her to see the changes. She will be so proud of me and the effort I have exerted to freshen up the place! I am proud of me too! I wasn't sure I had the energy to make my vision come true, but so far I have accomplished everything I set out to do!

My dad who had been suffering from dementia and a very weary body, is now free from the chaos of his mind and limitations of his body. I am quite sure he is back with his parents and siblings who had passed before him. He is eating grandma's fried chicken, arguing and laughing with his sisters, and fishing with my grandpa and my uncle! I must admit that his freedom to fly to Heaven gave me freedom to stop the worrying about him that I had done for quite some time. I feel blessed that he and I had a very open and honest relationship, and we had frequently shared great memories and exchanged "I love you's". I had many times called him my hero, and he had many times humbly denied that of himself. He shared with me the love and pride he had for me and my brother and how grateful he was that he had spent 69 years of marriage with the "love of my life".

I have contemplated a great deal about the values and characteristics I gained from my dad, and there are MANY! The greatest gifts my dad gave to me were the ability to forgive the ones I love, and to love unconditionally. I never doubted, not for one minute, that my dad loved me! I am so grateful for that! His spirit is still with me so strongly that it is like he never left. When I think of him I smile, and I know that he is always walking beside me, lending me some will power to persevere with difficult thoughts and difficult tasks, encouraging me to show up for myself even when it might be easier to just be passive, and smiling and laughing with my kids and grandkids as they experience their wonderful lives.

We will find our way through the maze of the Covid! My mom will get to visit at the farm to see the upgrades and restoration that has been done, and my dad will be my guardian angel and the familiar voice in my ear providing me wisdom and light! It is a beautiful life. I wouldn't trade a minute of it for anything else!