On the Dark Side with Dr. Lu

08/19/2025

🖤☠️Grown Folk Talk from the Dark Side☠️🖤

F**k🖕🏽 what the "followers" think when you're the one leading ‼️

07/27/2025

Dr. Lu approves this message 👌🏼

When we grow up in toxicity, our identity is coming from abusive parents who weaponize shame. ⠀⁠
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Who they said we were as children became our identity - that's scary. We were bad kids...selfish, or wouldn't amount to much, we should be able to figure it all out on our own, - or worse... we were just like our father or our mother. ⁠
They didn’t know us. ⠀⁠
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It's time to drop the identity they gave us. It's bu****it.
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As young children, we didn't know they were narcissists, or had BPD, or had full-blown C-PTSD or something else going on. That was beyond our development.
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If you're like me, I had to just buy what they were selling.
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We didn't have the power to challenge how they saw us. We fought it at times, but had no help. We gave up and became depressed and, like me - started to cope somehow.⠀⁠
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We had to see them right about us because, as my mentor
Amanda Curtin LICSW says, "They had all the power."⠀⁠
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So!⠀⁠
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The toxic boss/ sibling / boyfriend/ girlfriend doesn't have a leg to stand on to tell you who you are, but it's super familiar, right? You were set up. ⠀⁠
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Some journaling prompts:⁠
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1) Do you or have you let toxic people define you for lack of your own healthy identity?⠀⁠
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2) In childhood - what was the hypocrisy of your parents in shaming you?⠀(what was their character like)⁠
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3) Write about the things you respect about your own character and start a new rule: “I only take in intimate feedback from people whose character I respect.”

07/25/2025

☠️🖤Pro Tip from the Dark Side🖤☠️

You really want to p**s off a narcissist❓

Say & do absolutely NOTHING🤐 in response to their gas lighting & blame shifting. Just remember that when you set boundaries & they lose control, they will resort to playing the victim...

🤚🏽Don't engage, keep moving forward ⏩ ⏩

07/20/2025

☠️🖤PSA from Dr Lu🖤☠️

It's okay to NOT be okay & when you're ready, it's okay to find someone who can help you find your way out of the Dark Side...

07/14/2025

🖤☠️Dark Side Humor from Dr Lu🖤☠️

Given the current state of America, and its loss of her identity, this seems appropriate

07/13/2025

☠️🖤Grown Folk Talk from Dr Lu🖤☠️

Gen-Xers grew up in a time when all of the family members knew of the depraved and toxic behaviors by certain people related by blood. They were called 'touched', warned to keep your distance, and not be alone with them. Or we were also told to be quiet, stay in our place, and tolerate what they did/said because they were "family". That toxic cycle continues in too many families, and it needs to stop.

Shout out to all of those who actively broke that generational cycle of psychological abuse. It takes courage to recognize that a genetic connection does not equate to family. Family are the people who do NOT hurt you, show up for you, defend you, love you, and are loyal, even when you're not in the room.

06/16/2025

☠️🖤Tales from the Dark Side🖤☠️

Narcissist are p**sed that we keep taking off their masks and revealing the truth. Good. F**k'em ‼️🖕🏽

06/15/2025

06/15/2025

06/07/2025

🖤☠️This message approved by Dr. Lu!☠️🖤

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