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"Your Triggers Are Your Responsibility," And 16 Other Pieces Of Advice From Therapists That Are Hard To Hear — BuzzFeed

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"Your Triggers Are Your Responsibility," And 16 Other Pieces Of Advice From Therapists That Are Hard To Hear — BuzzFeed "You're keeping the peace around you, but what about the peace within you?"

Study discovers a very simple strategy for making tough decisions

Go for it

Study discovers a very simple strategy for making tough decisions "Winners never quit and quitters never win" may actually be awful advice.

You can hear a breakup coming in speech patterns

You can hear a breakup coming in speech patterns.

You can hear a breakup coming in speech patterns Think you can hide your feelings pretty easily?

Here's the No. 1 thing that makes relationships successful, say psychologists who studied 40,000 couples — CNBC

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Here's the No. 1 thing that makes relationships successful, say psychologists who studied 40,000 couples — CNBC Psychologists and relationship experts John and Julie Gottman have studied more than 40,000 couples to identify the secrets to long-lasting marriages. Here is their No. 1 hack for building happy and successful relationships.

Why the pull of addictive cravings is so hard to resist | Aeon Essays

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Why the pull of addictive cravings is so hard to resist | Aeon Essays The neuroscientific picture of addiction overlooks the psychological and social factors that make cravings so hard to resist

The Psychological Mind Tricks That Actually Work

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The Psychological Mind Tricks That Actually Work These "mind tricks" are backed by actual science and research.

Can't Resolve Fights With Your Partner? 'Emotional Flooding' May Be To Blame. — HuffPost

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Can't Resolve Fights With Your Partner? 'Emotional Flooding' May Be To Blame. — HuffPost Left unchecked, "emotional flooding" can wreck a relationship. Here's what therapists say couples can do about it.

People Are Sharing The Most Impactful Thing Their Therapist Ever Told Them, And I'm Writing Each And Every One Of These Down — BuzzFeed

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People Are Sharing The Most Impactful Thing Their Therapist Ever Told Them, And I'm Writing Each And Every One Of These Down — BuzzFeed "Death isn't the only thing you can grieve."

"If You're Walking Outside In The Rain, You're Going To Get Wet" — People Are Sharing The Best Thing Their Therapist Ever Told Them, And It's Some Serious Wisdom — BuzzFeed

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"If You're Walking Outside In The Rain, You're Going To Get Wet" — People Are Sharing The Best Thing Their Therapist Ever Told Them, And It's Some Serious Wisdom — BuzzFeed "Count to five before you respond. This changed my life."

Harvard researcher says the most emotionally intelligent people have these 12 traits. Which do you have?

Harvard researcher says the most emotionally intelligent people have these 12 traits. Which do you have? Emotional intelligence isn't all about being sweet and chipper, says Harvard psychologist and researcher Daniel Goleman. Every moment is an opportunity to strengthen these overlooked skills that will lead you to greater success. So ask yourself: What are your strengths? Where could you use improveme...

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Voices of Healthcare: The Digital Acceleration

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Voices of Healthcare: The Digital Acceleration Voices of Healthcare: The Digital Acceleration

Empathy Is the Superpower You Need

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Empathy Is the Superpower You Need See what others can't.

The Opposite of Toxic Positivity

Tragic Optimism

The Opposite of Toxic Positivity The Atlantic

The Opposite of Toxic Positivity

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The Opposite of Toxic Positivity The Atlantic

The Marriage Lesson That I Learned Too Late

The Dish by the Sink

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The Marriage Lesson That I Learned Too Late The existence of love, trust, respect, and safety in a relationship is often dependent on moments you might write off as petty disagreements.

"Abusive partners tend to follow a cycle that includes being a wonderful partner (at times), being rude or mean (or an as**at), having big outbursts, and making promises that aren't kept to behave in a more pro-social manner."

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"Abusive partners tend to follow a cycle that includes being a wonderful partner (at times), being rude or mean (or an as**at), having big outbursts, and making promises that aren't kept to behave in a more pro-social manner." —u/Sungillee33

33 Incredible Things People Learned In Therapy That They Believe Everyone Should Know

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"I can’t control how other people feel. It’s not my job to keep them happy or satisfied."

"If you take good thoughts with a grain of salt, why not also take the bad with a grain of salt? Hear it, recognize it, and let it leave."

"To not make permanent decisions whilst in a highly emotional state."

"People lie with their words, not their actions."

"Holding grudges and being unforgiving hurts you more than the other person. You can’t experience other people's feelings, so whatever you’re going through in terms of hate or your inability to forgive someone else is purely your own feelings and burden."

"If something goes wrong, it doesn't always have to be somebody's fault."

How your brain copes with grief, and why it takes time to heal

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How your brain copes with grief, and why it takes time to heal Grieving is a form of learning, says a scientist who studies the brain's response to loss. When someone you love dies, you have to learn new rules for navigating the world and your brain has to adapt.

