01/21/2024
Many of us learned at a young age to repress our emotions. We may have heard similar statements such as "Stop crying!" or "You have nothing to be upset about!"
It comes to no surprise then when children begin to start hiding or suppressing their feelings. They may even feel wrong for experiencing an emotion or think that their feelings are not valid.
When we start the pattern of repressing our emotions, our mental health can be negatively impacted manifesting feelings of anxiety, depression, and increased stress (along with increase in cortisol levels).
This is why regulation of emotions is so important. All emotions: the big ones, the scary ones, and the (what we may feel) are the bad ones. Children need to be validated so that they can become better equipped to handle big emotions, which can impact actions and behaviors.
Sit with your kiddo in their emotion. Name the emotion. Help with calming your kiddo by modeling and practicing deep breaths or talking about the emotion.
After the initial reaction passes, then we as parents can sit with and discuss what triggered the emotion. We can listen, show empathy, and then allow space to calmly discuss their choices.
The first step is allowing kiddos to have ALL their emotions. Then, we can teach them regulation.
Hi! I'm Gina! I'm a therapist who approaches mental health from a whole person perspective including functional and integrative health and wellness. I look at root cause care! I'm here to support adults, teens, kiddos, and couples. I have experience working in school systems, therapeutic day schools, victim advocacy, trauma survivors, client representation in court, and supporting both adults and couples through life transitions and overall systems issues. I have worked extensively with parents going through divorce, including parent coaching and successful coparenting post-divorce. I am currently accepting clients and meeting with parents virtually for parent educator/coach! Feel free to like, share this post and please follow!