
08/08/2024
🔥 An intense and disproportionate emotional reaction is often a sign of something more deeply rooted from your past...most likely your childhood 🔥
You weren't born with the vocabulary, maturity, or capacity to understand and process your big, wild, crazy, and completely age-appropriate emotions🗣️🎭
You learned by watching how your parents/early caregivers felt and processed (or didn't), their own emotions🔍
You also learned by experiencing how they responded to YOUR big emotions -
👍🏼 The ones that led to comfort, support, nurturing, and encouragement = YES = more please = GOOD
👎🏼 The ones that led them to yell, insult, dismiss, diminish, ignore, or punish you = NO = don't do that again = BAD
It's as simple as that, except it's really not.
You don't automatically grow out of it or magically find your way to the truth🪄🎩
You take it with you into adulthood, futiley and relentlessly trying to squash those thoughts, feelings, emotions, and behaviors that often led to negative consequences when you were a child.
And it reveals itself when you encounter someone or something that triggers you to react in an emotionally intense and often disproportionate way (cue shame spiral...🌀🥺).
So the next time this happens -
🧐 Just notice it - because you will now that you've read this post, I can promise you that😘
💗 Try to give yourself some compassion - because you're NOT bad and it's NOT (nor was it ever) your fault
(If you feel like you can't - imagine the little girl inside of you who's feeling sad, mad, scared, overwhelmed, etc. and try giving HER some compassion)
🤔 With curiosity, ask yourself what you need right now to feel better, calmer, safer, etc., and then try to give yourself whatever the thing is
(Or again - if you feel like you can't - imagine giving it to that little girl inside💞)
Just doing that ☝🏼 is effective and enough.
Want more effective? Cycle through the EFT "Tapping" points while doing so🖐🏼
Want a proven solution that's even MORE effective? Allow me to guide and support you in unpacking and dismantling all the misunderstandings you learned in childhood that have disguised themselves and plagued you in adulthood🫥
They served you well when you were young but they don't anymore.
You can let them go, for good.
Let me show you how💛
XOXO