Deanna E. Danielian, SEP, LMFT

01/25/2024

Beautifully explained by Esther

Engaging in eroticism enables us to maintain a sense of aliveness, vibrancy, and vitality. But many of us may wonder, what does eroticism truly mean?

The erotic landscape is vastly larger, richer, and more intricate than the physiology of s*x or any repertoire of s*xual techniques. It’s the unexpected yet welcomed touch on a great first date; it's noticing how late summer rain feels on your skin and inviting your lover outside to experience it with you; it's traveling to a brand new place and experiencing it unfold before you. As Octavio Paz has implied, eroticism is the poetry of the body the way that poetry is the eroticism of language. Eroticism is cultivating pleasure for its own sake.

What are some ways you like to bring eroticism into your life?

For me, eroticism is trying new things, going new places, making new connections. It’s also remembering the ancient things you’ve long forgotten. Prompts from my card game, Where Should We Begin? A Game of Stories guide me to do just that. I invite you to enter into a practice of exploration, curiosity, connection—not just physically, but energetically, emotionally, and psychologically.

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People often ask what is emotional vulnerability.
I found this explanation from Thais Gibson and thought it was excellent:
“Vulnerability (the act of sharing your internal world with another- feelings, needs, desires, fears, goals, etc.) is what turns like into love, it's what turns infatuation into actual love. Without vulnerability, we just fall in love with the image of somebody and that’s not love- that’s excitement that comes with a lot of expectations and challenges. Vulnerability is what breaks down the invisible walls between ourselves and other people.
If you’re not showing up vulnerably, you’re not going to move through the power struggle phase of a relationship because vulnerability is one of the big components of what trust is made up of. Trust is the belief that people will be congruent- that people's words and actions will line up, and that people will take us into consideration. How can anybody take you into consideration if they don't really know the inner you? Then they can’t take into consideration your fears and wounds and sensitivities. You’re gonna constantly feel not taken into consideration by somebody else and that will wear away at trust, when actually the root contributing problem to why trust isn't developing is that you're not opening up and being vulnerable.”