09/24/2025
Attachment is not extra. Itās not a bonus or a parenting style ā itās survival. For a child, feeling securely connected to their caregiver is as essential as the food they eat and the air they breathe.
Because when children feel attached, the world makes sense. They know they are safe, they know they are wanted, and that becomes the soil where everything else can grow.
From that place, confidence takes root. Curiosity blooms. Their hearts learn that love isnāt scarce, so they donāt have to cling or control. They are free to give, because they know they are held.
Love given freely doesnāt make them fragile ā it makes them strong. It teaches them that closeness is safe, that tenderness is not weakness, that giving to others will not leave them empty. The more love they receive, the more love they have to give.
But when attachment is uncertain or withheld, the ground beneath them shifts. A child may grow watchful, questioning their worth. They may cling too tightly out of fear, or harden themselves against disappointment. They may learn to survive, but never fully trust.
And in that survival, something is stolen ā the ease of belonging, the courage to risk, the freedom to rest in themselves. Too much of their energy goes into guarding what should have been a given: the right to feel safe, wanted, and worthy.
Thatās why attachment matters. Itās not about perfect parenting ā itās about presence, attunement, and the quiet promise: you are safe with meā¦
When a child carries that truth inside, it changes not just their childhood, but the way they will move through the rest of their life. ā¤ļø
Quote Credit: Robert Shaw, M.D.ā£ļø
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