04/04/2022
Nanny,
Happy 85th Birthday Beautiful Angel!
Late last night I found myself looking through old photos of you. I kept reminiscing on the days when I had the ability to drive down the road and sit and chat with you. I then ran across a video momma sent me a while back and I couldn’t hold back my tears anymore… hearing your sweet voice absolutely flooded me with every possible memory I can have of you. There is not one day that goes by that I don’t miss you and wish you were still here. I truly miss my best friend, having that one person that I was able to talk to about anything knowing you would never judge me no matter how bad it was… I know I have made mistakes along the way; I went through a massive depression when I lost you, I pushed away friends, family and I became fully independent as to never rely on or get to close to anyone. I have grown a lot since loosing you. I worry I wasn’t there enough for my family when loosing you, fearful that I made choices of independence over compassion during that phase because of how much I was hurting. I am trying to be a better daughter and sister and aunt now, more present in the lives of those who truly love me. I am still trying to find my true happiness every day. I have chosen people in my life that should not have or should not be there because they lack the ability to lift me up, comfort me, be there with and for me, but I have your heart, a BIG one, that makes it nearly impossible to let go of people for fear that I could change their lives for the better in a way others couldn’t, help them find God, help them find happiness, and help them become a better version of themselves.
Over the last few months I have chatted a lot with you. Some people don’t understand that you can talk to a loved one that passed on but talking with you comforts my heart. And I know you hear me but the nights I have felt like crashing, felt like giving up I beg you to comfort me and bring a peace over me and it always happens, it may not be instant but it comes and it lets me know you are there and you are listening. I will never forget a conversation we had before a surgery during your cancer, you said “Do you feel my arms around you? Always know that they are there no matter what, holding you tightly, I am always with you and love you Ashley.” You told me it was good to talk to me and you would think about me the next day before your surgery and I was confused because we were all thinking of you and you said “yes but me thinking of you gives me something good to think about.”
You were selfless, you always put us first, you volunteered to help children facing disabilities and you were known by everyone as Nanny Liz whether they were a stranger or not, because you made everyone feel like family. I just hope you know how much you impacted my life, how much I truly love you and how much I MISS YOU. You were and always will be my hero. I am blessed to have had the years with you I did, honored you were my Nanny Liz, and grateful for everything you ever did for me, from simple conversations to thoughtful Christmas gifts, to late night Lifetime Movie nights in our PJ’s and my favorite- watching So You Think You Can Dance where you always thought Nigel was hot… lol yep I am telling your secrets… have to find a smile through my tears. Nanny please hold me today- I know you never leave my side… we will talk tonight when I say my prayers. I love you Nanny more than you will ever know.
Happy Birthday Beautiful!
I love you oh so much darlin
-Granddaughter Ashley