04/02/2026
βTherapy is making people more isolated.β I often hear South Asian folks (especially aunties) say therapy will make people leave their families. That boundaries donβt work because in our communities, showing up unconditionally is what makes someone a good person.
It makes sense where this comes from. In South Asian culture, community, loyalty, and respect for elders shape how we relate to each other. Our decisions are often relational, not just individual. So when therapy invites reflecting on relationships, it can feel like a threat.
Now add another layer: loneliness. An APA report (2025) found over half of adults feel emotionally disconnected, isolated, left out, or lack companionship. And research shows this isnβt just about people βcutting others off.β
Loneliness today is linked to:
- relationships that lack emotional depth, even when people are present
- chronic stress and burnout, leaving little capacity to connect
- social division and mistrust, making it harder to feel safe with others
So no, therapy is not creating loneliness. If anything, itβs responding to it.
Culturally affirming therapy isnβt about:
- cutting people off: itβs about shifting patterns that cause harm, even when theyβre normalized
- becoming reclusive: itβs about building relationships that feel mutual and aligned
- being disrespectful: itβs about developing a voice that holds respect for you and others
Yes, change can feel uncomfortable. But discomfort is not the same as disconnection. Many people have always felt alone in their families, they just didnβt have language for it.
Culturally affirming therapy doesnβt ask you to choose between yourself and your community. It helps you stay connected without disappearing in the process.
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Reference:
https://www.apa.org/pubs/reports/stress-in-america/2025/index.html
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