In My Care

12/27/2023

Merry Christmas to all...

12/27/2023

Sometimes childrens hospital pick ups are often just us and a security guard. We may have a conversation leading to the morgue but almost every time after the baby is under care it’s totally silent. In the rare occasion of seeing visitors or other staff, they see the carrier and usually bow their heads and keep walking.

Yes, it’s sad. Yes, this sucks for everyone. People in mortuary business aren’t exactly cold but it’s easy to hard up to it. For me, I can only harden to a certain point. However only a few cases really impact me. Babies and children I usually cry at some point.. I’m still human. People or last responders doing this work are human. We still have emotions.

Last week there was a 10 month old. Embalmed and casketed. I don’t know exactly why but I lost it. In front of the embalmer. You know what he said? “I know you’re crying because that baby. He was ill, not like most that come through here.” He knows my heart and knows it bothers me. In a odd way it did comfort me that he wasn’t neglected or abused.

We are people too. My empathy can be both a blessing and a curse.

12/24/2023

YES!! 🙌🙌🙌

12/24/2023

Case today; 80M COD failure to thrive and covid. According to his hospice nurse, his wish was to be gone before Christmas to be with his wife and he got it. ❤️💚

12/24/2023

Bobbie Jean Carter; sister to Nick, Aaron, and Leslie Carter.

1/12/1982-12/23/2023

COD- suspected cardiac arrest

This is the third Carter “kid” that’s passed.

12/24/2023

Just a few to share, so many things you can do with recycled flowers…

12/23/2023

Include your pets in your arrangements.. ya know, in case you don’t want certain people to get them.

“What ?! No!!! I said cousin Brenda gets Fifi! Not Uncle Gerald! Over my dead body will FiFi be subjected to Uncle Gerald’s flatulence!”

12/23/2023

As I sit here, in the quiet and darkness that’s illuminated by multi colored lights I can’t help but think of the children that was brought into care this year. 1 I knew. My sister in laws cousin.. we lost him in September. There’s been several babies.. children. A few that stick out in my mind are the ones that should’ve been here for their first Christmas. I can’t imagine that pain and I never want to.

Hug your kids a little tighter. Life is so precious and it can be gone in a blink of an eye.

Capture the innocence and pure joy on their faces this Christmas. Time is a thief.

For the mamas that are preparing or trying to keep it together… I see you. None of this can be easy for you. People… allow grace and don’t ask if they need anything , just do it.

12/22/2023

Spread love and kindness! 🙏🙏🙏

12/22/2023

Absolutely!

Death is a physical, not spiritual separation. There is nothing in your world or mine that can part those whom love has united. Love, like life, is stronger than death. Love, like life, is the spirit, and the spirit cannot be destroyed
Silver Birch