3 Science-Backed Habits of People With Remarkable Mental Focus — Inc.

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3 Science-Backed Habits of People With Remarkable Mental Focus — Inc. According to one leading neuroscientist, our attention lapses so much that we are missing 50 percent of our lives.

Dr. Ron on Twitter

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Dr. Ron on Twitter “People Are Sharing The Subtle Psychological Tricks They Use Every Day And It's Wild - BuzzFeed https://t.co/kTRIPHrZFQ”

Benjamin Franklin on how to be a nice, likable person

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Benjamin Franklin on how to be a nice, likable person Benjamin Franklin wrote essays on a whole range of subjects, but one of his finest was on how to be a nice, likable person. Franklin lists a whole series of common errors people make while in the company of others, like over-talking or storytelling. His simple recipe for being good company is to b.....

The History of Loneliness

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The History of Loneliness Until a century or so ago, almost no one lived alone; now many endure shutdowns and lockdowns on their own. How did modern life get so lonely?

Dr. Ron on Twitter

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Dr. Ron on Twitter “An Ode to Low Expectations - The Atlantic https://t.co/gr064Vr3uD”

What is your ACE score?

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What is your ACE score? Answer these 10 questions from the CDC's Adverse Childhood Experience Study and predict your health risks. What is your ACE score?

Every self-help book ever, boiled down to 11 simple rules — Mashable

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Every self-help book ever, boiled down to 11 simple rules — Mashable The basic advice in hundreds of bestsellers is older than you think.

How People Learn to Become Resilient

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How People Learn to Become Resilient Resilience is a set of skills—and psychologists know how you can learn them.

Dear Therapist’s Guide to Staying Sane During a Pandemic — The Atlantic

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Dear Therapist’s Guide to Staying Sane During a Pandemic — The Atlantic You can let anxiety consume you, or you can feel the fear and also find joy in ordinary life, even now.

One Simple Phrase That Turns Anxiety Into Success

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One Simple Phrase That Turns Anxiety Into Success "Anxious reappraisal” might help change the way your body reacts to nervous energy

How Negativity Can Kill a Relationship

Let it Go

How Negativity Can Kill a Relationship Successful marriages are defined not by improvement, but by avoiding decline.

Dr. Ron on Twitter

Dr. Ron on Twitter “Gratitude Journal: 67 Templates, Ideas, and Apps for Your Diary | https://t.co/RFYzOk6iJx https://t.co/1NthmIApn8”

So You Lied To Your Partner. Now How Do You Tell Them?

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So You Lied To Your Partner. Now How Do You Tell Them? Marriage therapists share how to divulge a falsehood to your partner, whether it's a little white lie or something more serious.

An organism found in dirt may lead to an anxiety vaccine, say scientists

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An organism found in dirt may lead to an anxiety vaccine, say scientists Can dirt help us fight off stress? Groundbreaking new research shows how.

Are You Taking For Granted Or Taking In Gratitude? - TalentCulture

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Are You Taking For Granted Or Taking In Gratitude? - TalentCulture “We often take for granted the very things that most deserve our gratitude.” Cynthia Ozick Your alarm clock goes off. You stretch, prop yourself up and climb out of bed. You walk to the kitchen, pour yourself a cup of coffee and savor the aroma and the jolt it gives you. You then shower, get dre...

John Gottman and Brené Brown on Running Headlong Into Heartbreak

Wholehearted openhearted heartbreak. Insights from 2 renown researchers in Psychology and Sociology:

John Gottman and Brené Brown on Running Headlong Into Heartbreak The Gottmans and Brené Brown give us a map—a macro perspective of the wilderness of our hearts, and the wildness of love.

Facts Aren't Enough: The Psychology Of False Beliefs

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Facts Aren't Enough: The Psychology Of False Beliefs Sometimes when we believe something, we resist data that can change our minds. This week, we look at how we rely on the people we trust to shape what we believe, and why emotions can be more powerful than facts. This episode features new reporting and favorite conversations with neuroscientist Tali....

When you talk about relationships, do you say "I" or "we"? Your choice is revealing, psychology study suggests

When you talk about relationships, do you say "I" or "we"? Your choice is revealing, psychology study suggests Researchers found that those who displayed what they called "anxious and avoidant" attachment styles used the pronoun "I" more often when talking about romantic experiences.

Dear Therapist: I’m Ashamed of How I Treated My Dying Husband

Grief.

Dear Therapist: I’m Ashamed of How I Treated My Dying Husband In his final days, I didn’t show him the love and care he deserved.

Dear Therapist: I Don’t Understand Why My Girlfriend Dumped Me

How to get over a breakup.

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Dear Therapist: I Don’t Understand Why My Girlfriend Dumped Me She said that she loves me but doesn’t want to be with me.