06/01/2024
You are finally old enough to start making choices for yourself. You are attempting to align your habits and goals around a different pattern than what was set for you. When you fall short of that expectation you are you striving to meet, the story you tell yourself sounds something like "what is wrong with me?" or "how come everyone else seems to be doing this better?".
There is assurance that while there may be areas you can improve, you are likely attempting to accomplish something unrealistic. Healthy, functional individuals and systems are not perfect.
Unhealthy striving, upward comparison, and internal criticism are signs that indicate you are out of your window of tolerance. As you move toward integration, you will be able to set more realistic goals and patterns that actually align with your true self instead of your role self.
